Confession Time - Page 21

morethanpretty · 10-19-2011, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by jimhelm

It's a short list, and it really was made quickly and as a joke. I was just trying to help her fit in. She reached out to me when she started to feel excluded, and I was trying to tell her not to take offense or worry overmuch about one persons opinion...

I'm not happy about her bringing it up in public, and using it as bait or leverage, but then again...I did write it and will own up to it. I am still trying to salvage the possibility of being friends with her privately. I love all of you...my cyber family...even the ones on the asshole list. And it's tough to see friends fight with each other. It certainly seems improbable that she will be able to recover gracefully from this bloodbath, but I will still try to help her do that if I can.

Bri, you're not on the list. As I said, the omissions are the worst part of it. I forgot glatt too.

Monster is on all 3 lists. I'm on 2. So please, don't take it seriously.... It was but a jape.

And UT, I can't argue with your point. I really wish I could. I am trying to be more considerate of other people's perspective.... I think life has been bonking me over the head with that lesson lately. My history says that I am what you say, though. Remind me of this post if I should come down hard on a male newb?

Excuse me! Where was I on this list?

infinite monkey · 10-19-2011, 11:45 AM

I am disappoint.

Oh well, as they say...meh.

jimhelm · 10-19-2011, 11:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

I am disappoint.

Oh well, as they say...meh.

I'm sorry

Pico and ME · 10-19-2011, 11:46 AM

Jim, the one flag she didn't show in her signature line was an all red one. But it should be obvious. Be careful.

infinite monkey · 10-19-2011, 11:48 AM

Or he'll throw you under a bus, given the right circumstances.

Kidding. Really, kidding.

Trilby · 10-19-2011, 11:50 AM

so - I'm NOT on the list and she baits me with it?

what does that say about her? IIRC, I was nothing but nice and welcoming to the lady. I thanked her for some interesting posts about new jersey ffs!

I just got fed up when she kept saying she was leaving as we were horrible (for not commenting on her breast cancer thread?) but then she didn't leave which is the hallmark of someone who is ....you know, drama-whoring.

She's probably loving this.

eta - anyway - glad we're friends.

for you.

glatt · 10-19-2011, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Brianna

so - I'm NOT on the list and she baits me with it?

She never did say specifically that you were on "the list." But it's possible you were mentioned elsewhere. She was apparently PMing a lot of people. Including me. But I didn't talk about any of you.

jimhelm · 10-19-2011, 11:55 AM

She didn't say you were on the list. I assumed someone else had talked to her about you privately

infinite monkey · 10-19-2011, 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by jimhelm

She didn't say you were on the list. I assumed someone else had talked to her about you privately

Well that's even better. Join a forum, then immediately start...what? I don't even know what the name for it is.

Jebus Crepes.

infinite monkey · 10-19-2011, 11:55 AM

jim, you don't have to apologize to me. You owe me nothing. Except the friendship and respect that you have spoken of. If it's not there, don't speak of it.

I don't understand it, but I don't love you any less.

Of course, as paranoid as I am, I have all kinds of ideas that hurt about what "list" or lists I was on, but it doesn't really matter. You were working on a goal that I can't fathom. It's not really about any of us on that list (which might even be worse than actually being on a list: not even mattering which list you were on, it only mattered to the person hell bent on destruction and division, thinking she had a secret, that she knows more...though we don't know her "trials and tribulations", her quote, she thinks she knows ours, and "us") it's about something that is not my business: your private life.

But she made it public, and made a lot of people feel badly in the process. What does that tell you?

jimhelm · 10-19-2011, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by infinite monkey

jim, you don't have to apologize to me. You owe me nothing. Except the friendship and respect that you have spoken of. If it's not there, don't speak of it.

I don't understand it, but I don't love you any less.

