Potential sub looking for guidance

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I was not offended in the least, and I do hope you'll stay. What you find here, a cross section of people with varying levels of understanding and sincerity is no different that what you'll find in the subset of people who know about D/s interactions, just with lower stakes. There are people here who have such knowledge.

Also, have you searched other communities? What about people in real life that might have insight, or at least an ability to give you a reality check for things that you're investigating? The previous posts relating to "trust" are really key, and that trust must flow in both directions. But it can not be sped up. It can only grow at its own maximum pace, or slowed or stopped by contraindications.

I know some people who fit the profile you're describing (and I don't consider them fucked up). But it is complicated, and it is less common (not abnormal, please). And one more thing--until you do learn more, especially about the individuals you're connecting with, the conflation of lifestyle submission and sexual submission will be inescapable. The immediate reactions among the people here, who I do know, is typical. You will encounter this again (and again). Prepare accordingly, ESPECIALLY if this is NOT what you're seeking.

I wish you well, you have an interesting road ahead.