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classicman · 10-29-2011, 09:39 AM

It is really nice to hear that the staff treated you so nicely and were so kind during such a difficult time in your lives. Stark contrast to some things I've heard/read here.
My heart is heavy as I read about this. It reminds me of my grandfathers last days.
(Hugs)

Gravdigr · 10-29-2011, 12:39 PM

Found out in another thread.

Sundae, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather.

As Classic said, it reminds me of when my own grandfather passed.

Sundae · 10-29-2011, 12:59 PM

Thanks Grav - I've now put it in my sig, because I mentioned him across a lot of threads when he was alive, and I know not everyone reads this one.

I'll take it off in a day or so.

zippyt · 10-29-2011, 03:54 PM

Sorry for your loss SG ,
But at least its over ,
I remember waiting for my Mom to pass over , it SUCKED !!!

wolf · 10-29-2011, 06:00 PM

Sundae, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. There's no truly nice way to lose someone, but it sounds like your Grandpa went as peacefully as one can, and you and your family had the opportunity to say goodbye.

Sundae · 10-30-2011, 03:40 AM

Again, thanks to everyone.

My first day in my Sunday job today.
I was awake early even by normal standards, and the clocks went back today.
The 'rents got up at 07.30 (GMT) but I already had some thinking time.

So odd. Like something is over and leaves such a large gap.
But there is still so much to plan and organise. Which is usually only for good things.

Mum went to all the neighbours yesterday (I offered to go or to accompany).
"The Asians" across the close came to visit when Mum was at Mass, with flowers and a card.
We know their names now.

And Mum told Tiger's Grandmother (his father's mother, who used to live next door to my sister - small world).

He was so much a part of my (our) routine.
I feel bloody awful that I am starting a new job today, facing people, smiling, learning, being positive. And he is in a drawer somewhere waiting for his doctor to sign him off.

Not him of course. In my belief, he is simply a corpse. In my Mum's he is with his deceased family.
But it seems to hurt either way.

Funeral next week (ie not this monday to Friday)
I already had dresses earmarked on eBay.
Grandad loved my haircolours in the last few years.
he said I was easy to spot.
As a younger man they would have appalled him - he was so conservative.

Sorry - simply posting what is in my head.

Thanks everyone again.

Aliantha · 10-30-2011, 05:58 AM

All my love to you Sundae. Sorry I'm so late in arriving here, but my heart is with you now. xxx

Trilby · 10-30-2011, 07:30 AM

Oh, Cherry. I am so sorry. Try to take comfort in knowing how much he was loved and cared for by you and your family. He was a special man loved by very special, wonderful people. It doesn't get much better than that.

Hugs, girl. Hugs.

Clodfobble · 10-30-2011, 08:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae

Grandad loved my haircolours in the last few years.
he said I was easy to spot.
As a younger man they would have appalled him - he was so conservative.

This struck me as particularly poignant, not just about your Granddad but of growing old in general. It's a beautiful picture of happy mellowing.

Nirvana · 10-30-2011, 09:59 AM

So sorry to be late on this bit of news. Sundae, I hope you remember your Grandad in the best way. He will always be with you. Peace

plthijinx · 10-30-2011, 02:55 PM

sorry for your loss sundae.

unfortunately i found out early this afternoon that a friend passed away. she was 43. when i moved in with my roommate over 2 years ago that's how i met her. they were dating back then but since had become just friends. she used to drive me nuts sometimes but i loved her for who she was. she was your average happy-go-lucky person that cared for everyone, even strangers and never had any ill will towards anyone or anything for that matter. yesterday according to her mother she drank an entire bottle of vodka without eating anything. so, yes, alcohol was a factor. i'm thinking she knocked her blood sugars way out of whack and went into some sort of hypoglycemic shock. her mother said that she had gotten up around 5 am this morning to use the restroom and had fallen twice trying to get back to the bed. that was the last time she was seen alive. her mom went in to check on her late this morning and found her laying there in bed. only a shell. spirit and soul gone. gonna miss you Michelle.

classicman · 10-30-2011, 03:21 PM

Damn ... Sorry dude. no words..

