Decisions.... - Page 3

richlevy · 03-15-2007, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Sun_Sparkz

he has gripes that i am flirty,and when guys hit on me he says it undermines him as a man.

I can see where the first item is controllable but what does he expect you to do about the second? From that brief statement he sounds insecure.

However, if you are flirty it may be a sign that you are not ready for a monogamous relationship with this guy.

03-15-2007, 06:36 PM

Does he have a reason not to trust you?
If not, insecurity like this is a sign that he has trust issues and will show up in other ways...
But, I have little patience for jealousy, I think it means that I am being objectified and tends to make me paranoid about the reasoning behind it. Why don't they trust me, does it mean they are not trustworthy and are projecting?
There is a core issue that I do not know and they will rarely share it.
I have little tolerance for it and have, in the past, always ended relationships with jealous people.
Perhaps I am not the best person to discuss this with.

What does flirty mean? Seriously, is it just smiling and being "flighty" and fun with men or physical and lots of dreamy eye contact while letting men buy you drinks and slow-dances while never telling them you are married/engaged/in a relationship?
Blaming you for their behavior is very telling and makes me think the former and not the latter, but you will have to tell us.

Aliantha · 03-16-2007, 02:24 AM

Isn't the key component of boffing that you actually don't want to be with them and you're pretty certain you don't really want to see them again after the deed is done?

That is unless they're a fuck buddy, then the playing field is a little different I guess.

Sun_Sparkz · 03-19-2007, 07:50 AM

flirting i think just means being super nice and bubbly and wanting to make friends. but most guys i do this with go "sweet - i'm in"
when all i want to do is be friends!!

this dude has no reason not to trust me, whenever i get hit on (weatehr he is there or not) i politely inform them of his importance in my life (when it is important, anyway)

this is getting slowly more complicated the longer we let it drag.

why cant he just agree to be my best friend??

Clodfobble · 03-19-2007, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Sun Sparkz

why cant he just agree to be my best friend??

...because then you won't have sex with him.

piercehawkeye45 · 03-19-2007, 11:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Sun_Sparkz

flirting i think just means being super nice and bubbly and wanting to make friends. but most guys i do this with go "sweet - i'm in"
when all i want to do is be friends!!

TEASE!!!!!!

Sun_Sparkz · 03-19-2007, 10:43 PM

SO NOT a tease! im just nice.

trust me clod - that is so not a problem to him!

Maui Nick · 03-25-2007, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Sun_Sparkz

why cant he just agree to be my best friend??

Because, deep down, he wants more than that. He wants to hang on and you seem ready to move on.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sun_Sparkz

this is getting slowly more complicated the longer we let it drag.

I'm the last person in the universe who should be giving relationship advice

but it seems a clean break might be best for both of you.

Sun_Sparkz · 03-28-2007, 06:48 AM

I just got off the phone with his boss. he had been lost in the outt back and had the cops etc all had been searhcing for him as he had no water etc. its shaken me quite a bit, he could have been lost for days (too far to walk to anyone) and died.

his boss had spoken to him on a satellite phone owned by his resucers and he had apparently asked them to call me and tell me he was ok and was coming home.

:/

TheMercenary · 03-28-2007, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Sun_Sparkz

I just got off the phone with his boss. he had been lost in the outt back and had the cops etc all had been searhcing for him as he had no water etc. its shaken me quite a bit, he could have been lost for days (too far to walk to anyone) and died.

his boss had spoken to him on a satellite phone owned by his resucers and he had apparently asked them to call me and tell me he was ok and was coming home.

:/

Maybe he was on one of those walk-about thingy adventrues to find himself and figure out why you won't have sex with him.

Sun_Sparkz · 04-12-2007, 07:32 AM

hehehehe.
maybe.
its not roclet science....

Urbane Guerrilla · 04-14-2007, 04:53 AM

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roclet science....

Ah, mytho-biology, the art and science of raising rocs from the egg.

03-16-2007, 02:24 AM	#33
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Isn't the key component of boffing that you actually don't want to be with them and you're pretty certain you don't really want to see them again after the deed is done? That is unless they're a fuck buddy, then the playing field is a little different I guess. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

03-19-2007, 07:50 AM	#34
Sun_Sparkz Has Body Temperature Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: I come from a land downunder Posts: 1,105	flirting i think just means being super nice and bubbly and wanting to make friends. but most guys i do this with go "sweet - i'm in" when all i want to do is be friends!! this dude has no reason not to trust me, whenever i get hit on (weatehr he is there or not) i politely inform them of his importance in my life (when it is important, anyway) this is getting slowly more complicated the longer we let it drag. why cant he just agree to be my best friend?? __________________ We'll never be as young as we are right now

03-19-2007, 10:43 PM	#37
Sun_Sparkz Has Body Temperature Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: I come from a land downunder Posts: 1,105	SO NOT a tease! im just nice. trust me clod - that is so not a problem to him! __________________ We'll never be as young as we are right now

03-28-2007, 06:48 AM	#39
Sun_Sparkz Has Body Temperature Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: I come from a land downunder Posts: 1,105	I just got off the phone with his boss. he had been lost in the outt back and had the cops etc all had been searhcing for him as he had no water etc. its shaken me quite a bit, he could have been lost for days (too far to walk to anyone) and died. his boss had spoken to him on a satellite phone owned by his resucers and he had apparently asked them to call me and tell me he was ok and was coming home. :/ __________________ We'll never be as young as we are right now

04-12-2007, 07:32 AM	#41
Sun_Sparkz Has Body Temperature Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: I come from a land downunder Posts: 1,105	hehehehe. maybe. its not roclet science.... __________________ We'll never be as young as we are right now

03-15-2007, 06:36 PM	#32
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	Does he have a reason not to trust you? If not, insecurity like this is a sign that he has trust issues and will show up in other ways... But, I have little patience for jealousy, I think it means that I am being objectified and tends to make me paranoid about the reasoning behind it. Why don't they trust me, does it mean they are not trustworthy and are projecting? There is a core issue that I do not know and they will rarely share it. I have little tolerance for it and have, in the past, always ended relationships with jealous people. Perhaps I am not the best person to discuss this with. What does flirty mean? Seriously, is it just smiling and being "flighty" and fun with men or physical and lots of dreamy eye contact while letting men buy you drinks and slow-dances while never telling them you are married/engaged/in a relationship? Blaming you for their behavior is very telling and makes me think the former and not the latter, but you will have to tell us.

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