Who's walking on eggshells now? - Page 5

footfootfoot · 01-07-2013, 09:08 AM

Thanks folks. It feels like I'm crapping a red hot brick.

glatt · 01-07-2013, 09:10 AM

That doesn't sound very good. Sorry, Man.

Undertoad · 01-07-2013, 09:35 AM

It's like, in order to be her partner you were required to twist yourself into different shapes, and now you get to return to your original shape.

My ex was an accountant and would detail expenses down to the penny and everything had to be split equally. She was an ultra hard-ass about it. It could never even be "hey I got it this time you get it next time" because if the next time she had to pay $2 more, she would remember that and get annoyed.

So I twisted into that shape. Then when copacetic Jackie came around, she noticed that I was uptight about splitting things, even a year after the ex was gone.

When you return to your original shape, it feels good.

footfootfoot · 01-07-2013, 12:45 PM

update:

things are heating up. More tomorrow.

glatt · 01-07-2013, 01:21 PM

good luck

classicman · 01-07-2013, 07:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot

It feels like I'm crapping a red hot brick.
update:
things are heating up. More tomorrow.

I found these two posts together rather humorous...

What UT said! He totally nailed it.

Nirvana · 01-08-2013, 04:38 PM

OMG you married your mother!

Now that I have that out of the way I can commiserate. Not that I have anything like your situation i just hate that you are in the one you are in. Stay smart.....

footfootfoot · 01-11-2013, 04:00 PM

Today the inch asked me point blank if mrs. foot and I were getting divorced. I think I did pretty well at not throwing his mom under the bus. I have to keep conscious about that.

It was kind of sad when he suggested ways to prevent his mom from getting angry all the time.

I need a lot more sleep to sort things out.

Also have been listening to "Gone Girl" on audio books. Holy crap.

Chocolatl · 01-11-2013, 04:12 PM

That's tough.

How old are the inch and mm now?

footfootfoot · 01-11-2013, 04:22 PM

9 and 5.5

Aliantha · 01-12-2013, 03:43 AM

When my boys father and I split, they were only little and they didn't seem to be too bothered about us not being together so much. I think largely because it was usually only one or the other of us at home at bed time mostly so there wasn't that adjustment for starters. I think it was easier.

They still asked the same questions though. Just not for a few years, and by then they were used to us not being together anymore anyway.

Clodfobble · 01-12-2013, 07:14 AM

My brother and I were about those ages when our parents got divorced. He was apparently pretty affected by it, though we didn't really know how much until years later, while I genuinely couldn't have cared less one way or the other. It just depends on the kid.

orthodoc · 01-12-2013, 08:19 AM

That's very tough, I'm sorry. Every child reacts differently; sounds like yours are very perceptive and want honesty. Probably a good thing.

jimhelm · 01-12-2013, 04:53 PM

Worst thing I heard from the boy (phone call saying goodnight) about a week after we split...

'I don't get it... Don't you and mommy love each other anymore?'

I died a little.

But kids are v resilient. They will adapt to the new reality faster than either of you adults. Feel for you, bro.

Trilby · 01-13-2013, 10:40 AM

kids are tough and smart and usually play you like a fiddle.

All the world knows I have daddy issues; my 22 year old let me know he has mommie issues because of, yes, moi. okay. So THAT particular pos got handed down.

and the hard core narcissistic mother who let you know you existed to honor and worship her? Yeah, sorry but you married her. S'okay though. I married my dad.

Twice.

Why does life have to suck so hard 90% of the time? and that shimmering 10%----unless you take pics it never happened.

01-07-2013, 09:08 AM	#61
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Thanks folks. It feels like I'm crapping a red hot brick. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

01-07-2013, 12:45 PM	#64
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	update: things are heating up. More tomorrow. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

01-08-2013, 04:38 PM	#67
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	OMG you married your mother! Now that I have that out of the way I can commiserate. Not that I have anything like your situation i just hate that you are in the one you are in. Stay smart..... __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

01-11-2013, 04:00 PM	#68
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Today the inch asked me point blank if mrs. foot and I were getting divorced. I think I did pretty well at not throwing his mom under the bus. I have to keep conscious about that. It was kind of sad when he suggested ways to prevent his mom from getting angry all the time. I need a lot more sleep to sort things out. Also have been listening to "Gone Girl" on audio books. Holy crap. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

01-11-2013, 04:22 PM	#70
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	9 and 5.5 __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

01-07-2013, 09:10 AM	#62
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	That doesn't sound very good. Sorry, Man.

01-07-2013, 09:35 AM	#63
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	It's like, in order to be her partner you were required to twist yourself into different shapes, and now you get to return to your original shape. My ex was an accountant and would detail expenses down to the penny and everything had to be split equally. She was an ultra hard-ass about it. It could never even be "hey I got it this time you get it next time" because if the next time she had to pay $2 more, she would remember that and get annoyed. So I twisted into that shape. Then when copacetic Jackie came around, she noticed that I was uptight about splitting things, even a year after the ex was gone. When you return to your original shape, it feels good.

01-07-2013, 01:21 PM	#65
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	good luck

01-11-2013, 04:12 PM	#69
Chocolatl Glutton for Gluttony Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,409	That's tough. How old are the inch and mm now?

01-12-2013, 03:43 AM	#71
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	When my boys father and I split, they were only little and they didn't seem to be too bothered about us not being together so much. I think largely because it was usually only one or the other of us at home at bed time mostly so there wasn't that adjustment for starters. I think it was easier. They still asked the same questions though. Just not for a few years, and by then they were used to us not being together anymore anyway. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

01-12-2013, 07:14 AM	#72
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	My brother and I were about those ages when our parents got divorced. He was apparently pretty affected by it, though we didn't really know how much until years later, while I genuinely couldn't have cared less one way or the other. It just depends on the kid. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

01-12-2013, 08:19 AM	#73
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	That's very tough, I'm sorry. Every child reacts differently; sounds like yours are very perceptive and want honesty. Probably a good thing. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

01-12-2013, 04:53 PM	#74
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	Worst thing I heard from the boy (phone call saying goodnight) about a week after we split... 'I don't get it... Don't you and mommy love each other anymore?' I died a little. But kids are v resilient. They will adapt to the new reality faster than either of you adults. Feel for you, bro. __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

01-13-2013, 10:40 AM	#75
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	kids are tough and smart and usually play you like a fiddle. All the world knows I have daddy issues; my 22 year old let me know he has mommie issues because of, yes, moi. okay. So THAT particular pos got handed down. and the hard core narcissistic mother who let you know you existed to honor and worship her? Yeah, sorry but you married her. S'okay though. I married my dad. Twice. Why does life have to suck so hard 90% of the time? and that shimmering 10%----unless you take pics it never happened. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

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