May 2006 - WELCOME ALL NEWBIES! - Page 6

MaggieL · 05-06-2006, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Linus

you can create a new persona...

You can pretend to. But you're still who you always were.

Some folks shed their skins frequently to avoid the bad reps they keep accumulating, though.

Linus · 05-06-2006, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by MaggieL

You can pretend to. But you're still who you always were.

Some folks shed their skins frequently to avoid the bad reps they keep accumulating, though.

Touche...

But if you, like me, have multiple personalities and your inner child is a runaway... it makes it that much more plausible.

SteveBsjb · 05-06-2006, 07:34 AM

I want a high-gravity beer!

Pangloss62 · 05-06-2006, 10:38 AM

limey · 05-06-2006, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by SteveBsjb

...[snip] , and enjoy being single. [snip]

[paraphrase=Stevebsjb] But I know I won't meet anyone sitting here in my apt playing games [/paraphrase]

Pangloss62 · 05-06-2006, 02:19 PM

I LOVE being single! When I think back to all the times I was part of "couple," I have to admit that I often would think about how much I wanted to be single. Sex is good, companionship is nicel, no doubt, but there is more to life than that. Whatever happens happens. I'm content with friends, things to do, my job (I'm lucky in that regard). Hey limey! If you're not happy with yourself (as a single), you'll never be happy as part of a couple. I'll admit, however, that "The grass is always greener on the other side." I too wonder if things would be "better" if I were part of a couple; but I see so many couples that look soooooooo bored with each other. They begin to see arguments and petty shit as positive attributes of their relationship. You're better off single (untill you explode!!).

KinkyVixen · 05-08-2006, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Pangloss62

I LOVE being single! When I think back to all the times I was part of "couple," I have to admit that I often would think about how much I wanted to be single. Sex is good, companionship is nicel, no doubt, but there is more to life than that. Whatever happens happens. I'm content with friends, things to do, my job (I'm lucky in that regard). Hey limey! If you're not happy with yourself (as a single), you'll never be happy as part of a couple. I'll admit, however, that "The grass is always greener on the other side." I too wonder if things would be "better" if I were part of a couple; but I see so many couples that look soooooooo bored with each other. They begin to see arguments and petty shit as positive attributes of their relationship. You're better off single (untill you explode!!).

I agree...to an extent. Being single is nice, in a lot of ways. You can do what you want, when you want, and you don't have to run it by anyone else. You can seek out companionship with friends or family when you want it, and when you need it. And, if I was different in my beliefs, I could have sex when I wanted with no strings attached.
I too look at the marriages and relationships all around me and think to myself, "Why woud I ever give up being single to have a marriage like they have. I would have to be crazy!" But then I look at the marriages and I compare myself...and I know that if I ever got in a serious relationship it wouldn't be like theirs for 2 simple reasons. I think the most important one is that I know who I am. I know who and what type of person I am compatible with and I know the type of person I am, and the type of person I can be. I do agree too though, that you have to know how to love yourself, and be happy with yourself before you can expect to love someone else and make them happy.
Secondly, I like to think I'm not exactly typical when it comes to women and the female response about most things...at least, I would say, I'm less typical than most of the women I run across...and the women in the marriages that I compare myself to. And I could be totally wrong about that too. Maybe I have a jacked up sense of reality? I am not saying that I'm perfect or better. You don't even have to know me to know that would be a lie. I guess what I'm saying is that I've learned from my past experiences and the experiences of others around me. I've learned what I will accept and what I expect and for the most part I will stand up for that, as long as I feel that I deserve it. I believe that the road is a two-street, and that it does in fact go both ways.
I would give up the freedom and all of the other "single" stuff, for the butterflies, companionship, conflicts, sex and all of the other things a relationship has to offer, if I had met the right person, and he was available. I've been on both sides of the street and have tested the grass on both sides... as for the sex part, I love sex, but being who I am, and being that I connect sex emotionally, I can't and won't just have sex with anyone just to have sex. It's not good. Sex is one of the most wonderful things in the world when you actually feel for the person you're having sex with.

G. Willaker · 05-08-2006, 12:09 PM

Whats crackin, I just stumbled upon this place. Looks pretty cool.

MaggieL · 05-08-2006, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by KinkyVixen

I've been on both sides of the street and have tested the grass on both sides...

Is there something you're trying to tell us? :-)

Trilby · 05-08-2006, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by MaggieL

Is there something you're trying to tell us? :-)

Perhaps she is merely alluding to the fact that she's tried both home-grown and exotic? Why are you constantly thinking about sex, Maggie?

Pangloss62 · 05-08-2006, 02:07 PM

Gosh, compaitbility is such a strange thing for me. I've found myself with very different people but was still able to be compatible; and I mean VERY different people. And it was not as if I made myself conform to them, I just figured I could never change them and them me. So why stay involved? Why call it off? Good questions. I just don't think the "perfect" woman is out there, so when I see a chance to get closer to one I've met, I give it a shot. I think most relationships have a "shelf life," much like a box of Triscuits, or a dozen eggs. It's like a bell curve diagram. They run a cycle. Knowing how and when to "move on" is the tricky part. I've had 8 committed relationships in my 43 years, and the quickest start to finish was 1 year (and that's because she died). The others ranged from 3 to 11 years.

