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07-02-2006, 01:03 AM
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May Ter Dee
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Is it over?
My boyfriend of 10 months has been caught answering personal ads with an invitation to his apartment and a XXX pic. Keep him and forgive or cut my losses? Be brutally honest.
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07-02-2006, 01:17 AM
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The future is unwritten
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Welcome to the Cellar, anonymousfornow.
 Cut your losses...run like hell.
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07-02-2006, 01:21 AM
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May Ter Dee
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07-02-2006, 01:59 AM
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red-shirt guy
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Colorado
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I second Bruce. And you have my sympathy.
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07-02-2006, 03:40 AM
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Encroaching on your decrees
Join Date: Feb 2004
Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland
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Lose the boyfriend. Take some time to be with yourself. Welcome to the cellar
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07-02-2006, 05:17 AM
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Bitchy Little Brat
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Queensland, Australia
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I'm with the others, lose him!
Sorry you have to go through this though....and welcome 
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07-02-2006, 06:16 AM
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Operations Operative
Join Date: May 2002
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magick to kill him i hope.
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07-02-2006, 07:44 AM
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May Ter Dee
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07-02-2006, 10:49 AM
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Encroaching on your decrees
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Good luck.
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07-02-2006, 11:18 AM
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I'd at least ask what it was he wasn't getting from you, why he wasn't comfortable bringing it up with you and go from there.
If you are so inclined, break it off but I'd at least try to find out what was going on. Not that the answer will make you feel any better but the info may prove useful. Without knowing more about you two, I can't advocate a course of action.
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07-02-2006, 11:51 AM
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Slattern of the Swail
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What he wasn't 'getting' from her was a variety of pussy-experiences as she only has the one. Lose him, my dear. The sooner, the better. A guy who does this will KEEP doing it. I know how you feel and you have my sympathy.
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07-02-2006, 11:58 AM
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May Ter Dee
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07-02-2006, 12:04 PM
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Slattern of the Swail
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Men like 'plenty' but they like 'plenty of DIFFERENT' even more. What do you love about him? His duplicity? His sneaky-ness? His ability to pose for XXX pix to send to complete strangers? What?
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In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum |
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07-02-2006, 12:14 PM
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May Ter Dee
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07-02-2006, 12:23 PM
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red-shirt guy
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: Colorado
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"I am using all my might to refuse acceptance. I don't want it to be true. I love this man."
*Sigh* I'm telling you now... in my experience, and from what I've seen, you can accept the situation and forgive him, but if you do, you're setting yourself up for a long, painful relationship. He's just going to be more careful in the future. And don't rationalize it. If he knows you're hooked, he's going to try a million different excuses, and you're going to want to believe all of them. It'll seem so easy. But here's the truth. GOOD PEOPLE DON'T DO THIS TO THE PEOPLE THEY LOVE. If there was something intrinsically wrong with the relationship, a man who loves you will probably approach you about it instead of slapping his pic on the net and trolling for sex (at ten months?) Good people cheat too, it's a fact. Anyone can screw up. But this isn't like he got drunk at a party, swapped spit, and things got out of hand. This was calculated. Don't forget it. Just my opinion.
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