Who's walking on eggshells now? - Page 3

BigV · 11-07-2012, 06:02 PM

I remember that milestone.

Scary is just one of the feelings I was buffeted by in that storm of emotions. I can't fucking advise you on which way to run or turn to avoid x or y or z. I was opposed to divorce for a LONG time. I sought **marriage** counselors, not *divorce* counseling. I didn't get what I was wanted, but I did get what I needed, to borrow a lyric. It's true, too.

Civility is good, but don't let it inhibit your efforts to protect yourself.

orthodoc · 11-07-2012, 07:09 PM

Great advice. Civility is good, especially where kids are involved. And one person can take the high road even if the other person stops at some point.

But - do protect yourself. Most of us probably wish we'd done a better job. 'Nuff said.

And the emotional storm - I didn't realize it would happen and wasn't well prepared for it; I thought I was totally resolved and didn't expect to feel yanked hither and yon. Knowing about it, preparing for it, is a good thing.

Glad things are calm for now. Get your stuff safe, take care of yourself, be good to yourself. People here have your back.

Big Sarge · 11-12-2012, 06:35 PM

i try to be very nice to my ex, but she sure takes advantage of me. she had me do her front brakes in the parking lot of an auto supply store on friday. i even had to pay for all the parts and have the rotors turned. most of ya'll know the hell i went through when she left me for another soldier while i was in a military hospital. i went 18 months without seeing addie. anyway, by being nice i get to see addie just about anytime i want.

of course i should have known better than try to have a relationship with a girl 26 years younger than me. never again!

footfootfoot · 11-12-2012, 06:57 PM

26 years younger!?

You need to re-read Ortho's advice on that matter. She's a doctor.

Big Sarge · 11-13-2012, 11:25 AM

I know, but little ead was thinking. I had just come back from a pretty rough tour in Iraq and went buck wild in a college town. The only thing I can say in my defense is she had big titties and freckles

BigV · 11-13-2012, 11:40 AM

who needs freckles?

footfootfoot · 11-13-2012, 12:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Big Sarge

I know, but little ead was thinking. I had just come back from a pretty rough tour in Iraq and went buck wild in a college town. The only thing I can say in my defense is she had big titties and freckles

Your honor, we drop our charges.

Big Sarge · 11-13-2012, 01:08 PM

Oh, another negative was I dated her mother in college

glatt · 11-13-2012, 01:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Big Sarge

Oh, another negative was I dated her mother in college

Trilby · 11-13-2012, 02:00 PM

Now this is getting good!

Big Sarge · 11-13-2012, 02:41 PM

ya'll don't remember all of this drama in 2008 and early 2009? i totally spilled my guts. i was hurting so bad. i still haven't recovered

glatt · 11-13-2012, 03:41 PM

Now that you mention it, it does sound familiar. But I don't remember the details. I'm glad you have a good enough relationship with her to be able to go driving trucks through the woods with Addie.

Trilby · 11-14-2012, 05:59 AM

I remember sarge but the fact that she was 26 yrs. your junior and you'd dated her mom slipped by me.

Hey, big guy. It took me 11 (as in eleven) years to get over my ex. But I did. And now I'm glad I'm not in his life anymore. he got weird.

BigV · 11-14-2012, 08:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trilby

snip--

Hey, big guy. It took me 11 (as in eleven) years to get over my ex. But I did. And now I'm glad I'm not in his life anymore. he got weird.

I'm at this stage. It's not gonna take eleven years though. We still have the connection of a minor child, so there's that. Everything else has fallen off to opposite sides of some emotional/social mountain range that lies between our positions. The distance now is amazing.

Big Sarge · 11-14-2012, 01:41 PM

My ex is still a manipulator. She married the other soldier 2 weeks before he deployed. They were divorced 18 months after he got home. Now she calls me to handle all of the "men's work". I play nice because of Addie. Plus, she still has big titties and freckles

11-07-2012, 06:02 PM	#31
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	I remember that milestone. Scary is just one of the feelings I was buffeted by in that storm of emotions. I can't fucking advise you on which way to run or turn to avoid x or y or z. I was opposed to divorce for a LONG time. I sought marriage counselors, not divorce counseling. I didn't get what I was wanted, but I did get what I needed, to borrow a lyric. It's true, too. Civility is good, but don't let it inhibit your efforts to protect yourself. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

11-07-2012, 07:09 PM	#32
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Great advice. Civility is good, especially where kids are involved. And one person can take the high road even if the other person stops at some point. But - do protect yourself. Most of us probably wish we'd done a better job. 'Nuff said. And the emotional storm - I didn't realize it would happen and wasn't well prepared for it; I thought I was totally resolved and didn't expect to feel yanked hither and yon. Knowing about it, preparing for it, is a good thing. Glad things are calm for now. Get your stuff safe, take care of yourself, be good to yourself. People here have your back. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

11-12-2012, 06:35 PM	#33
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	i try to be very nice to my ex, but she sure takes advantage of me. she had me do her front brakes in the parking lot of an auto supply store on friday. i even had to pay for all the parts and have the rotors turned. most of ya'll know the hell i went through when she left me for another soldier while i was in a military hospital. i went 18 months without seeing addie. anyway, by being nice i get to see addie just about anytime i want. of course i should have known better than try to have a relationship with a girl 26 years younger than me. never again! __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

11-12-2012, 06:57 PM	#34
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	26 years younger!? You need to re-read Ortho's advice on that matter. She's a doctor. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

11-13-2012, 11:25 AM	#35
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	I know, but little ead was thinking. I had just come back from a pretty rough tour in Iraq and went buck wild in a college town. The only thing I can say in my defense is she had big titties and freckles __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

11-13-2012, 11:40 AM	#36
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	who needs freckles? __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

11-13-2012, 01:08 PM	#38
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Oh, another negative was I dated her mother in college __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

11-13-2012, 02:00 PM	#40
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Now this is getting good! __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

11-13-2012, 02:41 PM	#41
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	ya'll don't remember all of this drama in 2008 and early 2009? i totally spilled my guts. i was hurting so bad. i still haven't recovered __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

11-13-2012, 03:41 PM	#42
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Now that you mention it, it does sound familiar. But I don't remember the details. I'm glad you have a good enough relationship with her to be able to go driving trucks through the woods with Addie.

11-14-2012, 05:59 AM	#43
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I remember sarge but the fact that she was 26 yrs. your junior and you'd dated her mom slipped by me. Hey, big guy. It took me 11 (as in eleven) years to get over my ex. But I did. And now I'm glad I'm not in his life anymore. he got weird. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

11-14-2012, 01:41 PM	#45
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	My ex is still a manipulator. She married the other soldier 2 weeks before he deployed. They were divorced 18 months after he got home. Now she calls me to handle all of the "men's work". I play nice because of Addie. Plus, she still has big titties and freckles __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode