using Ignore Lists - in real life

Flint · 04-12-2006, 10:28 AM

A device I employ liberally, in real life, is roughly analogous to the Ignore List feature. This is how it works: you speak your mind, without mincing words, without sugar-coating things, without dumbing things down - and those that either don't understand or don't agree with what you are saying will not want to talk to you anymore. They put you on their metaphorical Ignore List - mission accomplished. You save the time you would have spent dealing with them. It's a natural culling process. Everyone benefits.

SteveBsjb · 04-12-2006, 11:01 AM

Darwin would have liked this.

smoothmoniker · 04-12-2006, 11:01 AM

Those who are brutally honest usually like the brutality more than the honesty.

SteveBsjb · 04-12-2006, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by smoothmoniker

Those who are brutally honest usually like the brutality more than the honesty.

Did you coin this phrase?

lumberjim · 04-12-2006, 11:26 AM

bullshit

Happy Monkey · 04-12-2006, 11:27 AM

Sorta sounds like a rationalization for being a jerk...

FallenFairy · 04-12-2006, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Flint

They put you on their metaphorical Ignore List - mission accomplished. You save the time you would have spent dealing with them. It's a natural culling process. Everyone benefits.

wouldn't it be just as easy to walk up to them and say -
"Hey! You suck - don't talk to me anymore"

smoothmoniker · 04-12-2006, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by SteveBsjb

Did you coin this phrase?

I don't think so, but I have no idea where I might have heard it.

Flint · 04-13-2006, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by smoothmoniker

Those who are brutally honest usually like the brutality more than the honesty.

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Originally Posted by lumberjim

bullshit

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Originally Posted by Happy Monkey

Sorta sounds like a rationalization for being a jerk...

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Originally Posted by FallenFairy

wouldn't it be just as easy to walk up to them and say -
"Hey! You suck - don't talk to me anymore"

I don't think y'all are catching the intended spirit of this idea.

Let me give you an example: If someone wants to talk to me about how Toby Keith is a true patriot or that the liberal media conspiracy is undermining the moral fiber of America, I can simply say something about Quantum Physics or whether they prefer Vietnamese cuisine to Thai cuisine. They will probably be either confused or vaguely offended (scenario #1), or maybe they will have some meaningful contribution on the subject (scenario #2). Results:

(scenario #1) Their eyes glaze over and they slowly back away. They go find another neandethal with which they can drink beer and shout profanities.

(scenario #2) We find a middle ground and have a pleasant conversation.

. . . Either way, everyone benefits by being themselves.

Spexxvet · 04-13-2006, 10:42 AM

Hey Flint...do you prefer Thai cuisine or Vietnamese cuisine? :p

PS - do you think you're on a lot of people's "ignore list"?

Flint · 04-13-2006, 11:02 AM

@Spexxvet: I prefer Thai Curry, but Vietneamese Spring Rolls. Have you ever had a Japanese Curry?

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Originally Posted by Spexxvet

do you think you're on a lot of people's "ignore list"?

Maybe so, maybe not. Either way - it's beyond my power to influence the perceptions experienced inside the heads of other people, and I make it a policy not to worry about things I have no control over.

lumberjim · 04-13-2006, 11:03 AM

i said 'bullshit' because i don't think you really do this in real life as you stated.

Flint · 04-13-2006, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Flint

speak your mind, without mincing words, without sugar-coating things, without dumbing things down

@lumberjim: I absolutely do communicate that way. I suggest everybody try it. And, why would I lie about it? Which part of it do you find hard to believe? This is just common sense to me.

dar512 · 04-13-2006, 11:21 AM

I think you have misinterpreted people's reaction. People slowly back away because they assume you are nuts. This is an understandable reaction to a huge non-sequitur.

"So how about that cubs game, Bob?"
Bob replies, "The human head weighs eight pounds, Fred."

I'm sure people are backing slowly away.

Flint · 04-13-2006, 11:25 AM

@dar512: I'm glad they think I'm nuts. I am nuts. If they are nuts too then we will get along famously. If not, well, maybe both of us could find somebody better to talk to.

04-12-2006, 11:01 AM	#3
smoothmoniker to live and die in LA Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 2,090	Those who are brutally honest usually like the brutality more than the honesty. __________________ to live and die in LA

04-12-2006, 11:26 AM	#5
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	bullshit __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

04-12-2006, 11:27 AM	#6
Happy Monkey I think this line's mostly filler. Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: DC Posts: 13,575	Sorta sounds like a rationalization for being a jerk... __________________ _________________ \|...............\| We live in the nick of times. \| Len 17, Wid 3 \| \|_______________\| [pics]

04-13-2006, 10:42 AM	#10
Spexxvet Makes some feel uncomfortable Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 10,346	Hey Flint...do you prefer Thai cuisine or Vietnamese cuisine? :p PS - do you think you're on a lot of people's "ignore list"? __________________ "I'm certainly free, nay compelled, to spread the gospel of Spex. " - xoxoxoBruce

04-13-2006, 11:03 AM	#12
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	i said 'bullshit' because i don't think you really do this in real life as you stated. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

04-12-2006, 10:28 AM	#1
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	using Ignore Lists - in real life A device I employ liberally, in real life, is roughly analogous to the Ignore List feature. This is how it works: you speak your mind, without mincing words, without sugar-coating things, without dumbing things down - and those that either don't understand or don't agree with what you are saying will not want to talk to you anymore. They put you on their metaphorical Ignore List - mission accomplished. You save the time you would have spent dealing with them. It's a natural culling process. Everyone benefits. __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

04-12-2006, 11:01 AM	#2
SteveBsjb Operations Operative Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Moved from Manhattan to Edgewater, NJ. Posts: 713	Darwin would have liked this. __________________ "It's only an internet community."

04-13-2006, 11:21 AM	#14
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	I think you have misinterpreted people's reaction. People slowly back away because they assume you are nuts. This is an understandable reaction to a huge non-sequitur. "So how about that cubs game, Bob?" Bob replies, "The human head weighs eight pounds, Fred." I'm sure people are backing slowly away. __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

04-13-2006, 11:25 AM	#15
Flint Snowflake Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Dystopia Posts: 13,136	@dar512: I'm glad they think I'm nuts. I am nuts. If they are nuts too then we will get along famously. If not, well, maybe both of us could find somebody better to talk to. __________________ **************** There's a level of facility that everyone needs to accomplish, and from there it's a matter of deciding for yourself how important ultra-facility is to your expression. ... I found, like Joseph Campbell said, if you just follow whatever gives you a little joy or excitement or awe, then you're on the right track. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Terry Bozzio**

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