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BigV · 01-31-2012, 12:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by limey

Thank *you*, Pete, for knowing that I really am sorry. Hugs.

**Really?** "You're sorry"? Cause, ew.

glatt · 02-01-2012, 08:11 PM

A friend who has been fighting colon cancer for the last few years is just about at the end of her journey. She'll be leaving behind her two boys, ages 9 and 12. Friends with, and same age as our kids. I've known this is coming for a while, but it still sucks.

Fuck cancer.

Aliantha · 02-01-2012, 08:13 PM

I'm very sorry for you all glatt. It must be so hard for her kids. They're going to need you all so much. xx

zippyt · 02-01-2012, 08:20 PM

fuck cancer

monster · 02-01-2012, 08:27 PM

sorry, glatt, cancer is the nastiest, cruelest thing.

wolf · 02-01-2012, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Pete Zicato

Thanks Limey. That'll teach me to be more careful reading the labels.

There must have been some significant change in labelling laws. You used to be able to count on the artificial sweetener announcement on the front of the label, now it's not only on the back, but buried so far down in the ingredients list that you can't find it, or can't figure out what's what in the list of awful chemicals. I have a similar sensitivity to Nutrasweet/Aspertame, Saccharhin, and Acesulfame K. I can tolerate Splenda/Sucralose and Stevia, but I think they taste funky. I've done the same thing and regretted it for several hours.

Griff · 02-01-2012, 08:54 PM

Sorry glatt.

Clodfobble · 02-01-2012, 08:55 PM

I'm so sorry, glatt. My dad lost his mother to colon cancer when he was 12. Definitely changed his outlook on life. It breaks my heart to think of those two boys.

...He also lost his older brother to colon cancer some 25 years later. This one's highly heritable, I hope the kids remember to start getting regular colonoscopies at 30 so their own kids don't risk going through the same thing.

classicman · 02-01-2012, 09:56 PM

Sorry glatt.

BigV · 02-01-2012, 10:16 PM

fucking fuck cancer

wolf · 02-01-2012, 10:29 PM

fuck cancer

footfootfoot · 02-01-2012, 10:41 PM

FC, G

glatt · 02-02-2012, 08:19 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

My dad lost his mother to colon cancer when he was 12. Definitely changed his outlook on life. It breaks my heart to think of those two boys.

That's been the saddest part of all this. These two boys have changed over the last couple years from being typical silly boys to being way too serious.

Some parts of this I don't understand. She and her husband seemed to have a really solid relationship. Both are a couple of great people. But right after she got the diagnosis, she divorced him. Amicably, apparently. He's still around and they go to things like back to school night together. So they are still somewhat of a team. But I guess she just didn't want to spend her remaining time with him. So the boys are living with her in the family house, and after she dies, they will be with him. I don't know if they will move, or if he will just move back into the house he used to live in. It's all a little weird. So for these boys, there will be that additional change. Basically switching parents. Hopefully they will stay in the same house. There's a huge support network for this family here.

So I don't understand some of her decisions, but I guess having cancer clarifies some things.

Lamplighter · 02-02-2012, 10:11 AM

It could be a financial decision, to protect the family assets from anticipated hospital charges.

classicman · 02-02-2012, 11:42 AM

Perhaps they were having issues and she/he/they decided that was the best thing to do. Sometimes in these situations, the pain and stress of watching those one cares for going through is overwhelming. Perhaps she needed to just focus on her situation and not him. There are many reasons why marriages end after one partner finds out they have a terminal illness. The statistics I've seen on marriages dissolving after a TBI are well over 80%.**
**I don't know how that number transfers to cancer, but I assume it must be similar.

02-01-2012, 08:13 PM	#7518
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I'm very sorry for you all glatt. It must be so hard for her kids. They're going to need you all so much. xx __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

02-01-2012, 08:20 PM	#7519
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	fuck cancer __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

02-01-2012, 08:27 PM	#7520
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	sorry, glatt, cancer is the nastiest, cruelest thing. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-01-2012, 08:54 PM	#7522
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Sorry glatt. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

02-01-2012, 08:55 PM	#7523
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	I'm so sorry, glatt. My dad lost his mother to colon cancer when he was 12. Definitely changed his outlook on life. It breaks my heart to think of those two boys. ...He also lost his older brother to colon cancer some 25 years later. This one's highly heritable, I hope the kids remember to start getting regular colonoscopies at 30 so their own kids don't risk going through the same thing. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

02-01-2012, 08:11 PM	#7517
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	A friend who has been fighting colon cancer for the last few years is just about at the end of her journey. She'll be leaving behind her two boys, ages 9 and 12. Friends with, and same age as our kids. I've known this is coming for a while, but it still sucks. Fuck cancer.

02-01-2012, 09:56 PM	#7524
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Sorry glatt. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

02-01-2012, 10:16 PM	#7525
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	fucking fuck cancer __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

02-01-2012, 10:29 PM	#7526
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	fuck cancer __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

02-01-2012, 10:41 PM	#7527
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	FC, G __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-02-2012, 10:11 AM	#7529
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	It could be a financial decision, to protect the family assets from anticipated hospital charges.

02-02-2012, 11:42 AM	#7530
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Perhaps they were having issues and she/he/they decided that was the best thing to do. Sometimes in these situations, the pain and stress of watching those one cares for going through is overwhelming. Perhaps she needed to just focus on her situation and not him. There are many reasons why marriages end after one partner finds out they have a terminal illness. The statistics I've seen on marriages dissolving after a TBI are well over 80%. I don't know how that number transfers to cancer, but I assume it must be similar. __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

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