Why aren't you pursuing your dreams?

Kitsune · 08-01-2006, 12:36 PM

So, why not?

(pursing/pursuing -- you know what I mean, dammit)

Undertoad · 08-01-2006, 12:38 PM

Because I did it seven years ago and I'm still in six figures of family debt.

skysidhe · 08-01-2006, 12:41 PM

good question.

I did decide to make a career change. I seem to think I can change things sometimes even when it isn't in my best interest to do so. It took me four years in a dead end job to realize it was a dead end job. I am an eternal optimist.

glatt · 08-01-2006, 12:42 PM

Because I don't have any, really. Unless very early retirement counts. In that case, it's money.

Shawnee123 · 08-01-2006, 12:43 PM

It all comes down to cold hard cash. Sad, but true.

Clodfobble · 08-01-2006, 12:44 PM

My answer is family obligations, but I would like to register dissatisfaction with the term obligation in my case. I chose to have this family, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Now that I think about it, pursuing the dream of having kids is obviously more important to me than my career dreams, so I guess I am pursuing my dreams after all.

BigV · 08-01-2006, 12:54 PM

I am.

I count myself successful. I'm doing what I want to do. For me, that entails all aspects of the various roles I fill: husband, father, man; I place the welfare of my family at the top of my priorities, and then do what it takes to reach that goal.

I have multiple goals, dreams. I am in various stages of progress on all of them, but it is much more the journey than the destination. Money, time, family obligations, job, those are all tools and materials I use to transform my dreams into realities. It's a daily process for me, mostly forward, but always moving.

Ibby · 08-01-2006, 01:02 PM

Dreams?

Well I learned the intro to Desperado on keyboard yesterday...

I'm in the process of getting a neck to start my guitar building project...

uhhhh....

Shawnee123 · 08-01-2006, 01:07 PM

I prefer to pursue my nightmares!

xoxoxoBruce · 08-01-2006, 01:35 PM

They all got married.

Stormieweather · 08-01-2006, 02:16 PM

I have many dreams. I am pursuing some but others have been shelved due to practical considerations.

Primarily, I've always wanted a family; children, spouse, pets, living in a home I adore with with enough money to survive. This dream is a reality. I get to stay home with the children, work from home, and pinch pennies until they squeak to make ends meet.

I love my family dearly and they are my priority.

I want to be a good person. I want to be able to look back at my actions and feel that I acted honorably and with integrity. I want to live as an example of the principles I hold dear. I want to grow as a person, expand my knowledge and continue to improve myself throughout my lifetime. This is not a dream with a finish line, but I believe I am making it a reality on a daily basis.

One dream I had was to travel. I fulfilled that one (before I had children). I was able to travel around the world and I visited 14 countries. I had the opportunity to see the Parthenon and Acropolis, the pyramids of Eqypt, boat down the Nile, scuba dive in the Red Sea, swim in the Dead Sea, visit the Edinburgh Castle, tease the guards at Buckingham Palace, feel the spray of water from Niagera Falls, walk from junk to junk in Singapore Harbor, and many other amazing places. One of the most memorable trips was the time I lived aboard a 44 ft sailboat and traveled through the Bahamas for a few months.

I would like to write a book. That dream has been started but is unfinished. For the time being, I often write poetry or share my stories on select message boards. It satisfies the itch to write...somewhat, anyway.

I would like a career working with books. This is probably not going to happen. My career seems to have evolved in the financial field and owning a bookshop or becoming a book editor this late in life is unlikely. That's ok though. I can still read them by the truckload!

I wanted to be a model/actress as a young girl. I worked for a while as a catalog model and made a television commercial. My first husband cut that dream off at the knees (jealousy I suppose) but I did accomplish a little something before that happened.

So, I'm quite satisfied with the dreams I've fulfilled and not terribly disappointed with the ones that fell by the wayside. I'm much too determined to give up on something I truly want.

Stormie

Kitsune · 08-01-2006, 02:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Stormieweather

I had the opportunity to see the Parthenon and Acropolis, the pyramids of Eqypt, boat down the Nile, scuba dive in the Red Sea, swim in the Dead Sea, visit the Edinburgh Castle, tease the guards at Buckingham Palace, feel the spray of water from Niagera Falls, walk from junk to junk in Singapore Harbor, and many other amazing places. One of the most memorable trips was the time I lived aboard a 44 ft sailboat and traveled through the Bahamas for a few months.

If you haven't, already, I'd really enjoy if you shared some stories from your adventures here on The Cellar!

Pie · 08-01-2006, 02:41 PM

I haven't enough spine.

Beestie · 08-01-2006, 02:43 PM

Because I keep running into these guys...

08-01-2006, 02:51 PM

My wife has been on me to finish the screenplay I have been working on for some time... I will. Have to get used to working while in pain.
I did work as an actor, playwright and screenwriter/artist of many kinds.
I also loved insurance, sounds crazy, took it as a day-job when I needed it and just fell in love with it. It is very creative, each call/policy is different, creative and every single thing I did was purely altruistic with the company I worked with... so, I loved it.

