For the armchair-therapist Dwellars

[glatt]

Yeah. The feeling multiple emotional reactions at the same time thing is something I experience too. You described it pretty much exactly the way it is for me. Usually, I'll know how I'm supposed to feel, and so I decide to focus on that emotion. Sometimes I surprise myself and have a single strong appropriate emotion, but it's fairly rare.

I'm not a control freak. At all. So my advice would come from that perspective and probably won't resonate with you. Just let it be. Don't sweat it. Some stuff you can't control. Focus on the stuff you can. It's easier.