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plthijinx · 12-15-2010, 02:13 PM

thanks shawnee n glatt. it was a royal pain in the ass but i got it done with the help of a buddy i work with. took us about 15 hours to accomplish. aamco wanted 650 bucks just to swap it out. i now know why! lol!

SamIam · 12-15-2010, 02:48 PM

I am very upset about the plan just introduced in Congress to make massive cuts in housing assistance to low income seniors and disabled folks. I fall into both the senior and disabled catagories. If passed, these cuts will throw thousands if not hundreds of thousands onto the streets - me included. There is no way me and others like me will be able to survive being homeless. Merry Christmas from our millionaire congressmen.

jinx · 12-18-2010, 11:19 AM

Yesterday I went to the funeral of my father's 11 year old god-daughter, who was accidentally shot by her brother. Later in the day I was informed that my father has been telling people I am dead to him. These 2 things aren't related, and yet I'm struggling to deal with them both today.

Griff · 12-18-2010, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by jinx

Yesterday I went to the funeral of my father's 11 year old god-daughter, who was accidentally shot by her brother. Later in the day I was informed that my father has been telling people I am dead to him. These 2 things aren't related, and yet I'm struggling to deal with them both today.

That is pretty rough jinx. I hope you can figure out a way to connect with your Dad on some level.

SamIam · 12-18-2010, 11:51 AM

So sorry, Jinx. My Mom did the same thing to me and passed on, never having said a word to me for the last 5 years of her life. I hope your Dad will see reason soon.

skysidhe · 12-18-2010, 12:08 PM

damn

Sorry Jinx

Clodfobble · 12-18-2010, 12:21 PM

That sucks, jinx. I'm so sorry.

footfootfoot · 12-18-2010, 01:27 PM

Wow, Jinx, I am so sorry to hear that. That is tragic.

zippyt · 12-18-2010, 02:10 PM

Sorry to hear all this jinx

You've said it before People SUCK !!!

Sundae · 12-18-2010, 02:24 PM

Jinx that is one shitty day.

If what your father says is true then it will hurt terribly.
All I can say is he's stupid and misguided. Unless he found those hobos..?

I'm not a parent, but I'm not much impressed with those that pretend their children are disposable - whatever age. Too many people long for children and family for that to be acceptable.

Sorry you're going through this.

glatt · 12-18-2010, 02:50 PM

I'd say some bad things about your father here, but I'm sure you love him and wouldn't want to read anyone bad mouthing him. It's a terrible situation, and I'm sorry. I hope he comes around.

Did you talk with him at all at the funeral yesterday? Was he normal with you? Or was he the one that told you this?

I'm sorry.

limey · 12-18-2010, 03:18 PM

Jinx, I'm sorry to hear that. It's not good to be estranged from family ...

jinx · 12-18-2010, 03:28 PM

Thanks guys, I really appreciate your help thru this.
My dad and I have never been close. He's always been very self-involved and has hurt me with his dishonesty and selfishness to the point that I created a comfortable distance from him for myself years ago. My sister has always been closer to him, she puts a lot more effort in and takes more crap, but he has included her in his ill will... which hurts just as bad as his feeling towards me.
He wants something from us. Something he is not entitled to and should not have asked for but did anyway. Since we didn't say yes immediately, but were taking time and thinking it all thru together, we're dead to him. I'm just so blown away - even knowing what a shit he is I wasn't prepared for this.
I did see him at the funeral and he was as normal as he ever is - his wife wouldn't make eye contact with my sister or I but I didn't really notice until it was pointed out to me later just because it was such an awful situation to begin with. I thought everyone was just struggling to get thru the event. It's even more upsetting to realize they were able to be petty despite their grief. And now I'm pissed off about it.
And zippy is right on.

kerosene · 12-18-2010, 04:42 PM

I am sorry, jinx. What a dreadful situation. It's rough when family can't seem to be accepting.

xoxoxoBruce · 12-18-2010, 05:00 PM

@Jinx, I'm sorry your Dad has disappointed you, I know the feeling quite well. And the below is not aimed at you specifically, just thinking about Zippy's remark.

Yeah Zippy's right, everyone sucks.
Oh wait, he said people suck.
But that's the same thing, right?

Hmmm, do your children suck?
Then um, some people suck?
It wouldn't be fair to include people that don't suck, because your pissed at people that do suck, would it?

Does somebody suck because they won't treat you the way you want?
Even if the way you want is alien to their values, their way of thinking?
How about if they don't even realize what you want?
Or how about they realize, but disagree that's proper, goes against what they want?

