What's upsetting you today? - Page 697

glatt · 11-02-2015, 12:46 PM

I'm really sorry Sundae.

limey · 11-02-2015, 05:33 PM

Oh Sundae, so so sorry to see this. Big hugs to you xxx

Gravdigr · 11-02-2015, 05:52 PM

Out of an abundance of caution, I'm sure...

Clodfobble · 11-02-2015, 07:27 PM

We're here for you, Sundae. You can type the howl out, if you want to.

monster · 11-02-2015, 10:09 PM

Chemo is unpleasant, but not fatal. it's nothing like the images of our childhoods when it was still in it's early/experimental stages. they have a plethora of anti-nausea drugs and drugs to combat all sorts of side effects. Except the losing your hair. That is often a necessary evil. I am sorry you had thought she would not need it -it's pretty inescapable for stage 3 cancers because that means the cancer has spread outside of the original tumor, so even if they think they got it all with surgery, they can't be certain. It doesn't mean it's worse than they thought. Better chemo now than realizing they missed a bit later. On the plus side, you'll be able to help her shop for scarves etc.

DanaC · 11-03-2015, 04:20 AM

Damn, hon, you're really through the mill right now. Like monster says - better this than not get it all. Sounds like they're really looking after your mum.

Sundae · 11-03-2015, 07:29 AM

I know. It's better to be safe than sorry. It was just a shock.
And I honestly thought I was doing okay with it. Nearly as well as she was. So to get her apology and realise I'd upset her even more (even more than having cancer!) was really awful.

She's still going to try to come up between now and Christmas. Before she starts treatment and gets too ill. It all depends on whether she can get my brother to stay with Dad. She loves Otley, and wants us to go to the places we couldn't because of Dad's poor mobility. Skipton Castle, Hebden Bridge, Ilkley (where there's a branch of Bettys), maybe even meet up and stay together in York instead of Otley. She could only really be away for two nights, so we couldn't do all of that - she gets tired too (she's 69 after all) and forgets that when Dad dozes off after lunch, so does she. But we'd do something fun.

Fingers crossed.
I'm not pushing this at her; it's her idea, her plan. But you bet your brass knockers I'll jump at it. My honest opinion? She's scared that this may be her last chance. Between her own understandable fear at having cancer for the second time, and Dad's dementia, she wants to pack in as much as she can. She's not on the endangered list by any means. But she's facing her own mortality, she's losing her husband and she wants to kick back and have some fun.

Aliantha · 11-04-2015, 11:18 PM

I'm only just now reading about your Mum, Sundae. I had no idea, mostly because I really don't keep up around this place like I used to. Please know that you're all in my thoughts, and give your Mum a hug for me. Do you think she might like some of those christmas treats again this year?

Gravdigr · 11-05-2015, 12:22 AM

My post in the 'Short Films' thread doesn' t meet the The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences' criteria for a short film.

Sundae · 11-05-2015, 04:45 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Do you think she might like some of those christmas treats again this year?

Don't send anything you can't afford. A card would be more than enough - she'll love to know you've thought of her.
I'll PM you their new address.

busterb · 11-05-2015, 09:01 AM

Fing X-mas music already.

Aliantha · 11-05-2015, 06:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae

Don't send anything you can't afford. A card would be more than enough - she'll love to know you've thought of her.
I'll PM you their new address.

I will put a small package together for her. x

Gravdigr · 11-07-2015, 06:11 PM

Goddamned, motherfucking thieves.

monster · 11-07-2015, 07:16 PM

what did they take?

Sundae · 11-08-2015, 07:09 AM

I miss having a cat.

I can't have a cat. Not right now. I know that. My life is too chaotic, my flat is unhygienic and inhospitable, I have rats.
But I feel like the fictional and non-fictional accounts of a woman longing for a baby.

I want the heft of a cat in my arms. I want the feel of the fur. I want the weight against me when I sleep. I want to feel the purr. I even don't mind the Spindly Death Claws, and the games of Mad Cat Scramble and Kamikaze Death Cat (where the belly is offered to be rubbed, but attack can come at any second.)

