Propositioning

Aliantha · 12-03-2008, 10:05 PM

If your friends spouse propositioned you, would you tell your friend?

Why or why not?

Pie · 12-03-2008, 10:13 PM

First, I'd tell my spouse.
Then go from there.
(Prolly would tell my friend; knowing my friends, they might be all for it.)

ETA: most of my friends are male, or bi.

TheMercenary · 12-03-2008, 10:28 PM

Yea, because she would think it was funny and we are best friends.

Aliantha · 12-03-2008, 10:37 PM

Yes, but would you tell the spouse of the woman (presumably) who propositioned you?

Chocolatl · 12-03-2008, 10:37 PM

It'd depend very much on the friend. Like Pie, I'd start by telling my spouse about it and go from there.

If the "spouse" were my friend L's boyfriend, for example, I'd definitely say something to her because I know she values monogamy. If the guy is propositioning me, who knows who else he is trying for? For other friends, I might mention it in passing and they would laugh and shrug it off.

ZenGum · 12-03-2008, 11:03 PM

Inform everyone concerned.

Start: "I always thought the letters to your magazine were made up, until... "

Aliantha · 12-03-2008, 11:06 PM

lol...none of those letters are made up. They're real life, just like Jerry Springer. There really are that many idiots in the world.

TheMercenary · 12-03-2008, 11:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Yes, but would you tell the spouse of the woman (presumably) who propositioned you?

No I would blow it off, after I told Mr. Horndog that it better not happen again. If he persisted I would tell the wife and let her deal with it. Put him on notice.

Juniper · 12-04-2008, 12:18 AM

Depends.

Answered this one only after picking myself up off the floor when I'd finished laughing my ass off. As IF!

DanaC · 12-04-2008, 06:03 AM

Very much depends on the people involved and the circumstances around the proposition. If for example, my friend's spouse was rip roaring drunk at the time and the proposal was clearly just the drink talking, I may well say nothing.

*grins* I suppose it would also depend on whether or not I accepted his proposition...j/k I never would :P

Stress Puppy · 12-04-2008, 07:57 AM

Depends on many factors. If it were even slightly serious, I'd inform both my S.O. and theirs. I don't care if they're drunk, or if they're mog or open, or anything else, anyway. If they want to get busy with me, they can approach both me and my S.O.

binky · 12-04-2008, 08:24 AM

I would not tell, because of their circumstances at this moment. We have known each other forever (her since we were six, him since junior high), and we are now 46 yrs old. She is really ill right now, and to add to their stress over something so relatively unimportant would be cruel.

binky · 12-04-2008, 08:25 AM

And I of course would turn him down

Shawnee123 · 12-04-2008, 08:50 AM

That's a tough one.

I had to tell my college roommate her lawbag boyfriend made a move on me. I fretted about it, but my friends thought I should tell her. Guess whose fault it ended up being? MINE! It really wasn't though.

It's even more grave if it's someone's spouse. A guy like that, he'll probably get caught messing around with someone else on whom the spouse can blame his indiscretion or lack of ability to keep it in his damn pants.

Nowadays I'd probably keep my mouth shut, but my eyes open, and hope to guide her to see what he really is.

Yeah, tough call!

dar512 · 12-04-2008, 09:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

Put him on notice.

Tell him he's on report.

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12-03-2008, 10:05 PM	#1
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Propositioning If your friends spouse propositioned you, would you tell your friend? Why or why not? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-03-2008, 10:13 PM	#2
Pie Gone and done Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 4,808	First, I'd tell my spouse. Then go from there. (Prolly would tell my friend; knowing my friends, they might be all for it.) ETA: most of my friends are male, or bi. __________________ per·son \ˈpər-sən\ (noun) - an ephemeral collection of small, irrational decisions The fun thing about evolution (and science in general) is that it happens whether you believe in it or not.

12-03-2008, 10:28 PM	#3
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	Yea, because she would think it was funny and we are best friends. __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

12-03-2008, 10:37 PM	#4
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Yes, but would you tell the spouse of the woman (presumably) who propositioned you? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-03-2008, 10:37 PM	#5
Chocolatl Glutton for Gluttony Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,409	It'd depend very much on the friend. Like Pie, I'd start by telling my spouse about it and go from there. If the "spouse" were my friend L's boyfriend, for example, I'd definitely say something to her because I know she values monogamy. If the guy is propositioning me, who knows who else he is trying for? For other friends, I might mention it in passing and they would laugh and shrug it off.

12-03-2008, 11:03 PM	#6
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Inform everyone concerned. Start: "I always thought the letters to your magazine were made up, until... " __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

12-03-2008, 11:06 PM	#7
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	lol...none of those letters are made up. They're real life, just like Jerry Springer. There really are that many idiots in the world. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-04-2008, 12:18 AM	#9
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	Depends. Answered this one only after picking myself up off the floor when I'd finished laughing my ass off. As IF!

12-04-2008, 06:03 AM	#10
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Very much depends on the people involved and the circumstances around the proposition. If for example, my friend's spouse was rip roaring drunk at the time and the proposal was clearly just the drink talking, I may well say nothing. grins I suppose it would also depend on whether or not I accepted his proposition...j/k I never would :P

12-04-2008, 07:57 AM	#11
Stress Puppy Elite Elitist Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Fresno, CA Posts: 359	Depends on many factors. If it were even slightly serious, I'd inform both my S.O. and theirs. I don't care if they're drunk, or if they're mog or open, or anything else, anyway. If they want to get busy with me, they can approach both me and my S.O. __________________ ~Stress Puppy~ Mundus vult decipi, ergo decipiatur

12-04-2008, 08:24 AM	#12
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	I would not tell, because of their circumstances at this moment. We have known each other forever (her since we were six, him since junior high), and we are now 46 yrs old. She is really ill right now, and to add to their stress over something so relatively unimportant would be cruel. __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

12-04-2008, 08:25 AM	#13
binky all hollowed out Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ridgecrest, CA Posts: 982	And I of course would turn him down __________________ The meanest Mom EVER!!!!

12-04-2008, 08:50 AM	#14
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	That's a tough one. I had to tell my college roommate her lawbag boyfriend made a move on me. I fretted about it, but my friends thought I should tell her. Guess whose fault it ended up being? MINE! It really wasn't though. It's even more grave if it's someone's spouse. A guy like that, he'll probably get caught messing around with someone else on whom the spouse can blame his indiscretion or lack of ability to keep it in his damn pants. Nowadays I'd probably keep my mouth shut, but my eyes open, and hope to guide her to see what he really is. Yeah, tough call! __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

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