Skills Vs. Looks

Originally Posted by Brianna

Ok--skills and looks are NOT exclusive but if you HAD to go with one or the other???? and don't give me this "skills can be taught" thing because, sometimes, they just can't be. I'll end there on my prepositional phrase.

Thank you.

Well, OK. I assume you define "Looks" under the physical attraction / chemistry department? Just "looks" alone is pretty superficial. So a guy looks like Brad Pitt, that alone wouldn't necessarily make him attractive to me. In the example I gave above of the Robert Redford look alike guy, it was his words that first drew my attention and made me turn around to do a double take. If he'd been speaking like Gomer Pyle or something, I wouldn't have been interested, no matter how handsome he was. If you could broaden "looks" to include the way he speaks, the things he says, that certain light in his eyes, the whole black magic/chemistry thing; then, yeah, I'd say "looks" are the most important thing. Skill as a lover is just going to follow naturally if there's enough mutual chemistry involved, so it would be almost a given in such a case, wouldn't it? Like the Cowboy Junkies song goes, "the beautiful is not chosen; the chosen becomes the beautiful."