OK Fresh, I'll go you one better. I got married at 20 and divorced at 22. One of those events lists among the best things to ever happen in my life, but you can decide which.
At 22 I found myself single and completely stripped of confidence. I tried dating right away only to realize that I wanted desperately to date and have fun with the womenz so I only ended up with some, er... less than ideal partners.
So I decided before trying to show some woman why I was worth getting to know, I better figure it out for myself. Unless you are just a complete douche there has got to be something interesting about you. Figure it out. Embrace it. Then try something new. Quit focusing in the womenz and focus on you. Not in a self involved King of the world way, but in a this is one of those rare times in life where you are free to grow without the pressures of family or girlfriends weighing you down with responsibility. Become someone you think is interesting. Don't act like it - be it.
If you don't have the slightest clue where to begin go get a part time gig at a bar - not a dance club, but a bar. You'll meet all kinds of men and women. You'll see some real standup guys who are the focus of the room with no effort and you'll meet guys who are complete and utter asshats who think they rock. Take the time to spot the differences. Being a nice guy doesn't mean being a weak wristed little puss. there is a world of difference between a gentleman and a doormat even though you can use some of the same adjectives. Women don't like what they can't respect and it is impossible to respect a dishrag. Learn who you are and do some growing before trying to be a stud. You'll find that when you've actually done that you won't ask for a number, they'll ask for yours. And the cool thing is that after you've dated for a little while and moved on they'll turn their friends onto you if you really have treated them right. (obviously that doesn't apply if you are looking for "the one").
08-04-2008, 05:10 PM
Hybrid Mode