Sex is indeed another aspect that can not be reduced to a mere physical act, at least for me. And there's probably an evolutionary reason for that. I don't know. The last girlfriend I had was from Brazil. We were together for 4 years. It was a LAT relationship (Live Apart Together). I spent lots of money on travel, but we had lots of fun (and yes, nice sex). She said that if I moved to Sao Paulo, she would still like us to have our own places, and that actually seemed reasonable. I could not move down there for financial reasons (school loans, career, etc.), so we became "just friends," which is not a bad thing. Better than angry and/or sad former "lovers." I'm not a big believer in love anyway. That sounds cold, but I'm a determinist and a materialist, so I have to be honest (at least from now on; I did say "Eu amo voce to my Brazilian girlfriend).

Thanks for chiming in, KV.

Hagar · 05-07-2006, 05:18 AM

G'day all,

Hagar, 32, Male, Sales rep, engaged, from Brisbane, Australia. For the most part, wholly unremarkable!

The handle's an old nickname, 'cause I used to be horrible to the guys I worked for. I've even got the hat to prove it.

Interested in just about everything, but particularly old English cars.

This place seems to be about my speed, mostly because the topics appeal and don't all end in garbled l337 bollocks.

billybob · 05-07-2006, 05:28 AM

Greeting from across the pond, Hagar. Right now I'd rather talk about Brit cars than League....any particular era/marques?

Hagar · 05-07-2006, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by billybob

Greeting from across the pond, Hagar. Right now I'd rather talk about Brit cars than League....any particular era/marques?

Morris Minors at the moment. I'm restoring a 1958 Model. I've previously done a late 50's Land Rover, 1970 Cortina and mucked about with Austin 1800s.

Cyclefrance · 05-07-2006, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Hagar

Morris Minors at the moment. I'm restoring a 1958 Model. I've previously done a late 50's Land Rover, 1970 Cortina and mucked about with Austin 1800s.

That was looking interesting until you mentioned the Austin 1800s....

05-06-2006, 07:34 AM	#3
SteveBsjb Operations Operative Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Moved from Manhattan to Edgewater, NJ. Posts: 713	I want a high-gravity beer! __________________ "It's only an internet community."

05-06-2006, 10:38 AM	#4
Pangloss62 Lecturer Join Date: May 2006 Location: Atlanta Posts: 768	Here you are:

05-06-2006, 02:19 PM	#6
Pangloss62 Lecturer Join Date: May 2006 Location: Atlanta Posts: 768	It's the best of all possible worlds. I LOVE being single! When I think back to all the times I was part of "couple," I have to admit that I often would think about how much I wanted to be single. Sex is good, companionship is nicel, no doubt, but there is more to life than that. Whatever happens happens. I'm content with friends, things to do, my job (I'm lucky in that regard). Hey limey! If you're not happy with yourself (as a single), you'll never be happy as part of a couple. I'll admit, however, that "The grass is always greener on the other side." I too wonder if things would be "better" if I were part of a couple; but I see so many couples that look soooooooo bored with each other. They begin to see arguments and petty shit as positive attributes of their relationship. You're better off single (untill you explode!!). __________________ Things are never as good, or bad, as they seem.

05-08-2006, 02:07 PM	#11
Pangloss62 Lecturer Join Date: May 2006 Location: Atlanta Posts: 768	Single To Left Field! Gosh, compaitbility is such a strange thing for me. I've found myself with very different people but was still able to be compatible; and I mean VERY different people. And it was not as if I made myself conform to them, I just figured I could never change them and them me. So why stay involved? Why call it off? Good questions. I just don't think the "perfect" woman is out there, so when I see a chance to get closer to one I've met, I give it a shot. I think most relationships have a "shelf life," much like a box of Triscuits, or a dozen eggs. It's like a bell curve diagram. They run a cycle. Knowing how and when to "move on" is the tricky part. I've had 8 committed relationships in my 43 years, and the quickest start to finish was 1 year (and that's because she died). The others ranged from 3 to 11 years. Sex is indeed another aspect that can not be reduced to a mere physical act, at least for me. And there's probably an evolutionary reason for that. I don't know. The last girlfriend I had was from Brazil. We were together for 4 years. It was a LAT relationship (Live Apart Together). I spent lots of money on travel, but we had lots of fun (and yes, nice sex). She said that if I moved to Sao Paulo, she would still like us to have our own places, and that actually seemed reasonable. I could not move down there for financial reasons (school loans, career, etc.), so we became "just friends," which is not a bad thing. Better than angry and/or sad former "lovers." I'm not a big believer in love anyway. That sounds cold, but I'm a determinist and a materialist, so I have to be honest (at least from now on; I did say "Eu amo voce to my Brazilian girlfriend). Thanks for chiming in, KV. __________________ Things are never as good, or bad, as they seem.

05-07-2006, 05:28 AM	#13
billybob pseudointellectual antipodean omnivore Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: New Zealand Posts: 91	Greeting from across the pond, Hagar. Right now I'd rather talk about Brit cars than League....any particular era/marques? __________________ This movie is invisible on any computer that is running pirated software

05-08-2006, 12:09 PM	#8
G. Willaker Person Who Has Posted Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2	Whats crackin, I just stumbled upon this place. Looks pretty cool.

05-07-2006, 05:18 AM	#12
Hagar Master of the Domain Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 220	G'day all, Hagar, 32, Male, Sales rep, engaged, from Brisbane, Australia. For the most part, wholly unremarkable! The handle's an old nickname, 'cause I used to be horrible to the guys I worked for. I've even got the hat to prove it. Interested in just about everything, but particularly old English cars. This place seems to be about my speed, mostly because the topics appeal and don't all end in garbled l337 bollocks.

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