Sundae

[xoxoxoBruce]

Of course, she knows the customs of the natives.

[lumberjim]

The final collage is there in the thread. I'd have to do some digging to find the one of her individually. But I'll do it, if that's what we want to do.

Count me in for anything.

[orthodoc]

Thank you for your guidance on this, limey. I would like to contribute toward a floral arrangement or plant. Is there an address to which a personal note could be sent?

[Elspode]

I agree that Limey would know best how to proceed.

[classicman]

I think a floral arrangement or plant and whatever is left going to her mum is a great idea. She is going through a very difficult time right now and (most likely) will be dealing with the passing of her husband in the very near future as well. Thats the best "charity" we could possibly donate to. In that, I'm with Bruce.
Limey, please let me know where to send my contribution.

[lumberjim]

With respect to funeral expenses... In the UK, is it like it is here? Would she have had some type of insurance in place to cover the expense of the burial? Is she to be buried or cremated?

Wanting to give her mom money is maybe an action that would make us feel better. We're powerless to attempt to console her family because of the distance. Yet we need to do something. Do we need it for her, or for ourselves?

In my estimation, the cellar was Cherrys best friend. Collectively. But for Carruthers, limey and Dana, we are all to remote to attend the funeral, to hug her mum, to cry tears over her grave. It's frustrating. But that's our problem.

Is it possible for one of you that have spoken to her mum to ask what she would allow us to do? I know it's a lot of pressure to represent this community. And I appreciate whatever guidance you can offer.

This sucks so bad

[monster]

Originally Posted by lumberjim

With respect to funeral expenses... In the UK, is it like it is here? Would she have had some type of insurance in place to cover the expense of the burial? Is she to be buried or cremated?

prepaid/insurance highly unlikely. Too young and no income

It's not as expensive, but I see costs have been rising exponentially recently.

Most are cremated these days, unless religious reasons prevent. There is no space for burial

[fargon]

I'm in.

[monster]

OK I finally had an idea

Sundae liked parks and feeding the birds etc. Her mom might be OK with us buying a bench in a public park with a dedication plaque if it was possible. Or in a city center

[xoxoxoBruce]

that's just not how it works

They are indoctrinated with their customs. That's why we threw the tea in the goddamn harbor, and do things our way.

[bbro]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

They are indoctrinated with their customs. That's why we threw the tea in the goddamn harbor, and do things our way.

This isn't about us and making us feel better. It's about making her family feel better. If that means we don't give money, as has been stated multiple times as being unwelcome in the British culture, then we don't.

Why force the issue? Do you really want to make her mum feel even worse?

[lumberjim]

Originally Posted by monster

OK I finally had an idea

Sundae liked parks and feeding the birds etc. Her mom might be OK with us buying a bench in a public park with a dedication plaque if it was possible. Or in a city center

There was a shaded arch of trees she posted pictures of a couple times. Like a path exiting a garden.... I can see it in my mind, but have no idea where to begin searching for those pics.

[Spexxvet]

I'm devastated. She was the perfect woman

[Elspode]

Originally Posted by monster

OK I finally had an idea

Sundae liked parks and feeding the birds etc. Her mom might be OK with us buying a bench in a public park with a dedication plaque if it was possible. Or in a city center

I'm in...but we should still send a plant and a card.

[elSicomoro]

^^^I'm down with this. I'm also down with sending money directly to Limey or one of the other Brits to do what they believe is best in this situation.