eating disorder accusations

[Beestie]

There are a given number of rude, self-appointed know-it-alls who feel it is their role in the world to pass judgement on the rest of us. They medicate their own self-loathing by trying to make everyone else just as miserable as they are. The best counterAttack is to refuse to feel badly about yourself and turn their comment into a compliment then, cut them with their own blade. Unfortunately, smacking the piss out of these walking inferiority complexes is not socially acceptable so our response is limited to words, body language and expressions. But you can do a lot with those three.

First, never dignify the comment by "defending yourself." Smile, look the person up and down to let them know that their physical inadequacies are on display for the world to see, then respond. But never, ever, show weakness - instead, you must strike back quickly and effortlessly to deflect the pain and self-doubt they desperately need you to bear right back at them. I think you can figure out which body language and facial expressions work best with these sample comments.

"Well, thank you for noticing."
"Thank you for pointing that out."
"I'm very comfortable with the way I look.... Not everyone is, you know"
"Maybe they should average us together to get one normal person"
"Who needs to carry a lot of extra blubber around wherever they go?"
"Yep, harpoons are the last thing *I* worry about"
"Some people are thin, some people are ugly.. its always something"
"Guys tell me they love my body.. do you get that a lot too?"
"Guys tell me they love my body.. when's the last time you heard that?"
"Overweight people ask me about that all the time."

I bet you could come up with some good ones yourself.

Its kind of amazing how a perfect stranger is so desperate to spread their inferiority around that they would blurt out a hurtful comment just so they can watch you bleed inside. Don't give them the satisfaction - with perfect confidence, strike back. Hard if necessary.

[lookout123]

i think you should just screw with them.
- let a bottle of ipecac fall out of your purse.
-let them see you come out of the bathroom wiping your mouth like you had just barfed.
- ask if anyone has a mint - "i don't want to smell like vomit, you know"
- when anyone offers you a small piece of food look at them in horror and gasp - "do you know the amount of laxatives i would have to ingest if i ate that thing???"


my aunt works as a therapist at an inresidence eating disorder clinic. my wife and i have a lot of fun messing with her.

[aerion_13]

Well then you're just lucky to have two thin parents. But I did notice you smoke. Now that's even worse for you. If you quit smoking, you'd probably gain 10-15 lbs. I've seen my very thin sister in law try it and that's what happens. So then she goes back to smoking. Stupid choice in my opinion.

[WabUfvot5]

Jupp, smoking does make you thinner. Especially noticeable with women. It has the effect of giving a kick of energy and suppressing hunger.

Weight means nothing, take a look at BMI. You don't look that twiggy to me (said the thin lanky fencepost) but as somebody said America is a land of fatties. In Europe we'd be normal to bulky.

As for the coworkers I think you should confront them about how they suppress their sorrows with food and detail al the negative health consequences with it. If you're the passive-aggressive type it would serve you well to say something before blowing up (never done that myself, nosir )