TEFL Training

[Sundae]

Grant - if you think you'll make it to England give me a shout.

If your route could possibly bring you through Leicester I'll buy you a curry and you can always crash on my sofa (although you won't sleep because my cats will think you are a new toy).

[Perry Winkle]

@DanaC:
I'd love to TEFL in Vietnam, warmer than central Europe. The only problem is I'd have to take enough clothes for my entire stay or buy custom made clothes (which I hear is pretty cheap in Thailand). I'm quite tall.

@SundaeGirl:
Thanks for the offer. I might have to take you up on it. I love curry and cats.

Scotland to London is one of the pieces I really don't want to miss, and Leicester looks to be on the way. I just have to work things out so I can get through Sweden and Scotland without freezing to death.

[Pie]

As long as it's not curried cats!

[footfootfoot]

Originally Posted by grant

The only complication is there's this girl back in Albany and I can't get her out of my head. I'm smitten and she's somewhere between tolerant and interested but too timid to let it be known with a hint big enough for me to catch. And I'm too much of a pussy to press the issue.

Dude, that's where I met my wife, in Albany. She worked in a stationary store on Central Ave. I'd go in everyday and buy stupid stuff like a dozen paperclips or three envelopes. Really stupid.

I finally screwed up my courage to ask her out for coffee and she says "I don't drink coffee."
I told her it was a figure of speech and she could have tea if she wanted. She agreed and we went on a few dates, then we didn't see each other again for a couple of years. (bad timing w/ other partners) Finally, we hook up and we've been mis-communicating for ten years.

Go for the Albany connection. The worst that can happen is she'll kick you in the family jewels and call you a faggot in front of her friends.

[Perry Winkle]

So that this thread doesn't completely degenerate into a "poor me and my social life" thread. Here's a travel update:

Still modifying possible routes, reading travelogues, scraping money together, planning bike upgrades, and figuring out how to not freeze/dehydrate to death somewhere along the way.

Originally Posted by footfootfoot

Dude, that's where I met my wife, in Albany. She worked in a stationary store on Central Ave. I'd go in everyday and buy stupid stuff like a dozen paperclips or three envelopes. Really stupid.

I finally screwed up my courage to ask her out for coffee and she says "I don't drink coffee."
I told her it was a figure of speech and she could have tea if she wanted. She agreed and we went on a few dates, then we didn't see each other again for a couple of years. (bad timing w/ other partners) Finally, we hook up and we've been mis-communicating for ten years.

Go for the Albany connection. The worst that can happen is she'll kick you in the family jewels and call you a faggot in front of her friends.

See, I would go for the Albany connection if I had any idea how. I would have to somehow show up in Albany (a 7'ish hour drive) and explain myself without seeming desperate, crazy, or obsessive.

Also, I'm not sure either one of us is in a place that would be a good time for a relationship. I'm restless, and she's got one more semester of undergrad and she's possibly even more confused about what to do after her graduation than I was for mine.

I've contemplated moving back to Albany and looking for a job there, and pursuing her. But I'm not sure I want to waste a lot of time there, so I keep thinking I should just drive up, buy flowers, and lay it on the line.

Here's some back-story (normally I'm not this socially inept, but when romantic feelings become involved watch out):
I met this girl in class last summer, we didn't say two words to each-other (I was convinced she was attached). We ended up having another class together this fall and eventually I figured out that she was single, and that I really wanted to get to know her.

So I asked her to lunch and it went okay; nothing great, nothing horrible (this was early November). I figured out that she worked at a cafe adjacent to a movie theater (with the same owners so you can take your coffee/tea/hc & food into the theater) so I started going there instead of the Huge-a-plex.

Over the next couple of weeks we kept chatting, and I asked her out 2-3 more times. She turned me down every time. She was under the weather so she wasn't doing much but school, work and sleep. It didn't really bug me (I knew she was actually sick, having class together and all) so I had pretty much given up because if she'd wanted to see me a little phlegm wouldn't have deterred me.

Anyway, we started spending more time together (mostly in groups) working on our large final papers for the class. About the same time she asks me out. This confuses the crap out of me, but I agree. We end up going for brunch a day or two before I left for D.C. (it's now early december, it's about a week between when she asked and when went out)

So I get to D.C. and tell myself I'll just forget about it. The thing is anytime we're both online we end up chatting (conversations started by her as often as me). It makes it really hard to ignore/forget her.

Our online conversations tend to be much more touchy feely than our face to face conversations, which is what leads me to think she might be more into me than is apparent to me.

[footfootfoot]

Sounds familiar and similar to our pseudo courtship. At least you guys are communicating online, yes? Would it be way out of line to say "Hey, I'm looking for a roadtrip, feeling restless and thought I'd hop on the amtrak and come up to Albany. Wanna pick me up and go to a movie? (Spectrum, right?) maybe not the best choice if she works there. Then you are totally hooked up if they still do those slide shows before the film. You could put together a bunch of slides with subliminal messages like:
grant is the most awesome guy ever, or
you will be grant's love slave, etc.

I'm sure you'll think of something witty.

[Perry Winkle]

Thanks f^3 I always miss the obvious, simple approaches.

Yeah, we're emailing/im'ing a bit and that would probably be right in line.

The Spectrum still does the slide-shows. I do think it would be cool to do something like that, I'm not sure if it's kosher to do something like that at someone's almost work-place.



I'll give it some thought and let ya'll know if anything comes of it.

[footfootfoot]

Oh it would be a john hughes moment! if you did it right all the filmies would get the reference and everyone one of them would be on your side rooting for you.

Or you'd crash and burn horribly, ending up next door at My Linh's drowning your sorrows in a flaming mango rum punch.

Keep it light, keep it open. You can't go wrong.

[xoxoxoBruce]

she's possibly even more confused about what to do after her graduation than I was for mine.

Bingo, there's the key. Tell her that she needs some real life experiences. She should do something crazy and stick with it for a year or two, possibly more depending on how much She enjoys it. The least that will come of it is that she will have some great enriching experiences to add to the story of her life.

Tell her you're going ahead to scout they way for her and you'll take copious notes for her. But, you want to keep in touch so you can pass the information you gather for her, just in case you are captured into slavery by a matriarchal tribe ....or swallowed by a whale.


Tell her this, in person, with flowers.

Keep us posted, dude.

[Perry Winkle]

That's way more my style xoB, thanks for the advice.