I'm a middle school kid again

be-bop · 03-28-2007, 05:39 PM

Do kids still dance with each other? Jeez it's been so long

Predicament · 04-04-2007, 12:02 AM

Man, I *really* should have found this thread earlier. I'm intimately familiar with the subject.

(or at least I was, in my past life) :p

Unless you're drop-dead handsome you can't just walk up to a girl and start dancing and expect her to be happy about it. Like most things in life, women need time to warm up.

The key is to be out there dancing already. Be moving with the music, looking like you're having a good time. If you're there with friends, talk with them some, or if you're there solo then focus on doing a little shuffle while you spend most of your attention on the DJ / band. And don't try to "look" like you're having a good time... actually TRY to have a good time. Find a club where you like the music, so when you're shuffling and nodding your head you really enjoy it. Don't just be there to eyeball every cute girl.

Girls will see you're out there, see you're not pawing all over them, see you're having a good time, and they'll be attracted to you. So, your key is to find the ones that are attracted to you. If there's some girl that never looks your way, then leave her alone. But if you catch eye-contact with a girl, then flash a smile. If she smiles back then turn a little towards her.

DON'T dive in right away. Wait for her to acknowledge you. If she turns away from you, then leave her alone. If she stays put, or better yet turns toward you, then move in. (Don't immediately start booty grinding). If the girl turns away, it doesn't mean that you're lost. She may just want some space. Since you didn't push her, she may respect that, and now give you a little more attention where she hadn't noticed you before, and 15 minutes later you might be dancing with her.

Another mistake to make is don't wait too long. If it's obvious you're interested in a girl, and she thinks she's already flashed a smile and hasn't turned away from you... then if you sit there for 5 minutes trying to get the bravery to move over to her, she'll have lost interest by then. Save your energy.

Anyhow, my key recommendations: go, and actually enjoy the club. Don't just be spying on women. Focus on the venue and the music. You'll creep people out if you're standing in the corner just staring at everyone. Make yourself visible so they can see you, and get used to you. Don't just surprise a girl by jumping on her back. Find someone who you actually feel some chemistry with, not just some "hot girl".

My recommendations are for finding a decent girl. Any girl that will grind with a guy that climbs on her back.... you probably don't want to meet.

03-28-2007, 05:39 PM	#1
be-bop Operations Operative Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: scotland/uk Posts: 664	Do kids still dance with each other? Jeez it's been so long

04-04-2007, 12:02 AM	#2
Predicament Questionist Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 8	Man, I really should have found this thread earlier. I'm intimately familiar with the subject. (or at least I was, in my past life) :p Unless you're drop-dead handsome you can't just walk up to a girl and start dancing and expect her to be happy about it. Like most things in life, women need time to warm up. The key is to be out there dancing already. Be moving with the music, looking like you're having a good time. If you're there with friends, talk with them some, or if you're there solo then focus on doing a little shuffle while you spend most of your attention on the DJ / band. And don't try to "look" like you're having a good time... actually TRY to have a good time. Find a club where you like the music, so when you're shuffling and nodding your head you really enjoy it. Don't just be there to eyeball every cute girl. Girls will see you're out there, see you're not pawing all over them, see you're having a good time, and they'll be attracted to you. So, your key is to find the ones that are attracted to you. If there's some girl that never looks your way, then leave her alone. But if you catch eye-contact with a girl, then flash a smile. If she smiles back then turn a little towards her. DON'T dive in right away. Wait for her to acknowledge you. If she turns away from you, then leave her alone. If she stays put, or better yet turns toward you, then move in. (Don't immediately start booty grinding). If the girl turns away, it doesn't mean that you're lost. She may just want some space. Since you didn't push her, she may respect that, and now give you a little more attention where she hadn't noticed you before, and 15 minutes later you might be dancing with her. Another mistake to make is don't wait too long. If it's obvious you're interested in a girl, and she thinks she's already flashed a smile and hasn't turned away from you... then if you sit there for 5 minutes trying to get the bravery to move over to her, she'll have lost interest by then. Save your energy. Anyhow, my key recommendations: go, and actually enjoy the club. Don't just be spying on women. Focus on the venue and the music. You'll creep people out if you're standing in the corner just staring at everyone. Make yourself visible so they can see you, and get used to you. Don't just surprise a girl by jumping on her back. Find someone who you actually feel some chemistry with, not just some "hot girl". My recommendations are for finding a decent girl. Any girl that will grind with a guy that climbs on her back.... you probably don't want to meet.

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