The Sex Thread

[Lunaephiliac]

You know what's sad?

I don't find any of this to be new information. Oh, this country. I've also realized that I seem to be quite a rarity because, though i have made a promise to my parents and myself not to have sex until i marry, I am also incredibly horny. This country is so freakin' weird.

[BigV]

Originally Posted by Lunaephiliac

You know what's sad?

I don't find any of this to be new information. Oh, this country. I've also realized that I seem to be quite a rarity because, though i have made a promise to my parents and myself not to have sex until i marry, I am also incredibly horny. This country is so freakin' weird.

From the little I know about you, Luna, I would like to suggest that you've made a good decision. Not a decision that will be easy to follow through with, but a good decision nonetheless.

Please accept this post as my support for you, friend.

*beams concentrated good will and perserverance in Luna's direction*

[wolf]

Originally Posted by Lunaephiliac

You know what's sad?

I don't find any of this to be new information. Oh, this country. I've also realized that I seem to be quite a rarity because, though i have made a promise to my parents and myself not to have sex until i marry, I am also incredibly horny. This country is so freakin' weird.

This is precisely why Western Civilization thrived. Channel that there energy into the protestant (or insert your own belief or lack of belief system) work ethic and you'll be a millionaire before you're 25.

[kerosene]

In my opinion, sex before marriage can be healthy. Sorry if that ruffles feathers (and I am not advocating sexual experimentation at too young a maturity level) but I think the dillusional belief that sex is only "right" within marriage is naive. Why does there even have to be a "right" and "wrong" when it comes to sex? Sure, if your conviction is such, because of whatever ethics/morals you have, then have at it. The problem with that idea is what do you do when you are 10 years into a marriage and suddenly WANT to know what it is like to be with someone else? You are left to struggle internally over it with guilt as your overriding force. Especially if you are involved in an exclusive, monogomous marriage (which is quite likely if you have waited to have sex with your spouse.) Never fool yourself in thinking your spouse who has been your only sexual partner is the only person you will ever want sexually. I find it hard to believe that is probable. I think if one can get past their own insecurities about previous partners or current desires he/she can truly love the person they are married to, and not own them.

Of course, my experiences cause me to have my opinions on the matter, but based on those, that's really what I think.

[Rock Steady]

Originally Posted by wolf

This is precisely why Western Civilization thrived. Channel that there energy into the protestant (or insert your own belief or lack of belief system) work ethic and you'll be a millionaire before you're 25.

Good thought, but overpromises at the end. How about "successful throughout life".

I didn't finish my PhD until I was 28; the short term goal was not cash. Wasn't a millionaire until 45. It's a marathon, not a sprint.