The Sex Thread - Page 67

Perry Winkle · 08-28-2007, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

It's pretty simple with men, but when a woman says she's never had an orgasm, with or without a partner, how does she know?

That's the thing. She'll build up to the highest peak I've seen her at then wind down. Then she'll tell me to stop because things have become really sensitive. Sounds like an orgasm to me, but who am I to say.

Undertoad · 08-28-2007, 01:38 PM

Is she on any medications?

smurfalicious · 08-28-2007, 01:51 PM

Good point re: meds. I was on an antidepressant for a short time and even though my doctor insisted that it could not affect my sex drive, it did. Not only that, but it decreased sensitivity to the point where climax was not possible. I stopped taking the meds (and going to that doctor), and it all went back to normal.

Things get better with age. I'm 31 now and am starting to notice a huge increase in drive and pleasure.

The lover makes all the difference in the world, though it's not always for lack of trying that some are not as successful.

I cannot orgasm during cunnilingus. I used to, before I gave birth. But since then, lo those 8 + years ago, I think I've come maybe twice that way. I don't think I have any hang-ups that would be preventing an orgasm. It's a mystery.

My emotional state greatly affects my ability to orgasm. Can't help it, I'm a chick, gotta have that emotional connection... unless it's the rare occasion it's PURE lust.

I don't think anyone could not know if they have an orgasm. You pretty much know. Maybe she's just one of those women who can't orgasm. It happens. Not that I'm suggesting you give up.

I've heard of sex counselors helping people.

xoxoxoBruce · 08-28-2007, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by smurfalicious

I don't think anyone could not know if they have an orgasm. You pretty much know.

How about if your perception of what it should be is skewed? Descriptions from peers and romance novels can be misleading.

Probably the best bet is not to worry, enjoy, and do it till ya can't or don't wanna anymore.

smurfalicious · 08-28-2007, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

How about if your perception of what it should be is skewed?

I thought of that - that's why my response was somewhat noncommittal. I'm just saying that sex can be immensely pleasurable and not produce orgasm, but I think that most people know, if instinctively, that they have experienced an orgasm. There are always exceptions.

That being said, I'm suddenly having a very difficult time concentrating on work right now...

Perry Winkle · 08-28-2007, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Undertoad

Is she on any medications?

Birth control pills. Can't recall the flavor at the moment.

Perry Winkle · 08-28-2007, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Probably the best bet is not to worry, enjoy, and do it till ya can't or don't wanna anymore.

That's my plan. I need to figure out how to mitigate the neck cramps though...

Happy Monkey · 08-28-2007, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

Birth control pills. Can't recall the flavor at the moment.

Popped Cherry?

Deuce · 08-28-2007, 04:43 PM

"Cherry Pop"

limey · 08-28-2007, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Deuce

"Cherry Pop"

Tee hee

(nice to see ya here, Deuce!)

limey · 08-28-2007, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

That's the thing. She'll build up to the highest peak I've seen her at then wind down. Then she'll tell me to stop because things have become really sensitive. Sounds like an orgasm to me, but who am I to say.

Some orgasms are all big and explosive, and some are almost a let-down after the big build-up, but I'm just as sensitive afterwards either way. You don't have to stop caressing her, just leave the clitoris alone for a few (three?) minutes, and then gently give it another go (if you're up for it) ...

DucksNuts · 08-28-2007, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

That's the thing. She'll build up to the highest peak I've seen her at then wind down. Then she'll tell me to stop because things have become really sensitive. Sounds like an orgasm to me, but who am I to say.

Hmmm, it does sound like an orgasm....I'm tipping, she's coming and its getting a bit lost in the after effects, because youre still down there. Then the sensitivity kicks in.

I've had that happen with newish partners.

xoxoxoBruce · 08-28-2007, 09:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Perry Winkle

That's my plan. I need to figure out how to mitigate the neck cramps though...

If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. Use pillows and props, get creative with the furniture, so you are both comfortable and relaxed. Work this out together, it's a team sport.

Shawnee123 · 08-29-2007, 07:57 AM

One piece of advice: do NOT act like you're trying to ERASE the damn thing.

Cicero · 08-30-2007, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Shawnee123

One piece of advice: do NOT act like you're trying to ERASE the damn thing.

LOL!!!!!!

Now on with it folks............I've got some learning to do here.

08-28-2007, 01:51 PM	#993
smurfalicious Tool. Not the band - you are one. Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: 501 Northlake Blvd., North Palm Beach FL Posts: 329	Good point re: meds. I was on an antidepressant for a short time and even though my doctor insisted that it could not affect my sex drive, it did. Not only that, but it decreased sensitivity to the point where climax was not possible. I stopped taking the meds (and going to that doctor), and it all went back to normal. Things get better with age. I'm 31 now and am starting to notice a huge increase in drive and pleasure. The lover makes all the difference in the world, though it's not always for lack of trying that some are not as successful. I cannot orgasm during cunnilingus. I used to, before I gave birth. But since then, lo those 8 + years ago, I think I've come maybe twice that way. I don't think I have any hang-ups that would be preventing an orgasm. It's a mystery. My emotional state greatly affects my ability to orgasm. Can't help it, I'm a chick, gotta have that emotional connection... unless it's the rare occasion it's PURE lust. I don't think anyone could not know if they have an orgasm. You pretty much know. Maybe she's just one of those women who can't orgasm. It happens. Not that I'm suggesting you give up. I've heard of sex counselors helping people. __________________

08-29-2007, 07:57 AM	#1004
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	One piece of advice: do NOT act like you're trying to ERASE the damn thing. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-28-2007, 01:38 PM	#992
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	Is she on any medications?

08-28-2007, 04:43 PM	#999
Deuce Pesky Pugalist [sp] Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 191	"Cherry Pop"

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