Please indulge me...

[Griff]

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

And I lost touch with my friend from the other school, and I feel bad asking her because I feel like I'm using people when I ask for a reference...but my gawd I don't have TIME to do anything I should and I feel like a piece of shit.

My guess is that isn't how your request would be received. When someone asks me for a reference, I always feel a little pat on the back like they value my insight into their character.