I guess everybody sucks to somebody else, sometimes knowingly because they disagree or don't care, sometimes not knowingly because they have different values, or accidentally because they think differently.

So yeah, we're all guilty... people suck.

12-15-2010, 02:13 PM	#6031
plthijinx Master Dwellar Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 4,197	thanks shawnee n glatt. it was a royal pain in the ass but i got it done with the help of a buddy i work with. took us about 15 hours to accomplish. aamco wanted 650 bucks just to swap it out. i now know why! lol! __________________ For your dreams to come true, you must first have a dream.

12-18-2010, 11:19 AM	#6033
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Yesterday I went to the funeral of my father's 11 year old god-daughter, who was accidentally shot by her brother. Later in the day I was informed that my father has been telling people I am dead to him. These 2 things aren't related, and yet I'm struggling to deal with them both today. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

12-18-2010, 12:21 PM	#6037
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	That sucks, jinx. I'm so sorry. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

12-18-2010, 01:27 PM	#6038
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Wow, Jinx, I am so sorry to hear that. That is tragic. __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

12-18-2010, 02:10 PM	#6039
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Sorry to hear all this jinx You've said it before People SUCK !!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

12-15-2010, 02:48 PM	#6032
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	I am very upset about the plan just introduced in Congress to make massive cuts in housing assistance to low income seniors and disabled folks. I fall into both the senior and disabled catagories. If passed, these cuts will throw thousands if not hundreds of thousands onto the streets - me included. There is no way me and others like me will be able to survive being homeless. Merry Christmas from our millionaire congressmen.

12-18-2010, 11:51 AM	#6035
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	So sorry, Jinx. My Mom did the same thing to me and passed on, never having said a word to me for the last 5 years of her life. I hope your Dad will see reason soon.

12-18-2010, 12:08 PM	#6036
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	damn Sorry Jinx

12-18-2010, 02:24 PM	#6040
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Jinx that is one shitty day. If what your father says is true then it will hurt terribly. All I can say is he's stupid and misguided. Unless he found those hobos..? I'm not a parent, but I'm not much impressed with those that pretend their children are disposable - whatever age. Too many people long for children and family for that to be acceptable. Sorry you're going through this. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

12-18-2010, 02:50 PM	#6041
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I'd say some bad things about your father here, but I'm sure you love him and wouldn't want to read anyone bad mouthing him. It's a terrible situation, and I'm sorry. I hope he comes around. Did you talk with him at all at the funeral yesterday? Was he normal with you? Or was he the one that told you this? I'm sorry.

12-18-2010, 03:18 PM	#6042
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Jinx, I'm sorry to hear that. It's not good to be estranged from family ... __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

12-18-2010, 03:28 PM	#6043
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Thanks guys, I really appreciate your help thru this. My dad and I have never been close. He's always been very self-involved and has hurt me with his dishonesty and selfishness to the point that I created a comfortable distance from him for myself years ago. My sister has always been closer to him, she puts a lot more effort in and takes more crap, but he has included her in his ill will... which hurts just as bad as his feeling towards me. He wants something from us. Something he is not entitled to and should not have asked for but did anyway. Since we didn't say yes immediately, but were taking time and thinking it all thru together, we're dead to him. I'm just so blown away - even knowing what a shit he is I wasn't prepared for this. I did see him at the funeral and he was as normal as he ever is - his wife wouldn't make eye contact with my sister or I but I didn't really notice until it was pointed out to me later just because it was such an awful situation to begin with. I thought everyone was just struggling to get thru the event. It's even more upsetting to realize they were able to be petty despite their grief. And now I'm pissed off about it. And zippy is right on. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

12-18-2010, 04:42 PM	#6044
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	I am sorry, jinx. What a dreadful situation. It's rough when family can't seem to be accepting.

12-18-2010, 05:00 PM	#6045
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	@Jinx, I'm sorry your Dad has disappointed you, I know the feeling quite well. And the below is not aimed at you specifically, just thinking about Zippy's remark. Yeah Zippy's right, everyone sucks. Oh wait, he said people suck. But that's the same thing, right? Hmmm, do your children suck? Then um, some people suck? It wouldn't be fair to include people that don't suck, because your pissed at people that do suck, would it? Does somebody suck because they won't treat you the way you want? Even if the way you want is alien to their values, their way of thinking? How about if they don't even realize what you want? Or how about they realize, but disagree that's proper, goes against what they want? I guess everybody sucks to somebody else, sometimes knowingly because they disagree or don't care, sometimes not knowingly because they have different values, or accidentally because they think differently. So yeah, we're all guilty... people suck. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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