The Gender Equality Checkpoint

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Originally Posted by DanaC

One of them makes a lewd suggestion - another says, 'ignore him' and laughingly puts his arm around my shoulders.

This is the thing that is so insidious. The "good guy" wanted to show that he would protect you from the lewd friend. But the way he does it is not to block or intimidate the lewd friend, but rather to use his body language to claim you as his own.

I have had so many problems in my life with so-called nice guys who in the end behaved with no less entitlement than the lewd guys, but they had convinced themselves that rather than "wanting" it, they had "earned" it. At least the lewd guys usually know they're being a jackass.