Who does homosexuality hurt?

[morethanpretty]

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

I can only come up with one group of people that homosexuality can hurt, family. There is a pervasive attitude in our Me Generation that anyone can do anything and it has little to no consequence, as long as it makes you happy. I think if parents and family are not comfortable with choices you make as teens and young adults and you ignore other peoples feelings who support you, then you should really not be surprised when you loose that support, emotional, financial, educational, etc. So yea, you can hurt those around you, even if you don't mean to do it.

Family gets hurt by other family members' actions all the time that have nothing to do with their sexual orientation. We can't do everything that "family" wants us to do and be personally happy. At least that is what I've found. I don't ignore their feelings, but yes mine are more important. I don't treat them like bad people or stupid (even when I think they are), I just say "Look, this makes me happy, you love me, then you should just be happy that I'm responsible, healthy and happy." In my honest opinion if your family tells you want religion, sexual orientation, career ect you should have, and pull support from you without meeting those goals they've set...then they don't have any real love for you. You love someone you want them to be happy and successful, thats it. They shouldn't define what makes you happy, just be happy for you when you find your own definition.

[TheMercenary]

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

Family gets hurt by other family members' actions all the time that have nothing to do with their sexual orientation. We can't do everything that "family" wants us to do and be personally happy.

I didn't say you should, only that your actions often hurt the ones you love or that love you the most as you attempt to go off and define yourself.

At least that is what I've found. I don't ignore their feelings, but yes mine are more important. I don't treat them like bad people or stupid (even when I think they are), I just say "Look, this makes me happy, you love me, then you should just be happy that I'm responsible, healthy and happy."

Right out of the mouth of the Me Generation. Just because they love you does not mean that your actions, any actions or decisions in your life, cannot be hurtful to them in someway and you at least admit that you don't care if you hurt them, as long as you are happy.

In my honest opinion if your family tells you want religion, sexual orientation, career ect you should have, and pull support from you without meeting those goals they've set...then they don't have any real love for you.

I didn't say they didn't love you or would not love you, only that your actions can hurt them in your atttempt to be whom ever you want to be.

You love someone you want them to be happy and successful, thats it. They shouldn't define what makes you happy, just be happy for you when you find your own definition.

Absolutely. But there is no requirement for them to continue to support you even if they love you. Just because they love you does not mean they owe you financial, material, or emotional support. That kind of attitude says that the only thing in life is what is important to you and screw what they think.

[kerosene]

Originally Posted by TheMercenary

I didn't say you should, only that your actions often hurt the ones you love or that love you the most as you attempt to go off and define yourself.

Right out of the mouth of the Me Generation. Just because they love you does not mean that your actions, any actions or decisions in your life, cannot be hurtful to them in someway and you at least admit that you don't care if you hurt them, as long as you are happy.

I didn't say they didn't love you or would not love you, only that your actions can hurt them in your atttempt to be whom ever you want to be.

Absolutely. But there is no requirement for them to continue to support you even if they love you. Just because they love you does not mean they owe you financial, material, or emotional support. That kind of attitude says that the only thing in life is what is important to you and screw what they think.

This closely resembles a few of the conversations I had with my dad when I was 19/20ish. Wow. Talk about flashbacks.