Ask the Transperson

[Pamela]

Agreed, BigV. I dislike those of us who try to manipulate language like that.

This should not be so difficult to figure out. I find straight people stumbling over words that any first grader can use mor eoffensive than anything. I appear female, use female pronouns. I find the neuter case offensive because it dehumanies the person. And anyone trying to get you to use it to refer to any human being is being a total jackass and you may quote me. Apologies to all jackasses who may be offended by having their name used to describe such humans.

I do not hold with trying to create a third (or more) gender. There are two. That's it. This is why I feel that we need labels, however annoying they are.

In my presence, I am 'she'. You all also have permission to call me tranny. I have developed quite a thick hide whhile transitioning. I react less to the word and more to the meaning behind the use of the word. Calling me tranny as a contraction or for short. Transsexual IS a long word. And awkward. But, saying "You trannies all make me sick!" THAT I dislike.

See the difference?

Nice try to stump me, V. But us Grammar Nazis don't go down easily!

[sexobon]

Originally Posted by Pamela

... This is why I feel that we need labels, however annoying they are. ...

I was wondering about another aspect of that. We don't say Same Sex Oriented and add a qualifier MtM or FtF, we say Gay or Lesbian. Why are we stuck using MtF and FtM qualifiers with Transsexuals instead of having separate names? Is it due to a lack of consensus? Obviously, my exposure to the dialect occurs mainly here.