Sundae · 10-30-2011, 03:24 PM

Mum went to thank "the Asians" today.
Had a cup of tea, and we were all invited over for dinner whenever we wanted to come.
Mum won't. Dad wouldn't be able to understand a word (hearing related). I would!

But apart from our next door neighbours (of nearly 40 years), they are the only family in the close to respond to the news. Of course everyone has been supportive - Mum talks to everyone and they all knew about Grandad even if they didn't know him.

But I'd like to think the 'rents will remember this when their paper fulminates about ALL Muslims wanting Sharia law in the country etc blah etc.
Although the older Dads gets the more I think he would actually appreciate living in a fundamentalist regime. As long as he had freedom of worship he wouldn't even worry which one. As long as people were killed or mutilated for their crimes...

Sorry, off topic.

Today was horrid.
I expected it to be.
Newbie, ignorant, under-trained (as everyone is) AND feeling sorrow.
But it's a job and I am being paid for it.
And Grandad always spoke up for me for that.
When Mum was moaning about me, he always said something along the lines of "Well, she's pulled her weight before" or "She's a hard worker, give her time" or somesuch. And she passed it on to me.

Filthy, that's awful.
It scares me.
It could be me or Bri.
I didn't know you, Michelle, but I know how it happened.

plthijinx · 10-30-2011, 04:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae

Newbie, ignorant, under-trained (as everyone is) AND feeling sorrow.
But it's a job and I am being paid for it.
And Grandad always spoke up for me for that.
When Mum was moaning about me, he always said something along the lines of "Well, she's pulled her weight before" or "She's a hard worker, give her time" or somesuch. And she passed it on to me.

Filthy, that's awful.
It scares me.
It could be me or Bri.
I didn't know you, Michelle, but I know how it happened.

keep up hard work hun. it's rewarding as you know. you'll get to know the ropes and like everyone else do the job. when i started working at my day job, jeeez! the things i didn't know! from a hands on perspective? i thought for sure i'd get fired for breaking a few things accidentally. i saw what i work with and designed what i work with for YEARS but never had to hands on experience with them. now i help train new hires and watch over their shoulders and give them pointers to help them along. i'm the #3 guy to go to now for questions and how to's. some get it, some don't as with any job.

ty about Michelle. it could be anyone. even me. just damn. 43? damn it. not that it's ok if they're 83. sad either way.

DanaC · 10-30-2011, 04:35 PM

That's awful, Filthy. How horribly sad and untimely.

10-29-2011, 09:39 AM	#7276
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	It is really nice to hear that the staff treated you so nicely and were so kind during such a difficult time in your lives. Stark contrast to some things I've heard/read here. My heart is heavy as I read about this. It reminds me of my grandfathers last days. (Hugs) __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-29-2011, 12:39 PM	#7277
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	Found out in another thread. Sundae, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather. As Classic said, it reminds me of when my own grandfather passed. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

10-29-2011, 12:59 PM	#7278
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Thanks Grav - I've now put it in my sig, because I mentioned him across a lot of threads when he was alive, and I know not everyone reads this one. I'll take it off in a day or so. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

10-29-2011, 03:54 PM	#7279
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Sorry for your loss SG , But at least its over , I remember waiting for my Mom to pass over , it SUCKED !!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

10-29-2011, 06:00 PM	#7280
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Sundae, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. There's no truly nice way to lose someone, but it sounds like your Grandpa went as peacefully as one can, and you and your family had the opportunity to say goodbye. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

