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Shawnee123 · 12-27-2010, 08:41 AM

Jebus H! I'm sorry for that awful drama in your life, SG. It must wear on you terribly.

morethanpretty · 12-27-2010, 08:52 AM

Aww Sundae that's awful. I hope it all calms down soon.

Sundae · 12-27-2010, 09:01 AM

I texted me niece to ask if they were still coming round. Simple question with no side to it. Apparently my BIL is under the weather, so it's cancelled. Not wanting to be paranoid I'll take that at face value.

Mum & Dad came home at 13.15.
I called down because I could hear their cat's tag clicking against her dish, and I had already fed her.
Mia always eats between 12.15-12.45 unless there is some emergency.

So, trying to make light of things I called down, "Oops! That's Mia's second meal!" Trying at least for jovial.
"The plate wasn't down, how were we supposed to know." Delivered in a furious voice(because I'd washed up her dish and put it away).
"Sorry for feeding her then, it's just she always eats at 12.30".
I shouldn't have replied, but there was no further comment anyway.

What sort of petty bitch does she think I am? That I would let an elderly cat wander about without feeding her at her usual time, just because Mum is pissed at me?

So. No resolution soon it seems.

DanaC · 12-27-2010, 09:42 AM

Have you asked them what it is they are angry about? Or rather, what it is you have done to anger them?

Sundae · 12-27-2010, 09:48 AM

That's not the way we play here.
Asking Mum would be deemed confrontation. And that leads to shouting and storming out and silence. Asking Dad would be putting him in an untenable position.

I just have to ride it out, and hope I don't hear anything nasty about myself in the mean time.

DanaC · 12-27-2010, 09:49 AM

Bloody hell. That would drive me totally tonto.

Nirvana · 12-27-2010, 09:50 AM

Awww Sundae walking on eggshells is the worst feeling! I dunno why the holidays turns people into weirdos.

I try to just be nice to the "angries" or stay away from them and decide it really is their problem not mine.

Lamplighter · 12-27-2010, 11:00 AM

SG, if you were to surprise Mom by making her a cup of tea,
or get her a warm blanket when she sits on the couch,
or pick up a blossom for at the florist, or something like that,
I'll bet it would do one of two things:
Either it would break the tension and smooth things out for a while,
Or, it could make Mom so frustrated you'd have the satisfaction of one-ups-manship.
Either way, your own day could be little better

P.S. If it works, don't do too often as Mom will come to expect it,
and get ticked off all over again.

Lamplighter · 12-27-2010, 11:05 AM

Have you noticed:

when women her about a problem they offer sympathy
when men hear about a problem they try to fix it

the former is usually better

skysidhe · 12-27-2010, 11:07 AM

I don't know. I am sort of the latter, and if that didn't work, I would move.

I am not very good with sympathy.

morethanpretty · 12-27-2010, 12:05 PM

For you SG:

skysidhe · 12-27-2010, 01:58 PM

It's not passive aggressive if you are a total suck up and doormat.

I was thinking about that scripture last week, wondering if that's what it meant.

Shawnee123 · 12-27-2010, 07:57 PM

I just found out my dentist passed away. Suddenly, it seems, though I have no idea what happened. He was only a year older than me. He and his staff were wonderful when I went through my 19th Dental Breakdown (2010 Edition.) I really liked him, even though he was a relatively "new" dentist to me. The office was beautiful, full of personal touches like a bird sanctuary type thing you could see from all the chairs (I love birds) and all the ceilings were painted with the sky, but each one different: sort of stormy, clear and sunny, etc.

It happened last week but I didn't look at the online obits when I was off last week. A friend called to tell me: he had found out from his dentist office when he visited recently.

RIP Dr. J.

skysidhe · 12-27-2010, 09:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DanaC

Bloody hell. That would drive me totally tonto.

Tonto? Like the long ranger's tonto? hehe That's a great expression, anyway.

@SG. Sorry about your troubles. I hate that kind of thing. Unless it's a person with a disability,
( because maybe they don't know and start perservating) I prefer just to clear the air and ask straight out what the matter is. Reading what you have said, it doesn't look like that is an option.

ps. poor dentist. I hate to hear when someone unexpectedly passes.

