Divorce - Page 2

glatt · 07-19-2007, 03:44 PM

I'm happy for you.

Are you two planning to sit down and talk about this?

Cicero · 07-19-2007, 04:18 PM

Yep-we are planning to do a lot more talking....all the time. I think that was a major part of it. We don't have a lot of little talks about our relationship and how we are feeling. I don't usually talk about the relationship because I assume it's fine...and I usually don't talk about how I'm feeling because it's so transitory. But maybe those are the ingredients for people to feel connected?

jester · 07-19-2007, 04:25 PM

I'm sorry you had to go thru that - for whatever reason maybe he thought you were losing interest in your marriage, and that by asking you for a divorce, he was forcing you into a position to accept or deny it. Or I could totally be off the mark. Either way, I hope things only get better for you.

(note - i was typing this while you were typing yours - i'm just a little slow trying to type what's going on in my head and making it sound right)

xoxoxoBruce · 07-19-2007, 05:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cicero

I don't usually talk about the relationship because I assume it's fine...and I usually don't talk about how I'm feeling because it's so transitory.

Shit, you sound like a man.

Cicero · 07-20-2007, 01:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Shit, you sound like a man.

Never mind.....I had a long answer for you xoBruce, and one that even included an entertaining little allegory about milk written from 2 different perspectives- but instead I'll just say no- not like a man just someone who likes solutions better than problems.

Better to sound like a man than a goat I guess.....and no I don't hate goats. I love goats. Not too much though. Screw it.

Shawnee123 · 07-20-2007, 01:34 PM

lmao at your goat thingy.

Griff, did you see that? She loves goats, but not too much. (I think goats are cute as hell and if I could adopt that one from the Aflac commercial I would.)

Glad things are going better for you, Cicero!

yesman065 · 07-20-2007, 01:46 PM

"...not like a man just someone who likes solutions better than problems."

Even more like a man with that one. LOL

Cicero, I am so happy to read that things are better and you are gonna talk with him! I had written this long-ass reply to you... Well anyway - goats ARE cute, but the smell - Uggh.

Cicero · 07-20-2007, 05:10 PM

Maybe that's my problem in relationships....no room for 2 men.....

bluecuracao · 07-20-2007, 05:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cicero

It wouldn't be so bad if he weren't so excited about it. Running around like he has a new lease on life....already? Can't he just look grim about things not working out?
WTF?!?

Without knowing the details...maybe jester has something there. He might've been just trying to get a reaction from you, intentionally or not. Sometimes people feel the need to shake things up, for whatever reason.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-20-2007, 06:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cicero

Never mind.....I had a long answer for you xoBruce, and one that even included an entertaining little allegory about milk written from 2 different perspectives- but instead I'll just say no- not like a man just someone who likes solutions better than problems.

Whoa, that was a compliment. You are practical and pragmatic.

Deuce · 08-01-2007, 08:38 PM

I was served today at work as I was leaving the office.

I was served a summons, a petition for dissolution for marriage, an order setting domestic case schedule with children, a note for motion docket --- courthouse, a motion/declaration for ex parte restraining order for order to show cause and motion for temporary order, an ex parte restraining order/order to show cause, a declaration in support of parenting plan, a (petitioner) financial declaration, a sealed financial source document, and a lovely handwritten note on the top saying that she and the boy were going out of town this weekend so I could move out by saturday night, per the court order.

Deuce · 08-01-2007, 08:39 PM

fuck. guess I spoke too soon.

Aliantha · 08-01-2007, 08:42 PM

That must have been tough Deuce. What are you going to do now? I mean seriously, do you have somewhere to stay etc?

Deuce · 08-01-2007, 08:45 PM

Thanks Aliantha. Yes, very tough. I'm still in shock to some extent.

I will be staying at home, despite her scary sounding documents if I have any say in the matter. They are quite scary, I must say. Any restraining order experts in the audience? I'm not one. Yet.

Aliantha · 08-01-2007, 08:47 PM

I"m sorry I can't help you with legal advice mate. Do you have a lawyer? Have you spoken to him/her yet? If not, that'd be the first call I'd be making if I were you.

From what I know, if you stay there in violation of a restraining order, even a temporary one, you could end up in the slammer.

07-20-2007, 01:34 PM	#21
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	lmao at your goat thingy. Griff, did you see that? She loves goats, but not too much. (I think goats are cute as hell and if I could adopt that one from the Aflac commercial I would.) Glad things are going better for you, Cicero! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-01-2007, 08:42 PM	#28
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	That must have been tough Deuce. What are you going to do now? I mean seriously, do you have somewhere to stay etc? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-01-2007, 08:47 PM	#30
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I"m sorry I can't help you with legal advice mate. Do you have a lawyer? Have you spoken to him/her yet? If not, that'd be the first call I'd be making if I were you. From what I know, if you stay there in violation of a restraining order, even a temporary one, you could end up in the slammer. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

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07-19-2007, 03:44 PM	#16
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I'm happy for you. Are you two planning to sit down and talk about this?

07-19-2007, 04:18 PM	#17
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Yep-we are planning to do a lot more talking....all the time. I think that was a major part of it. We don't have a lot of little talks about our relationship and how we are feeling. I don't usually talk about the relationship because I assume it's fine...and I usually don't talk about how I'm feeling because it's so transitory. But maybe those are the ingredients for people to feel connected?

07-19-2007, 04:25 PM	#18
jester why so serious Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,712	I'm sorry you had to go thru that - for whatever reason maybe he thought you were losing interest in your marriage, and that by asking you for a divorce, he was forcing you into a position to accept or deny it. Or I could totally be off the mark. Either way, I hope things only get better for you. (note - i was typing this while you were typing yours - i'm just a little slow trying to type what's going on in my head and making it sound right)

07-20-2007, 01:46 PM	#22
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	"...not like a man just someone who likes solutions better than problems." Even more like a man with that one. LOL Cicero, I am so happy to read that things are better and you are gonna talk with him! I had written this long-ass reply to you... Well anyway - goats ARE cute, but the smell - Uggh.

07-20-2007, 05:10 PM	#23
Cicero Looking forward to open mic night. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: New Mexico Posts: 5,148	Maybe that's my problem in relationships....no room for 2 men.....

08-01-2007, 08:38 PM	#26
Deuce Pesky Pugalist [sp] Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 191	I was served today at work as I was leaving the office. I was served a summons, a petition for dissolution for marriage, an order setting domestic case schedule with children, a note for motion docket --- courthouse, a motion/declaration for ex parte restraining order for order to show cause and motion for temporary order, an ex parte restraining order/order to show cause, a declaration in support of parenting plan, a (petitioner) financial declaration, a sealed financial source document, and a lovely handwritten note on the top saying that she and the boy were going out of town this weekend so I could move out by saturday night, per the court order.

08-01-2007, 08:39 PM	#27
Deuce Pesky Pugalist [sp] Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 191	fuck. guess I spoke too soon.

08-01-2007, 08:45 PM	#29
Deuce Pesky Pugalist [sp] Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 191	Thanks Aliantha. Yes, very tough. I'm still in shock to some extent. I will be staying at home, despite her scary sounding documents if I have any say in the matter. They are quite scary, I must say. Any restraining order experts in the audience? I'm not one. Yet.

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