I miss having a cat in my life so much.
Bawled my eyes out this morning.

Popped them back in to come here though.

11-02-2015, 05:33 PM	#10442
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Oh Sundae, so so sorry to see this. Big hugs to you xxx __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

11-02-2015, 05:52 PM	#10443
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	Out of an abundance of caution, I'm sure... __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

11-02-2015, 07:27 PM	#10444
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	We're here for you, Sundae. You can type the howl out, if you want to. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

11-02-2015, 10:09 PM	#10445
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Chemo is unpleasant, but not fatal. it's nothing like the images of our childhoods when it was still in it's early/experimental stages. they have a plethora of anti-nausea drugs and drugs to combat all sorts of side effects. Except the losing your hair. That is often a necessary evil. I am sorry you had thought she would not need it -it's pretty inescapable for stage 3 cancers because that means the cancer has spread outside of the original tumor, so even if they think they got it all with surgery, they can't be certain. It doesn't mean it's worse than they thought. Better chemo now than realizing they missed a bit later. On the plus side, you'll be able to help her shop for scarves etc. __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

11-03-2015, 07:29 AM	#10447
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I know. It's better to be safe than sorry. It was just a shock. And I honestly thought I was doing okay with it. Nearly as well as she was. So to get her apology and realise I'd upset her even more (even more than having cancer!) was really awful. She's still going to try to come up between now and Christmas. Before she starts treatment and gets too ill. It all depends on whether she can get my brother to stay with Dad. She loves Otley, and wants us to go to the places we couldn't because of Dad's poor mobility. Skipton Castle, Hebden Bridge, Ilkley (where there's a branch of Bettys), maybe even meet up and stay together in York instead of Otley. She could only really be away for two nights, so we couldn't do all of that - she gets tired too (she's 69 after all) and forgets that when Dad dozes off after lunch, so does she. But we'd do something fun. Fingers crossed. I'm not pushing this at her; it's her idea, her plan. But you bet your brass knockers I'll jump at it. My honest opinion? She's scared that this may be her last chance. Between her own understandable fear at having cancer for the second time, and Dad's dementia, she wants to pack in as much as she can. She's not on the endangered list by any means. But she's facing her own mortality, she's losing her husband and she wants to kick back and have some fun. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

11-02-2015, 12:46 PM	#10441
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I'm really sorry Sundae.

11-04-2015, 11:18 PM	#10448
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I'm only just now reading about your Mum, Sundae. I had no idea, mostly because I really don't keep up around this place like I used to. Please know that you're all in my thoughts, and give your Mum a hug for me. Do you think she might like some of those christmas treats again this year? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-05-2015, 12:22 AM	#10449
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	My post in the 'Short Films' thread doesn' t meet the The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences' criteria for a short film. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

11-05-2015, 09:01 AM	#10451
busterb NSABFD Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: MS. usa Posts: 3,908	Fing X-mas music already. __________________ I've haven't left very deep footprints in the sands of time. But, boy I've left a bunch.

11-07-2015, 06:11 PM	#10453
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	Goddamned, motherfucking thieves. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

11-07-2015, 07:16 PM	#10454
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	what did they take? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

11-08-2015, 07:09 AM	#10455
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I miss having a cat. I can't have a cat. Not right now. I know that. My life is too chaotic, my flat is unhygienic and inhospitable, I have rats. But I feel like the fictional and non-fictional accounts of a woman longing for a baby. I want the heft of a cat in my arms. I want the feel of the fur. I want the weight against me when I sleep. I want to feel the purr. I even don't mind the Spindly Death Claws, and the games of Mad Cat Scramble and Kamikaze Death Cat (where the belly is offered to be rubbed, but attack can come at any second.) I miss having a cat in my life *so much. Bawled my eyes out this morning. Popped them back in to come here though. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac Last edited by Sundae; 11-08-2015 at 07:19 AM. Reason: On the worst keyboard in the library*

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