The Generic Support Group Thread - Page 12

xoxoxoBruce · 01-27-2006, 10:55 AM

Why drive? Post it in the Cellar.

mrnoodle · 01-27-2006, 12:39 PM

Is there a difference between support and validation? Sometimes I get the feeling that people don't want others' insight, they just want to hear that they're right about something.

I quit asking for validation from others directly. My problem is that I still seek it, but now I cloak it in self-deprecation. I say "does this suck?" when the only answer I care to hear is "of course it doesn't suck -- you are awesome".

Praise and derision make me equally uncomfortable, and I don't LIKE to hear either. But I continually seek them out. I crave attention of any kind, whether positive or negative, yet receiving attention makes me squirmy.

wolf, one to admit please.

wolf · 01-27-2006, 01:14 PM

My caveat: "I will support you in whatever you wish to do, or through any problems you are having, however, I do reserve the right to tell you when something is just damn stupid."

Sundae · 02-08-2006, 05:18 AM

Just an update as it's about a month since I first raised these issues.

I've lost 9lbs so far at Weight Watchers. Lots to go, but I seem to be in a routine now and am steadily losing each week.

I fell off the wagon last week when I hurt my leg and got drunk on wine, but apart from that one night I haven't had a drink since 9 January. I gave up drink-fuelled smoking at the same time, so I seem to have cracked the lot all in one go.

I have a lot more money because of this three-pronged attack and am saving for a holiday next year and a suprise party for my Mum's 60th in September.

Needless to say I am feeling much more in control and subsequently happier. Thanks to those who offered support & suggestions - it did help break the cycle.

limey · 02-08-2006, 03:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

Just an update as it's about a month since I first raised these issues.

I've lost 9lbs so far at Weight Watchers. Lots to go, but I seem to be in a routine now and am steadily losing each week.

I fell off the wagon last week when I hurt my leg and got drunk on wine, but apart from that one night I haven't had a drink since 9 January. I gave up drink-fuelled smoking at the same time, so I seem to have cracked the lot all in one go.

I have a lot more money because of this three-pronged attack and am saving for a holiday next year and a suprise party for my Mum's 60th in September.

Needless to say I am feeling much more in control and subsequently happier. Thanks to those who offered support & suggestions - it did help break the cycle.

Well done Sundae Girl! Most impressive is that you didn't let the slip up with the wine convince you that you had failed and you might as well go the whole hog. You saw it for what it was - a temporary lapse. I admire you. Keep it up!

BigV · 02-22-2011, 08:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigV

Fired yesterday afternoon.

Aftershocks to follow.

History has repeated itself.

I am hustling to get my resume ready for primetime. I will post more details as soon as I can. In the meantime, I'm officially the newest and hungriest job-seeker out there.

Sundae · 02-22-2011, 08:53 AM

So sorry to hear that V.
Much support and good thoughts sent your way.

glatt · 02-22-2011, 09:44 AM

Sorry V!

But get back on that horse. You've done it before.

SamIam · 02-22-2011, 01:15 PM

Oh, BigV! That is too bad!

How is the Seattle economy? Whatever it is, I'm sure a guy like you will find another job soon.

jimhelm · 02-22-2011, 01:17 PM

Sorry V

Griff · 02-22-2011, 03:09 PM

Crap! Sorry V.

Shawnee123 · 02-23-2011, 08:02 AM

Well, that sucks. Somedays I have premonitions that I will have the same fate. For all our differences, I truly do wish you the best in this and that you get back up on your feet soon.

What little security we can muster can be so fleeting.

01-27-2006, 10:55 AM	#166
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Why drive? Post it in the Cellar. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

01-27-2006, 12:39 PM	#167
mrnoodle bent Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: under the weather Posts: 2,656	Is there a difference between support and validation? Sometimes I get the feeling that people don't want others' insight, they just want to hear that they're right about something. I quit asking for validation from others directly. My problem is that I still seek it, but now I cloak it in self-deprecation. I say "does this suck?" when the only answer I care to hear is "of course it doesn't suck -- you are awesome". Praise and derision make me equally uncomfortable, and I don't LIKE to hear either. But I continually seek them out. I crave attention of any kind, whether positive or negative, yet receiving attention makes me squirmy. wolf, one to admit please. __________________ Sìn a nall na cuaranan sin. -- Cha mhór is fheairrde thu iad, tha iad coltach ri cat air a dhathadh

01-27-2006, 01:14 PM	#168
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	My caveat: "I will support you in whatever you wish to do, or through any problems you are having, however, I do reserve the right to tell you when something is just damn stupid." __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

02-22-2011, 08:53 AM	#172
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	So sorry to hear that V. Much support and good thoughts sent your way. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

02-22-2011, 01:17 PM	#175
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	Sorry V __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

02-08-2006, 05:18 AM	#169
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Just an update as it's about a month since I first raised these issues. I've lost 9lbs so far at Weight Watchers. Lots to go, but I seem to be in a routine now and am steadily losing each week. I fell off the wagon last week when I hurt my leg and got drunk on wine, but apart from that one night I haven't had a drink since 9 January. I gave up drink-fuelled smoking at the same time, so I seem to have cracked the lot all in one go. I have a lot more money because of this three-pronged attack and am saving for a holiday next year and a suprise party for my Mum's 60th in September. Needless to say I am feeling much more in control and subsequently happier. Thanks to those who offered support & suggestions - it did help break the cycle.

02-22-2011, 09:44 AM	#173
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Sorry V! But get back on that horse. You've done it before.

02-22-2011, 01:15 PM	#174
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	Oh, BigV! That is too bad! How is the Seattle economy? Whatever it is, I'm sure a guy like you will find another job soon.

02-22-2011, 03:09 PM	#176
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Crap! Sorry V. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

02-23-2011, 08:02 AM	#177
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Well, that sucks. Somedays I have premonitions that I will have the same fate. For all our differences, I truly do wish you the best in this and that you get back up on your feet soon. What little security we can muster can be so fleeting. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

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