I liked your last para there Dana. It's so true.
Rkz, I can't add much more than everyone else has already said, but you know I'm always around at about the same time as you seem to be, so pm me if you like. Just no politics in the pm's though ok?
I think you're doing the right thing by encouraging your wife to get out of the house sometimes. She needs to keep herself mentally strong for you and your son, but if she doesn't get any let up, that's going to be hard for her to do.
What your parents decide to do is their decision matey. Don't burden yourself with their choices. What you think they should do probably wont make much difference to what they will do in the end. Just let them love you the way they need to. They will never begrudge you anything.
Hang in there. We'll be hanging with you.