Do guys really care about a girls sexual history? - Page 2

DucksNuts · 04-30-2006, 06:21 PM

Some interesting comments.

I get where you are coming from SmoothMoniker, I dont neccessarily agree but I was looking for other views besides my own and it has given me some food for thought.

The double standard thing has always puzzled me, I dont get why women are sluts if they freely admit to liking sex and have had several partners...but men are legends if they shag numerous women....even better if they do a couple in a nite :p

Trilby · 04-30-2006, 02:04 PM

Ya know what? Just lie about it.

xoxoxoBruce · 04-30-2006, 02:19 PM

Some guys want to know if she had sex with someone they know or are likely to meet. You know, just to be prepared for any sniggering or strange comments. It's an ego thing.

lookout123 · 04-30-2006, 04:22 PM

i'm far more interested in finding out how many guys they plan on being with in the near future.

dar512 · 05-01-2006, 04:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brianna

Ya know what? Just lie about it.

Now there's a great way to start a relationship.

Trilby · 05-04-2006, 01:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dar512

Now there's a great way to start a relationship.

My feeling is this: You're obsessed with the number of men/women I've slept with? Go fuck yourself.

Just my feeling on the matter.

dar512 · 05-04-2006, 02:27 PM

Then tell the guy to go fuck himself. At least you're being honest. Don't lie to him.

My comment was about the lying not about whether the number of partners is important. Lying is a surefire way to torpedo a relationship.

xoxoxoBruce · 05-05-2006, 06:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brianna

My feeling is this: You're obsessed with the number of men/women I've slept with? Go fuck yourself.

Just my feeling on the matter.

Could I just hear about the women?

Kagen4o4 · 05-05-2006, 07:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Could I just hear about the women?

and see the pictures?

Kagen4o4 · 04-30-2006, 10:47 PM

i think its different if the girl has had sex with guys she still hangs around and sees a lot then it can be a bit weird. if a girl said to me,
"ive had sex with 20 guys over the passed 3 years, i cant remember their names or faces". id be like "as long as im 21 and theres no 22 until we're through"

Tonchi · 05-01-2006, 12:09 AM

Anybody who would come right out and ask a woman how many men she has been with does not deserve an answer. That should be a huge red flag to you, and you can bet that if you are stupid enough to talk about your history to him, you are going to regret it. Another red flag is if he persists in asking "Am I the best you have ever had?" or "Who was the best lover you ever had?" Lose him, no matter what your answer is you will never hear the end of it.

Of course it is different if you are with your life partner or, at the least, with somebody who knows you so well in every other way and shares himself with you and not just his "free time". When a person has been with you for a while and you have some "history" of your own together, he or she will come to talk with you about past experiences as a matter of course, and it will not be an inquisition. Even then, each person should have the right to their privacy if they choose to invoke the privilege. If you are sleeping with somebody and do not even have a clue whether they did the entire Seventh Fleet, you might have other things to worry about. But otherwise, let it be.

yesman065 · 05-01-2006, 07:45 AM

I agree with Smoothtalker - The circumstances surrounding the situation are as, if not more, important than the number of partners, of course age will also have a major impact. Theres a huge sifference between being 20 and having had 10 partners whereas someone who is 40 with the same number. Then again it is a good indicator of your lifestyle choices. Either way, the past can and usually is a good indicator of the future.

What I'd really like to know is the gender of the past partners

Munchkin · 05-01-2006, 02:57 PM

Im glad my SO has no interest in knowing my number. I dont even know my number, I just know I dont like it. What he does know is that Ive never had more than one partner at a time (meaning I never cheated....), and I was safe, and that I get a clean bill of health every year...

Thats what is important...

I think a lot of women regret their highschool/college days... If I could ignore those days my number would immidiately drop down to 3, including my boyfriend....

Stress Puppy · 05-01-2006, 04:39 PM

Definition of a slut: A woman that fucks everyone.
Definition of a bitch: A woman that fucks everyone but you.

As far as I'm concerned, as long as they are disease free, I'm unconcerned with the number of partners. If anything, maybe they can teach me something.

Iggy · 05-03-2006, 01:44 PM

I have some questions for you all... does someone of the same sex count in your number? And what is a lot of partners for a woman to have? Is it like a ratio, where 10 in 10 years is good, but 10 in 1 year is bad type thing? What is good and bad as far as ratios are concerned?

