Things I am truly thankful for ...

orthodoc · 11-28-2013, 05:26 AM

include, front and center, my daughter's decision/realization/illumination that, although her fiance isn't abusive or otherwise evil, she needs to pursue her life dreams and goals rather than fit herself into his life vision.

Some rocky times ahead, but her head and heart are both in the right place. She will be moving back east asap and enrolling at a nearby university to finish her Fine Arts degree. She wants to be a museum curator.

limey · 11-28-2013, 06:16 AM

Wow! Great news, Ortho!

DanaC · 11-28-2013, 07:10 AM

Fucking A.

That is good news.

Aliantha · 11-28-2013, 07:46 AM

Awesome!

Griff · 11-28-2013, 07:54 AM

Excellent!

glatt · 11-28-2013, 08:30 AM

That's outstanding. Good for her.

Clodfobble · 11-28-2013, 08:35 AM

Wow! Is she moving in with you, or is she still on her feet, so to speak?

BigV · 11-28-2013, 10:19 AM

*blinks in disbelief*

As a parent, you sometimes wonder if they're ever going to "get it". Then when they do, it's a surprise. I don't think I have low expectations, it's just the just the random timing and the uncertainty about what the trigger is/will be that produces the surprise. Maybe startled is a better choice of words. I'm not surprised, since I've been sowing since they were little; it's nice to reap for a change.

Congrats to you and yours orthodoc.

orthodoc · 11-28-2013, 10:54 AM

We were SO surprised when she told us last night on the drive home from the airport ... she had mentioned on the phone recently that she wanted to talk with us this holiday, so we both went to pick her up and offered to talk on the private 90-minute drive home. You could have knocked us over with a feather when she asked our opinion on her coming back east to go to school at the nearby university (state school, excellent reputation for Fine Arts, very reasonable tuition). And then asked, without assuming anything, if it would be okay with us if she lived at home, paid us rent in cash or kind (professional cleaning), and commuted to school, 20 minutes up the highway. She told us that she's realized she needs to get back on track and pursue HER dreams and goals, not fit herself into someone else's.

The trigger is/was a good friend out west who said all the things to our daughter that parents want to say, but can't, because the risk of pushing a child away/further down a doubtful road is high. We were going to tactfully but definitely bring up the topic this holiday but the friend beat us to it. And daughter was ready to hear the friend's thoughts at that particular time ...

I can't convey how happy it makes me that she's taking her life back and looking to fulfill her dreams and potential. The past year has shown her that she wants more than cleaning houses as a career, and that minimum wage is not a living wage. She has worked hard and learned to pay her way, and found out that when two people are not on the same page and have different dreams and goals, they aren't suited for a long-term relationship. Neither one has to be a villain; they just need to follow their own paths.

I'm so very thankful.

Gravdigr · 11-28-2013, 03:12 PM

Good for her.

And you.

Bloke · 11-28-2013, 03:34 PM

Excellent. Happy days!

Big Sarge · 11-28-2013, 07:54 PM

Great news! I'm so happy for you

xoxoxoBruce · 12-01-2013, 01:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by orthodoc

She will be moving back east asap and enrolling at a nearby university to finish her Fine Arts degree. She wants to be a museum curator.

What? Museum Curator? Doesn't she know hookers can make ten times what a curators does?

Seriously though, congratulations, you must have drug her up good and proper.

Pete Zicato · 12-03-2013, 06:43 PM

Good news. I hope everything works out for all concerned.

11-28-2013, 05:26 AM	#1
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Things I am truly thankful for ... include, front and center, my daughter's decision/realization/illumination that, although her fiance isn't abusive or otherwise evil, she needs to pursue her life dreams and goals rather than fit herself into his life vision. Some rocky times ahead, but her head and heart are both in the right place. She will be moving back east asap and enrolling at a nearby university to finish her Fine Arts degree. She wants to be a museum curator. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

11-28-2013, 06:16 AM	#2
limey Encroaching on your decrees Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: An island within the south-west coast of Scotland Posts: 7,016	Wow! Great news, Ortho! __________________ Living it up on the edge ... of civilisation, within the southwest coast of

11-28-2013, 07:46 AM	#4
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Awesome! __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

11-28-2013, 07:54 AM	#5
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Excellent! __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

11-28-2013, 08:35 AM	#7
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Wow! Is she moving in with you, or is she still on her feet, so to speak? __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

11-28-2013, 08:30 AM	#6
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	That's outstanding. Good for her.

11-28-2013, 10:19 AM	#8
BigV Goon Squad Leader Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Seattle Posts: 27,063	blinks in disbelief As a parent, you sometimes wonder if they're ever going to "get it". Then when they do, it's a surprise. I don't think I have low expectations, it's just the just the random timing and the uncertainty about what the trigger is/will be that produces the surprise. Maybe startled is a better choice of words. I'm not surprised, since I've been sowing since they were little; it's nice to reap for a change. Congrats to you and yours orthodoc. __________________ Be Just and Fear Not.

11-28-2013, 10:54 AM	#9
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	We were SO surprised when she told us last night on the drive home from the airport ... she had mentioned on the phone recently that she wanted to talk with us this holiday, so we both went to pick her up and offered to talk on the private 90-minute drive home. You could have knocked us over with a feather when she asked our opinion on her coming back east to go to school at the nearby university (state school, excellent reputation for Fine Arts, very reasonable tuition). And then asked, without assuming anything, if it would be okay with us if she lived at home, paid us rent in cash or kind (professional cleaning), and commuted to school, 20 minutes up the highway. She told us that she's realized she needs to get back on track and pursue HER dreams and goals, not fit herself into someone else's. The trigger is/was a good friend out west who said all the things to our daughter that parents want to say, but can't, because the risk of pushing a child away/further down a doubtful road is high. We were going to tactfully but definitely bring up the topic this holiday but the friend beat us to it. And daughter was ready to hear the friend's thoughts at that particular time ... I can't convey how happy it makes me that she's taking her life back and looking to fulfill her dreams and potential. The past year has shown her that she wants more than cleaning houses as a career, and that minimum wage is not a living wage. She has worked hard and learned to pay her way, and found out that when two people are not on the same page and have different dreams and goals, they aren't suited for a long-term relationship. Neither one has to be a villain; they just need to follow their own paths. I'm so very thankful. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

11-28-2013, 03:12 PM	#10
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11-28-2013, 03:34 PM	#11
Bloke Almost normal... Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: High Wycombe. Posts: 109	Excellent. Happy days!

11-28-2013, 07:54 PM	#12
Big Sarge Werepandas - lurking in your shadows Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: In the Deep South Posts: 3,408	Great news! I'm so happy for you __________________ Give a man a match, & he'll be warm for 20 seconds. But toss that man a white phosphorus grenade and he'll be warm for the rest of his life.

12-03-2013, 06:43 PM	#14
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