Seriousness That Changed You

xoxoxoBruce · 01-26-2007, 09:16 AM

I know what you're talking about, Zip. I've never had a lot of tolerance for brats. Kids, through inexperience and lack of understanding are going to screw up. They all do, we all did. I can handle that, but deliberate, malicious, button pushing I can't tolerate.
I've been told, they have to do that to learn how far they can go, testing limits and learning consequences. Hey, I'll help them learn the consequences. What happens when they pull that shit in the real world.
I'm told it's different when they are your own spawn. I chose not to take that risk because the SPCA won't take 'em, ya know.
They claim it's all on the parents, the nurturing and affection. That doesn't explain why a couple will have several kids and one turns out to be a clinker, though. I've seen it several times, where one of the brood is a monster, among normal siblings. There has to be more to it than the nurturing.

Griff · 01-26-2007, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

There has to be more to it than the nurturing.

Nature via Nurture

We've all got biological limitations but the way we are or are not nurtured alters our performance within those parameters.

The question to ask is why is the child pushing buttons? I'd argue that it is a form of communication developed because of limitations enforced by the childs biology and/or his environment. OC's looks like a perfect storm. The child is obviously limited in capacity but when he does ask a question clearly he gets pounded for it. When I was in high school one of my friends ran away from home. He landed at our house, because while my folks were tough, they were also predictable and fair. OC, as hard as it is to hear, you are running an unpredictable house where communication isn't taking place through normal channels. Please do not pursue the adoption of another child.

OnyxCougar · 01-27-2007, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Griff

OC, as hard as it is to hear, you are running an unpredictable house where communication isn't taking place through normal channels. Please do not pursue the adoption of another child.

..... I don't even know how to respond to that.....

Griff · 01-29-2007, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by OnyxCougar

..... I don't even know how to respond to that.....

If I've misread the situation, I apologize. I know it is impossible to paint the complete picture with words.

01-26-2007, 09:16 AM	#1
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	I know what you're talking about, Zip. I've never had a lot of tolerance for brats. Kids, through inexperience and lack of understanding are going to screw up. They all do, we all did. I can handle that, but deliberate, malicious, button pushing I can't tolerate. I've been told, they have to do that to learn how far they can go, testing limits and learning consequences. Hey, I'll help them learn the consequences. What happens when they pull that shit in the real world. I'm told it's different when they are your own spawn. I chose not to take that risk because the SPCA won't take 'em, ya know. They claim it's all on the parents, the nurturing and affection. That doesn't explain why a couple will have several kids and one turns out to be a clinker, though. I've seen it several times, where one of the brood is a monster, among normal siblings. There has to be more to it than the nurturing. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

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