Decisions....

Sundae · 02-21-2007, 04:24 AM

You can miss someone without loving them, and love someone without wanting to spend the rest of your life with them.

I think your reaction was a knee-jerk one - all of a sudden it was out of your hands and you panicked.

Accept that it's going to hurt for a while - like pulling off a plaster - and then both of you will be better off. You know you'll be happier without him, and if you can't give him 100% he will definitely be happier without you in the long run.

But then I tend to run away from things, so perhaps you should take my advice with a pinch of salt....!

Elspode · 02-21-2007, 08:49 AM

This is going to be predictable, coming from me, but...perhaps a polyamorous relationship would suit you?

Sun_Sparkz · 02-21-2007, 07:35 PM

thanks for your advice guys, your all so brilliant. just what i needed to hear. everyone i ask in person for advice just says "follow your heart".. PFFT i wish it was that easy.

But i care about him soo much that i know that i have to be cruel to be kind, i have to let him go so he can eventually be happy.

An open relationship really wouldnt work, he doesnt like me goign out too much, he has gripes that i am flirty,and when guys hit on me he says it undermines him as a man.

sigh... this would be easier if he was ugly.

He is coming home tonight and has been texting me saying he cant wait to see me etc - Ive got knots in my tummy about what im going to say - about what decsion i will make (on the spur of the moment) that will determine the (perhaps) the rest of my life.

skysidhe · 02-26-2007, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Sun_Sparkz

He is coming home tonight and has been texting me saying he cant wait to see me etc - Ive got knots in my tummy about what im going to say - about what decsion i will make (on the spur of the moment) that will determine the (perhaps) the rest of my life.

Lots of good comments here. Best of luck to you Sun_Sparkz.

richlevy · 03-15-2007, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Sun_Sparkz

he has gripes that i am flirty,and when guys hit on me he says it undermines him as a man.

I can see where the first item is controllable but what does he expect you to do about the second? From that brief statement he sounds insecure.

However, if you are flirty it may be a sign that you are not ready for a monogamous relationship with this guy.

02-21-2007, 04:24 AM	#1
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	You can miss someone without loving them, and love someone without wanting to spend the rest of your life with them. I think your reaction was a knee-jerk one - all of a sudden it was out of your hands and you panicked. Accept that it's going to hurt for a while - like pulling off a plaster - and then both of you will be better off. You know you'll be happier without him, and if you can't give him 100% he will definitely be happier without you in the long run. But then I tend to run away from things, so perhaps you should take my advice with a pinch of salt....! __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

02-21-2007, 08:49 AM	#2
Elspode When Do I Get Virtual Unreality? Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Raytown, Missouri Posts: 12,719	This is going to be predictable, coming from me, but...perhaps a polyamorous relationship would suit you? __________________ "To those of you who are wearing ties, I think my dad would appreciate it if you took them off." - Robert Moog

02-21-2007, 07:35 PM	#3
Sun_Sparkz Has Body Temperature Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: I come from a land downunder Posts: 1,105	thanks for your advice guys, your all so brilliant. just what i needed to hear. everyone i ask in person for advice just says "follow your heart".. PFFT i wish it was that easy. But i care about him soo much that i know that i have to be cruel to be kind, i have to let him go so he can eventually be happy. An open relationship really wouldnt work, he doesnt like me goign out too much, he has gripes that i am flirty,and when guys hit on me he says it undermines him as a man. sigh... this would be easier if he was ugly. He is coming home tonight and has been texting me saying he cant wait to see me etc - Ive got knots in my tummy about what im going to say - about what decsion i will make (on the spur of the moment) that will determine the (perhaps) the rest of my life. __________________ We'll never be as young as we are right now

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