Of course, as paranoid as I am, I have all kinds of ideas that hurt about what "list" or lists I was on, but it doesn't really matter. You were working on a goal that I can't fathom. It's not really about any of us on that list (which might even be worse than actually being on a list: not even mattering which list you were on, it only mattered to the person hell bent on destruction and division, thinking she had a secret, that she knows more...though we don't know her "trials and tribulations", her quote, she thinks she knows ours, and "us") it's about something that is not my business: your private life.

But she made it public, and made a lot of people feel badly in the process. What does that tell you?

The timing of this is relevant, I think. I wrote that list as a tongue in cheek reassurance that she was doing fine fitting in. Prior to this situation/debacle .... And this has snowballed so quickly.... She's really a very normal and 'similar to us' kind of a person to talk to. Seems to me, she got mad, said something about it, and decided to leave. Now, we all know how hard it is to leave this particular forum .... AND, if you're in the limelight/crosshairs It's clearly much more difficult. Can we just ease up a bit on the name calling and judgement... On both sides of this.... And let her start over if she wants to? Brill, this is a great family, and worth the effort it takes to find your place in it. My word on that.

infinite monkey · 10-19-2011, 12:00 PM

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She never did say specifically that you were on "the list." But it's possible you were mentioned elsewhere. She was apparently PMing a lot of people. Including me. But I didn't talk about any of you.

ffs (not at you glatt, sorry)

If you received a PM from Dis PRIOR to the blow-up, please raise your hand.

I did not.

I suspect you needed to have a penis. I could be wrong.

This is making me ill. What a crock.

glatt · 10-19-2011, 12:03 PM

Oh, no. Mine was post blow-up. She was just answering a question I raised in this thread.

Lamplighter · 10-19-2011, 12:11 PM

My wife's Mom used to put the kids to bed, and say:
"I don't want to hear another peep out of you tonight"

This round (about lists and who made them and who's on it) goes to BD.
She really poked you kids.

PEEP

infinite monkey · 10-19-2011, 12:04 PM

[emilylittella]OK, sorry. Nevermind [/emilylittella]

Imma shut up now. I've said more than enough, as usual.

eta: I'm sorry everyone. I don't help matters.

10-19-2011, 11:46 AM	#4
Pico and ME Are you knock-kneed? Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Middle Hoosierland Posts: 3,549	Jim, the one flag she didn't show in her signature line was an all red one. But it should be obvious. Be careful. __________________ Jesse LaGreca in 2012 “Seven Deadly Sins: Wealth without work, Pleasure without conscience, Science without humanity, Knowledge without character, Politics without principle, Commerce without morality, Worship without sacrifice.” – Mahatma Gandhi

10-19-2011, 11:50 AM	#6
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	so - I'm NOT on the list and she baits me with it? what does that say about her? IIRC, I was nothing but nice and welcoming to the lady. I thanked her for some interesting posts about new jersey ffs! I just got fed up when she kept saying she was leaving as we were horrible (for not commenting on her breast cancer thread?) but then she didn't leave which is the hallmark of someone who is ....you know, drama-whoring. She's probably loving this. eta - anyway - glad we're friends. for you. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-19-2011, 11:55 AM	#8
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	She didn't say you were on the list. I assumed someone else had talked to her about you privately __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

10-19-2011, 11:45 AM	#2
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	I am disappoint. Oh well, as they say...meh.

10-19-2011, 11:48 AM	#5
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Or he'll throw you under a bus, given the right circumstances. Kidding. Really, kidding.

10-19-2011, 12:03 PM	#13
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Oh, no. Mine was post blow-up. She was just answering a question I raised in this thread.

10-19-2011, 12:11 PM	#14
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	My wife's Mom used to put the kids to bed, and say: "I don't want to hear another peep out of you tonight" This round (about lists and who made them and who's on it) goes to BD. She really poked you kids. PEEP

10-19-2011, 12:04 PM	#15
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	[emilylittella]OK, sorry. Nevermind [/emilylittella] Imma shut up now. I've said more than enough, as usual. eta: I'm sorry everyone. I don't help matters.

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