04-30-2006, 02:04 PM	#2
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Ya know what? Just lie about it. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

04-30-2006, 02:19 PM	#3
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Some guys want to know if she had sex with someone they know or are likely to meet. You know, just to be prepared for any sniggering or strange comments. It's an ego thing. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

05-04-2006, 02:27 PM	#7
dar512 dar512 is now Pete Zicato Join Date: May 2003 Location: Chicago suburb Posts: 4,968	Then tell the guy to go fuck himself. At least you're being honest. Don't lie to him. My comment was about the lying not about whether the number of partners is important. Lying is a surefire way to torpedo a relationship. __________________ "Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain." -- Friedrich Schiller

04-30-2006, 10:47 PM	#10
Kagen4o4 The Sheriff of Nothingland Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Melbourne, Aus Posts: 1,794	i think its different if the girl has had sex with guys she still hangs around and sees a lot then it can be a bit weird. if a girl said to me, "ive had sex with 20 guys over the passed 3 years, i cant remember their names or faces". id be like "as long as im 21 and theres no 22 until we're through" __________________ something we both can enjoy??

05-01-2006, 12:09 AM	#11
Tonchi Victim of gravity Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Hiding in plain sight Posts: 1,412	Anybody who would come right out and ask a woman how many men she has been with does not deserve an answer. That should be a huge red flag to you, and you can bet that if you are stupid enough to talk about your history to him, you are going to regret it. Another red flag is if he persists in asking "Am I the best you have ever had?" or "Who was the best lover you ever had?" Lose him, no matter what your answer is you will never hear the end of it. Of course it is different if you are with your life partner or, at the least, with somebody who knows you so well in every other way and shares himself with you and not just his "free time". When a person has been with you for a while and you have some "history" of your own together, he or she will come to talk with you about past experiences as a matter of course, and it will not be an inquisition. Even then, each person should have the right to their privacy if they choose to invoke the privilege. If you are sleeping with somebody and do not even have a clue whether they did the entire Seventh Fleet, you might have other things to worry about. But otherwise, let it be. __________________ Everything you've ever heard about Fresno is true.

04-30-2006, 06:21 PM	#1
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Some interesting comments. I get where you are coming from SmoothMoniker, I dont neccessarily agree but I was looking for other views besides my own and it has given me some food for thought. The double standard thing has always puzzled me, I dont get why women are sluts if they freely admit to liking sex and have had several partners...but men are legends if they shag numerous women....even better if they do a couple in a nite :p

04-30-2006, 04:22 PM	#4
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	i'm far more interested in finding out how many guys they plan on being with in the near future.

05-01-2006, 07:45 AM	#12
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	I agree with Smoothtalker - The circumstances surrounding the situation are as, if not more, important than the number of partners, of course age will also have a major impact. Theres a huge sifference between being 20 and having had 10 partners whereas someone who is 40 with the same number. Then again it is a good indicator of your lifestyle choices. Either way, the past can and usually is a good indicator of the future. What I'd really like to know is the gender of the past partners

05-01-2006, 02:57 PM	#13
Munchkin Colloquialist Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: New Jersey Posts: 76	Im glad my SO has no interest in knowing my number. I dont even know my number, I just know I dont like it. What he does know is that Ive never had more than one partner at a time (meaning I never cheated....), and I was safe, and that I get a clean bill of health every year... Thats what is important... I think a lot of women regret their highschool/college days... If I could ignore those days my number would immidiately drop down to 3, including my boyfriend....

05-01-2006, 04:39 PM	#14
Stress Puppy Elite Elitist Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Fresno, CA Posts: 359	Definition of a slut: A woman that fucks everyone. Definition of a bitch: A woman that fucks everyone but you. As far as I'm concerned, as long as they are disease free, I'm unconcerned with the number of partners. If anything, maybe they can teach me something. __________________ ~Stress Puppy~ Mundus vult decipi, ergo decipiatur

05-03-2006, 01:44 PM	#15
Iggy Back and ready to tart up the place Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 850	I have some questions for you all... does someone of the same sex count in your number? And what is a lot of partners for a woman to have? Is it like a ratio, where 10 in 10 years is good, but 10 in 1 year is bad type thing? What is good and bad as far as ratios are concerned? __________________ Chock-full of naughty goodness.

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