For the armchair-therapist Dwellars

[limey]

Originally Posted by anonymous

... "Well if I answer this way she'll think X, and if I answer that way she'll think Y, so what's the image I want to portray in this moment?" ...

This may seem glib, and addresses only one point, but why not answer with "the 'true' answer" of what you are actually feeling at that point, rather than analysing what might happen with this or that answer and then picking one? Which, of course, is asking you to give up control. But if you choose to do that, aren't you still in control - choosing not to be?