What's making you happy today? - Page 627

footfootfoot · 06-28-2013, 02:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

...but our families are supposed to be safety nets, not tripwires.

Yeah, I guess The Gruppenführer (soon to be ex mrs. foot) didn't get that memo. (and her TPS reports need work too.)

BigV · 06-28-2013, 06:58 PM

Scored tickets to see Macklemore!

They sold out in fifteen minutes.

ZenGum · 06-28-2013, 07:35 PM

Um, Sundae ... what Clod said. Double.

BigV · 06-28-2013, 07:47 PM

I thought about making such a comment as Clodfobble and ZenGum made. I feel that way, sure.

But.

Having more first hand experience in my family than I wish I did, I know that it's a losing battle to try to manage the alcoholism of another. The whole fucking deal is one giant slippery slope. "How much compensation is too much or not enough?" etc etc. No matter what amount of work from totally de-alcoholizing my house to buying a pitcher of beer for a shared meal will make fuck-all of a difference should the alcoholic choose to drink.

Sure, there's supportive behavior. There's unsupportive behavior. But the choice to drink or not is at all times in the hands of the individual.

In my opinion, Sundae, you should not drink alcohol. I base my opinion on what you told me about the serious negative effects it has on your health. That's my piece.

Now, if we were having dinner together and you asked me to forgo having a beer with our pizza, I would consider it, and probably grant your request. I might even ask you directly, "do you mind if I have a beer with dinner?". I have done that in the past in similar situations. But I don't want to be implicitly responsible for the your actions.

Sundae · 06-29-2013, 07:31 AM

Oh gosh, I feel a bit sick now.
I don't know whether I'm ashamed for me, or embarrassed for my Mum or just generally guilty.

Sorry.

ZenGum · 06-29-2013, 09:04 AM

please take care of yourself.

footfootfoot · 06-30-2013, 11:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae

Oh gosh, I feel a bit sick now.
I don't know whether I'm ashamed for me, or embarrassed for my Mum or just generally guilty.

Sorry.

You don't owe anyone an apology.

monster · 06-30-2013, 11:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Sundae, you know I love you, but--dammit, woman. I am pretty angry at your mother for enabling you. If you were my daughter, I wouldn't have alcohol in the house, even if it meant I didn't get wine with my occasional pizza. I know you fight your own struggle daily, and you're doing the best you can, but our families are supposed to be safety nets, not tripwires.

Sundae is an adult. She is not her parents' responsibility forever. Hopefully she will outlive them. What then?

WTG on keeping the beer to one and not drinking the wine, S.

Sundae · 07-01-2013, 05:47 AM

Thank you.

We're having my birthday lunch in Wetherspoons today. Maybe a poor choice on Mum's part, but it is the cheapest place to eat in town where you can be sure of the quality.

I've told her I will not have a drink. And I won't.
Like you say, I'm going to have to face these choices all my life.

I have a sneaky suspicion we're going to be using the gift card I got Dad for Father's Day. Bless him, he's not had a chance to use it yet!

Big Sarge · 07-08-2013, 06:33 AM

I received pics & videos of my youngest daughters. I posted them in my summer vacation thread

xoxoxoBruce · 07-08-2013, 09:28 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chocolatl

Both of them are still single and, from a woman's perspective, understandably so.

Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt

Anyway, I'm really happy. Happier than I should be. I mean, our fucking AC is broken. But Joe is on the job!

It's an electro-mechanical device. You know it can be fixed, it's just how long and how much. But having someone fixing it that you trust, is better than the cool side of the pillow.

morethanpretty · 07-11-2013, 01:13 PM

Yesterday Della had a great time playing with a friend's dogs. I've finally found someone to have regular play dates with!

To top it off I've been dating a super sweet guy for a bit and I just made him my boyfriend officially.

All of my docs and family members are amazed at how well I'm doing!

BigV · 07-11-2013, 01:23 PM

Official Boyfriend, that's awesome!

Internet High Five!

Chocolatl · 07-11-2013, 02:09 PM

Sounds like things are looking up for you, MTP! Hooray!

limegreenc · 07-11-2013, 07:17 PM

Balloon festival/concert series in the park starts today-hey a dinosaur just went over my house...aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh

06-28-2013, 06:58 PM	#9392
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Scored tickets to see Macklemore! They sold out in fifteen minutes. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

06-28-2013, 07:35 PM	#9393
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Um, Sundae ... what Clod said. Double. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

06-28-2013, 07:47 PM	#9394
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	I thought about making such a comment as Clodfobble and ZenGum made. I feel that way, sure. But. Having more first hand experience in my family than I wish I did, I know that it's a losing battle to try to manage the alcoholism of another. The whole fucking deal is one giant slippery slope. "How much compensation is too much or not enough?" etc etc. No matter what amount of work from totally de-alcoholizing my house to buying a pitcher of beer for a shared meal will make fuck-all of a difference should the alcoholic choose to drink. Sure, there's supportive behavior. There's unsupportive behavior. But the choice to drink or not is at all times in the hands of the individual. In my opinion, Sundae, you should not drink alcohol. I base my opinion on what you told me about the serious negative effects it has on your health. That's my piece. Now, if we were having dinner together and you asked me to forgo having a beer with our pizza, I would consider it, and probably grant your request. I might even ask you directly, "do you mind if I have a beer with dinner?". I have done that in the past in similar situations. But I don't want to be implicitly responsible for the your actions. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

06-29-2013, 07:31 AM	#9395
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Oh gosh, I feel a bit sick now. I don't know whether I'm ashamed for me, or embarrassed for my Mum or just generally guilty. Sorry. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

06-29-2013, 09:04 AM	#9396
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	please take care of yourself. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

07-01-2013, 05:47 AM	#9399
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Thank you. We're having my birthday lunch in Wetherspoons today. Maybe a poor choice on Mum's part, but it is the cheapest place to eat in town where you can be sure of the quality. I've told her I will not have a drink. And I won't. Like you say, I'm going to have to face these choices all my life. I have a sneaky suspicion we're going to be using the gift card I got Dad for Father's Day. Bless him, he's not had a chance to use it yet! __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

07-08-2013, 06:33 AM	#9400
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	I received pics & videos of my youngest daughters. I posted them in my summer vacation thread __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

07-11-2013, 01:13 PM	#9402
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	Yesterday Della had a great time playing with a friend's dogs. I've finally found someone to have regular play dates with! To top it off I've been dating a super sweet guy for a bit and I just made him my boyfriend officially. All of my docs and family members are amazed at how well I'm doing! __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

07-11-2013, 01:23 PM	#9403
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	Official Boyfriend, that's awesome! Internet High Five! __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

07-11-2013, 02:09 PM	#9404
Chocolatl Glutton for Gluttony Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,409	Sounds like things are looking up for you, MTP! Hooray!

07-11-2013, 07:17 PM	#9405
limegreenc shed door curio Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: Canada Posts: 406	Lift Off in the park Balloon festival/concert series in the park starts today-hey a dinosaur just went over my house...aaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh

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