Lamplighter · 12-28-2010, 01:35 PM

Forecast: rain, rain, and rain for the foreseeable future

G-son came over this morning to say there's a water leak coming down his living room wall.
OMG - leak has been there a long time, so we have a mold problem too.

I couldn't find any obvious damage on the roof, so a phone call to our friendly "Bob, the Builder".
"Bob" says he'll be right there to fix it... sometime tomorrow

G-son and landlord are going to have a friendly discussion about reporting problems promptly.

12-27-2010, 08:41 AM	#6061
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Jebus H! I'm sorry for that awful drama in your life, SG. It must wear on you terribly. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

12-27-2010, 08:52 AM	#6062
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	Aww Sundae that's awful. I hope it all calms down soon. __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

12-27-2010, 09:01 AM	#6063
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I texted me niece to ask if they were still coming round. Simple question with no side to it. Apparently my BIL is under the weather, so it's cancelled. Not wanting to be paranoid I'll take that at face value. Mum & Dad came home at 13.15. I called down because I could hear their cat's tag clicking against her dish, and I had already fed her. Mia always eats between 12.15-12.45 unless there is some emergency. So, trying to make light of things I called down, "Oops! That's Mia's second meal!" Trying at least for jovial. "The plate wasn't down, how were we supposed to know." Delivered in a furious voice(because I'd washed up her dish and put it away). "Sorry for feeding her then, it's just she always eats at 12.30". I shouldn't have replied, but there was no further comment anyway. What sort of petty bitch does she think I am? That I would let an elderly cat wander about without feeding her at her usual time, just because Mum is pissed at me? So. No resolution soon it seems. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

12-27-2010, 09:48 AM	#6065
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	That's not the way we play here. Asking Mum would be deemed confrontation. And that leads to shouting and storming out and silence. Asking Dad would be putting him in an untenable position. I just have to ride it out, and hope I don't hear anything nasty about myself in the mean time. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

12-27-2010, 09:50 AM	#6067
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	Awww Sundae walking on eggshells is the worst feeling! I dunno why the holidays turns people into weirdos. I try to just be nice to the "angries" or stay away from them and decide it really is their problem not mine. __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

12-27-2010, 11:00 AM	#6068
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	SG, if you were to surprise Mom by making her a cup of tea, or get her a warm blanket when she sits on the couch, or pick up a blossom for at the florist, or something like that, I'll bet it would do one of two things: Either it would break the tension and smooth things out for a while, Or, it could make Mom so frustrated you'd have the satisfaction of one-ups-manship. Either way, your own day could be little better P.S. If it works, don't do too often as Mom will come to expect it, and get ticked off all over again.

12-27-2010, 11:05 AM	#6069
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	Have you noticed: when women her about a problem they offer sympathy when men hear about a problem they try to fix it the former is usually better

12-27-2010, 11:07 AM	#6070
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	I don't know. I am sort of the latter, and if that didn't work, I would move. I am not very good with sympathy.

12-27-2010, 12:05 PM	#6071
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	For you SG: __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

12-27-2010, 01:58 PM	#6072
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	It's not passive aggressive if you are a total suck up and doormat. I was thinking about that scripture last week, wondering if that's what it meant.

12-27-2010, 07:57 PM	#6073
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I just found out my dentist passed away. Suddenly, it seems, though I have no idea what happened. He was only a year older than me. He and his staff were wonderful when I went through my 19th Dental Breakdown (2010 Edition.) I really liked him, even though he was a relatively "new" dentist to me. The office was beautiful, full of personal touches like a bird sanctuary type thing you could see from all the chairs (I love birds) and all the ceilings were painted with the sky, but each one different: sort of stormy, clear and sunny, etc. It happened last week but I didn't look at the online obits when I was off last week. A friend called to tell me: he had found out from his dentist office when he visited recently. RIP Dr. J. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

12-28-2010, 01:35 PM	#6075
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	Forecast: rain, rain, and rain for the foreseeable future G-son came over this morning to say there's a water leak coming down his living room wall. OMG - leak has been there a long time, so we have a mold problem too. I couldn't find any obvious damage on the roof, so a phone call to our friendly "Bob, the Builder". "Bob" says he'll be right there to fix it... sometime tomorrow G-son and landlord are going to have a friendly discussion about reporting problems promptly.

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