Problems w/ in-laws

Harlan · 03-05-2006, 06:28 PM

It will take patience and strength and faith. I has such a decision once. I found if you truly want it to work out, it will. Good luck.

spavalica · 03-06-2006, 08:12 AM

So, we are going to a counselor now. He had suggested that we try for 5-6 month and if it doesnt work we split.

We went to his mother's house yesterday with the intention to talk about all of this. He didnt feel like starting the whole thing because at that present time she said nothing, and he doesnt want it sound as if he just came to argue with her and the things she had done. Fine! So, I said, if you don't want to talk to her now because you think that it will sound as if you just came for that and to make problems, talk to her when a problem arises.

So, while there she mentions that we got to call for these medical benefits of her friends and hands us the card. At that point he told her "Why are you giving me orders? You can't do that and I don't have to do it if you tell me to do it. If you ask us if we could, maybe we would, but if you tell us to do it and do it tomorrow, then we won't do it". Which is kind of a nice start at least he is standing up for us and letting her know that she can not tell us what to do.

But then, last night he said that he will go to work the same time as me (earlier), so he can take care of some things (needs to go pick up my medicine from my doctor, etc.). Well guess what? He wakes me up to tell me that he is already at work. He decided he needed to go even earlier to get off on time and to be able to finish all of those things.

I feel lied to! I went over the fact that he didn't talk to her yesterday about all of these things, but instead of making everything smooth, he disappoints me again...

I just don't get it, either he is stupid or something is definately wrong with him...Maybe, I should do the same thing. Tell him that I will wake up the same time as him, and just escape before he wakes up...Perhaps that would make him understand it. I just don't understand him, what he is trying to do.

03-05-2006, 06:28 PM	#1
Harlan Writer of Writings Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 14	Good luck with your situation It will take patience and strength and faith. I has such a decision once. I found if you truly want it to work out, it will. Good luck.

03-06-2006, 08:12 AM	#2
spavalica Recruit or Something Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 4	Reply So, we are going to a counselor now. He had suggested that we try for 5-6 month and if it doesnt work we split. We went to his mother's house yesterday with the intention to talk about all of this. He didnt feel like starting the whole thing because at that present time she said nothing, and he doesnt want it sound as if he just came to argue with her and the things she had done. Fine! So, I said, if you don't want to talk to her now because you think that it will sound as if you just came for that and to make problems, talk to her when a problem arises. So, while there she mentions that we got to call for these medical benefits of her friends and hands us the card. At that point he told her "Why are you giving me orders? You can't do that and I don't have to do it if you tell me to do it. If you ask us if we could, maybe we would, but if you tell us to do it and do it tomorrow, then we won't do it". Which is kind of a nice start at least he is standing up for us and letting her know that she can not tell us what to do. But then, last night he said that he will go to work the same time as me (earlier), so he can take care of some things (needs to go pick up my medicine from my doctor, etc.). Well guess what? He wakes me up to tell me that he is already at work. He decided he needed to go even earlier to get off on time and to be able to finish all of those things. I feel lied to! I went over the fact that he didn't talk to her yesterday about all of these things, but instead of making everything smooth, he disappoints me again... I just don't get it, either he is stupid or something is definately wrong with him...Maybe, I should do the same thing. Tell him that I will wake up the same time as him, and just escape before he wakes up...Perhaps that would make him understand it. I just don't understand him, what he is trying to do.

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