10-30-2011, 03:40 AM	#7281
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Again, thanks to everyone. My first day in my Sunday job today. I was awake early even by normal standards, and the clocks went back today. The 'rents got up at 07.30 (GMT) but I already had some thinking time. So odd. Like something is over and leaves such a large gap. But there is still so much to plan and organise. Which is usually only for good things. Mum went to all the neighbours yesterday (I offered to go or to accompany). "The Asians" across the close came to visit when Mum was at Mass, with flowers and a card. We know their names now. And Mum told Tiger's Grandmother (his father's mother, who used to live next door to my sister - small world). He was so much a part of my (our) routine. I feel bloody awful that I am starting a new job today, facing people, smiling, learning, being positive. And he is in a drawer somewhere waiting for his doctor to sign him off. Not him of course. In my belief, he is simply a corpse. In my Mum's he is with his deceased family. But it seems to hurt either way. Funeral next week (ie not this monday to Friday) I already had dresses earmarked on eBay. Grandad loved my haircolours in the last few years. he said I was easy to spot. As a younger man they would have appalled him - he was so conservative. Sorry - simply posting what is in my head. Thanks everyone again. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

10-30-2011, 05:58 AM	#7282
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	All my love to you Sundae. Sorry I'm so late in arriving here, but my heart is with you now. xxx __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

10-30-2011, 07:30 AM	#7283
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Oh, Cherry. I am so sorry. Try to take comfort in knowing how much he was loved and cared for by you and your family. He was a special man loved by very special, wonderful people. It doesn't get much better than that. Hugs, girl. Hugs. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

10-30-2011, 09:59 AM	#7285
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	So sorry to be late on this bit of news. Sundae, I hope you remember your Grandad in the best way. He will always be with you. Peace __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

10-30-2011, 02:55 PM	#7286
plthijinx Master Dwellar Join Date: Aug 2003 Posts: 4,197	sorry for your loss sundae. unfortunately i found out early this afternoon that a friend passed away. she was 43. when i moved in with my roommate over 2 years ago that's how i met her. they were dating back then but since had become just friends. she used to drive me nuts sometimes but i loved her for who she was. she was your average happy-go-lucky person that cared for everyone, even strangers and never had any ill will towards anyone or anything for that matter. yesterday according to her mother she drank an entire bottle of vodka without eating anything. so, yes, alcohol was a factor. i'm thinking she knocked her blood sugars way out of whack and went into some sort of hypoglycemic shock. her mother said that she had gotten up around 5 am this morning to use the restroom and had fallen twice trying to get back to the bed. that was the last time she was seen alive. her mom went in to check on her late this morning and found her laying there in bed. only a shell. spirit and soul gone. gonna miss you Michelle. __________________ For your dreams to come true, you must first have a dream.

10-30-2011, 03:21 PM	#7287
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Damn ... Sorry dude. no words.. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

10-30-2011, 03:24 PM	#7288
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Mum went to thank "the Asians" today. Had a cup of tea, and we were all invited over for dinner whenever we wanted to come. Mum won't. Dad wouldn't be able to understand a word (hearing related). I would! But apart from our next door neighbours (of nearly 40 years), they are the only family in the close to respond to the news. Of course everyone has been supportive - Mum talks to everyone and they all knew about Grandad even if they didn't know him. But I'd like to think the 'rents will remember this when their paper fulminates about ALL Muslims wanting Sharia law in the country etc blah etc. Although the older Dads gets the more I think he would actually appreciate living in a fundamentalist regime. As long as he had freedom of worship he wouldn't even worry which one. As long as people were killed or mutilated for their crimes... Sorry, off topic. Today was horrid. I expected it to be. Newbie, ignorant, under-trained (as everyone is) AND feeling sorrow. But it's a job and I am being paid for it. And Grandad always spoke up for me for that. When Mum was moaning about me, he always said something along the lines of "Well, she's pulled her weight before" or "She's a hard worker, give her time" or somesuch. And she passed it on to me. Filthy, that's awful. It scares me. It could be me or Bri. I didn't know you, Michelle, but I know how it happened. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

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