Danger Will Robinson! Danger!! - Page 2

Sundae · 08-26-2011, 02:52 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Big Sarge

Ya'll are right. If Sundae lived closer & this wouldn't even be crossing my mind.

Come live with me and be my love
And we will all the pleasures prove...

Then again, that was written from the point of view of a shepherd.
And it may have been addressed to a sheep.

And I may be Lady "Rogue" Singleton.

But then again, I've just been to see Much Ado About Nothing. So I know nothing is impossible. At least if it's nothing you seek.

Sorry - whimsical mood.
You know I'd love to meet you.

But apart from that - what Big V said. Friendly is fine, friendly is great. You have children together. You had a relationship for years. Thatt's really important.

Just be careful of yourself as in look after your feelings. If it turns out she loves you, she can wait a while for you to work things out. It's not all-or-nothing-right-now. At least it shouldn't be. That way madness lies.

I know you've been lonely and I know it's shitty.
I also think you've worked too hard for what you have to let someone else take control. Sergeant!

ZenGum · 08-24-2011, 10:09 PM

I'm late, but ... what everyone else said.

HungLikeJesus · 08-25-2011, 12:31 AM

Before you make up your mind, read Jim's motorcycle thread.

Gravdigr · 08-26-2011, 01:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by HungLikeJesus

Before you make up your mind, read Jim's motorcycle thread.

OMG, I'm stuck in an infinite loop!!!!

HungLikeJesus · 08-26-2011, 01:33 PM

Cross-threading!

wolf · 08-27-2011, 01:07 PM

Go ahead, be friendly, but don't let her move back in.

SamIam · 08-28-2011, 03:07 PM

What they said. Go through the courts and get visitation/custody rights. Otherwise, have NO contact with the Ex. Ex's do not change. They merely try out new disguises.

kerosene · 08-28-2011, 03:20 PM

I'm with the rest. Don't let crazy back in.

Gravdigr · 08-28-2011, 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by SamIam

Ex's do not change. They merely try out new disguises.

That goes into my collection of lore.

ZenGum · 08-28-2011, 11:24 PM

Sarge, the only reason no one has threatened to come over there and slap you up the back of the head is that we know what happened to Belly-Rub Guy.

classicman · 08-28-2011, 11:31 PM

^^^ wut he sed ^^^

Big Sarge · 08-29-2011, 02:37 AM

thanks guys. i'm trying to be strong. i do have my visitation rights after that long custody battle.

limey · 08-29-2011, 04:22 AM

Keep those visitation rights safe by not making things complicated with the Ex. What if you get close again and she decides you've done something craaazay and takes you to court again?

classicman · 08-29-2011, 11:31 AM

Stay away... If things turn bad and become a he said-she said, you may jeopardize your visitation.

Sundae · 08-30-2011, 02:26 PM

Just to reiterate what I'm saying - I'm not saying stay away, or she's a witch, or get rid.
It's easy to judge people I don't know, and you admit you put at least some pressure on the relationship in the past.

I've read posts from more than one Dwellar in a bad situation; things go from tricky to absolute FUCK as soon as lawyers become involved, and they get involved at a very early stage in the US.

I'm saying take it slowly.
I experienced love past the rollercoaster hormonal stage once in my life.
In the end I honestly believed it wouldn't work and I'm still 85% sure of that, because he was a wonderful man I just didn't find physically attaractive.
My regret at marrying him haunts my dreams.
I did the right thing, but I still suffer now wondering if I could have faked enough to make it work.

What a shitty thing to do to a man.
But he'd have accepted it at the time.

I'm not saying give her another chance.
I'm just saying you shared a hell of a lot, and will always be connected via your children.
Be open to giving yourself another chance.

08-24-2011, 10:09 PM	#2
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	I'm late, but ... what everyone else said. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

08-25-2011, 12:31 AM	#3
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	Before you make up your mind, read Jim's motorcycle thread. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

08-26-2011, 01:33 PM	#5
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	Cross-threading! __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

08-27-2011, 01:07 PM	#6
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Go ahead, be friendly, but don't let her move back in. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

08-28-2011, 11:24 PM	#10
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Sarge, the only reason no one has threatened to come over there and slap you up the back of the head is that we know what happened to Belly-Rub Guy. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

08-28-2011, 03:07 PM	#7
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	What they said. Go through the courts and get visitation/custody rights. Otherwise, have NO contact with the Ex. Ex's do not change. They merely try out new disguises.

08-28-2011, 03:20 PM	#8
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	I'm with the rest. Don't let crazy back in.

08-28-2011, 11:31 PM	#11
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	^^^ wut he sed ^^^ __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

08-29-2011, 02:37 AM	#12
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	thanks guys. i'm trying to be strong. i do have my visitation rights after that long custody battle. __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

08-29-2011, 04:22 AM	#13
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Keep those visitation rights safe by not making things complicated with the Ex. What if you get close again and she decides you've done something craaazay and takes you to court again? __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

08-29-2011, 11:31 AM	#14
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Stay away... If things turn bad and become a he said-she said, you may jeopardize your visitation. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

08-30-2011, 02:26 PM	#15
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Just to reiterate what I'm saying - I'm not saying stay away, or she's a witch, or get rid. It's easy to judge people I don't know, and you admit you put at least some pressure on the relationship in the past. I've read posts from more than one Dwellar in a bad situation; things go from tricky to absolute FUCK as soon as lawyers become involved, and they get involved at a very early stage in the US. I'm saying take it slowly. I experienced love past the rollercoaster hormonal stage once in my life. In the end I honestly believed it wouldn't work and I'm still 85% sure of that, because he was a wonderful man I just didn't find physically attaractive. My regret at marrying him haunts my dreams. I did the right thing, but I still suffer now wondering if I could have faked enough to make it work. What a shitty thing to do to a man. But he'd have accepted it at the time. I'm not saying give her another chance. I'm just saying you shared a hell of a lot, and will always be connected via your children. Be open to giving yourself another chance. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

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