Do girls really care about a guys sexual history?

yesman065 · 10-10-2006, 07:17 AM

Saying that we are all what we are or what we have been and are never going to change is simply not true. If it were we would all still believe in the Easter Bunny & Santa Clause.

Madman · 10-10-2006, 02:07 PM

Only if it counts. I don't mean 'Partner number 82' either. Curiosity gets the best of us no matter how mature and accepting you think you really are. Face it! We all (at least most of us) want to be the "best your partner ever had" when it comes to you know what-ing. Then, when it is good, we want to know who it was before you or whomever. Then when they "fess up" your then allowing that little worm of self-doubt and insecurity creep into your life. Then it shows its sneaky little head and starts to irritate you.

Its a forum and all this is in fun. But what the heck. Don't get into a tizzy or tazzy if your "lover" had more partners than you. BFD - you (we, us, them, they) ain't perfect either.

9th Engineer · 10-10-2006, 03:47 PM

I hate to be sitting on the fence here, but I think the answer lies somewhere between Aliantha and bmw. People change, true, but we never leave our past behind. Change is a continual, gradual process. I think a good analogy would go something like this "If you put some water in a glass and accidently drop some dirt in it, how can you make the water clear again without pouring out the water? You can make the water clear by adding more and more clean water until you can't see the difference". The water would be everything that makes you who you are, you can't reset yourself and go back to square one. What you can do is live your life the way you want people to see you and in time your new self will outweigh your old self. I remember saying that you should act on what a person does, not what they say they will do. If someone is asking you to trust them to make major changes in their life, then give them time to prove it. It might take a few weeks, other changes need years to prove. Whether it's going sober, dropping abusive habits, whatever, only time can be trusted to show if a person is serious, not what they tell you.

10-10-2006, 07:17 AM	#1
yesman065 Banned - Self Imposed Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 1,847	Saying that we are all what we are or what we have been and are never going to change is simply not true. If it were we would all still believe in the Easter Bunny & Santa Clause. Last edited by yesman065; 10-10-2006 at 03:57 PM.

10-10-2006, 03:47 PM	#3
9th Engineer Bioengineer and aspiring lawer Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Pittsburgh Posts: 872	I hate to be sitting on the fence here, but I think the answer lies somewhere between Aliantha and bmw. People change, true, but we never leave our past behind. Change is a continual, gradual process. I think a good analogy would go something like this "If you put some water in a glass and accidently drop some dirt in it, how can you make the water clear again without pouring out the water? You can make the water clear by adding more and more clean water until you can't see the difference". The water would be everything that makes you who you are, you can't reset yourself and go back to square one. What you can do is live your life the way you want people to see you and in time your new self will outweigh your old self. I remember saying that you should act on what a person does, not what they say they will do. If someone is asking you to trust them to make major changes in their life, then give them time to prove it. It might take a few weeks, other changes need years to prove. Whether it's going sober, dropping abusive habits, whatever, only time can be trusted to show if a person is serious, not what they tell you. __________________ The most valuable renewable resource is stupidity.

10-10-2006, 02:07 PM	#2
Madman has left the building. Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 455	Only if it counts. I don't mean 'Partner number 82' either. Curiosity gets the best of us no matter how mature and accepting you think you really are. Face it! We all (at least most of us) want to be the "best your partner ever had" when it comes to you know what-ing. Then, when it is good, we want to know who it was before you or whomever. Then when they "fess up" your then allowing that little worm of self-doubt and insecurity creep into your life. Then it shows its sneaky little head and starts to irritate you. Its a forum and all this is in fun. But what the heck. Don't get into a tizzy or tazzy if your "lover" had more partners than you. BFD - you (we, us, them, they) ain't perfect either.

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