The Double-Standard Rant

[Iggy]

Originally Posted by bluecuracao

The trick is to ask him right as he's leaving the house ("Will you take out the trash on your way out?"). If the trashbag is full the night before, I tie it up and leave it by the door--so if I forget to ask, it's usually noticed and gets taken out anyway.

Well, see, that is the problem. He either goes to work a couple hours before me and I am asleep at the time, or I go to work before him and he is asleep, or he is late for work. He always waits until the very last second to leave for work so if I asked him to take the trash out on his way out he would be late.
And I tried getting the trash ready and by the door. There were three bags of several day old trash by the door and in his way (I put it where you had to basically walk over the trash to get out of the door) and he still didn't take them out.

And I always try to speak calmly and neutrally to him when I want something done. Usually I have to say "I really don't want to have to take out the trash again because it is really heavy and I have been doing most of the cleaning anyway. I would really appreciate it if you took it out for me."
He responds fairly well to that, but like DanaC said, we are all human. I think he just forgets until he is out the door and is running late and then there isn't time.

And Bruce, that is my problem. He said he would so I expect him to. It isn't like I am asking him to read my mind.
That is a pet peeve of mine. If you aren't sure you are going to do something, say you will try. Don't say you will and then not do it.