View Poll Results: Why aren't you pursuing your dreams?
Not enough money	6	22.22%
Not enough time	2	7.41%
Family obligations	1	3.70%
Can't escape my job	1	3.70%
Other	8	29.63%
...I am, actually!	9	33.33%
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08-01-2006, 12:36 PM	#1
Kitsune still eats dirt Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 3,031	Why aren't you pursuing your dreams? So, why not? (pursing/pursuing -- you know what I mean, dammit)

08-01-2006, 12:43 PM	#5
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	It all comes down to cold hard cash. Sad, but true. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-01-2006, 12:54 PM	#7
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	I am. I count myself successful. I'm doing what I want to do. For me, that entails all aspects of the various roles I fill: husband, father, man; I place the welfare of my family at the top of my priorities, and then do what it takes to reach that goal. I have multiple goals, dreams. I am in various stages of progress on all of them, but it is much more the journey than the destination. Money, time, family obligations, job, those are all tools and materials I use to transform my dreams into realities. It's a daily process for me, mostly forward, but always moving. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

08-01-2006, 01:02 PM	#8
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Dreams? Well I learned the intro to Desperado on keyboard yesterday... I'm in the process of getting a neck to start my guitar building project... uhhhh.... __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

08-01-2006, 12:38 PM	#2
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Because I did it seven years ago and I'm still in six figures of family debt.

08-01-2006, 12:41 PM	#3
skysidhe ~~Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.~~ Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 6,828	good question. I did decide to make a career change. I seem to think I can change things sometimes even when it isn't in my best interest to do so. It took me four years in a dead end job to realize it was a dead end job. I am an eternal optimist.

08-01-2006, 12:42 PM	#4
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	Because I don't have any, really. Unless very early retirement counts. In that case, it's money.

08-01-2006, 12:44 PM	#6
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	My answer is family obligations, but I would like to register dissatisfaction with the term obligation in my case. I chose to have this family, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Now that I think about it, pursuing the dream of having kids is obviously more important to me than my career dreams, so I guess I am pursuing my dreams after all.

08-01-2006, 01:07 PM	#9
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I prefer to pursue my nightmares! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-01-2006, 01:35 PM	#10
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	They all got married. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

08-01-2006, 02:16 PM	#11
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	I have many dreams. I am pursuing some but others have been shelved due to practical considerations. Primarily, I've always wanted a family; children, spouse, pets, living in a home I adore with with enough money to survive. This dream is a reality. I get to stay home with the children, work from home, and pinch pennies until they squeak to make ends meet. I love my family dearly and they are my priority. I want to be a good person. I want to be able to look back at my actions and feel that I acted honorably and with integrity. I want to live as an example of the principles I hold dear. I want to grow as a person, expand my knowledge and continue to improve myself throughout my lifetime. This is not a dream with a finish line, but I believe I am making it a reality on a daily basis. One dream I had was to travel. I fulfilled that one (before I had children). I was able to travel around the world and I visited 14 countries. I had the opportunity to see the Parthenon and Acropolis, the pyramids of Eqypt, boat down the Nile, scuba dive in the Red Sea, swim in the Dead Sea, visit the Edinburgh Castle, tease the guards at Buckingham Palace, feel the spray of water from Niagera Falls, walk from junk to junk in Singapore Harbor, and many other amazing places. One of the most memorable trips was the time I lived aboard a 44 ft sailboat and traveled through the Bahamas for a few months. I would like to write a book. That dream has been started but is unfinished. For the time being, I often write poetry or share my stories on select message boards. It satisfies the itch to write...somewhat, anyway. I would like a career working with books. This is probably not going to happen. My career seems to have evolved in the financial field and owning a bookshop or becoming a book editor this late in life is unlikely. That's ok though. I can still read them by the truckload! I wanted to be a model/actress as a young girl. I worked for a while as a catalog model and made a television commercial. My first husband cut that dream off at the knees (jealousy I suppose) but I did accomplish a little something before that happened. So, I'm quite satisfied with the dreams I've fulfilled and not terribly disappointed with the ones that fell by the wayside. I'm much too determined to give up on something I truly want. Stormie __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

08-01-2006, 02:41 PM	#13
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	I haven't enough spine. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

08-01-2006, 02:43 PM	#14
Beestie -◊\|≡·∙■·∙≡\|◊- Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Parts unknown. Posts: 4,081	Because I keep running into these guys... __________________ ♠ ♥ ♣ ♦

08-01-2006, 02:51 PM	#15
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	My wife has been on me to finish the screenplay I have been working on for some time... I will. Have to get used to working while in pain. I did work as an actor, playwright and screenwriter/artist of many kinds. I also loved insurance, sounds crazy, took it as a day-job when I needed it and just fell in love with it. It is very creative, each call/policy is different, creative and every single thing I did was purely altruistic with the company I worked with... so, I loved it.

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