What's bumming your stone today? - Page 5

Griff · 08-08-2011, 08:45 PM

I'm sorry about ur stone.

infinite monkey · 08-08-2011, 09:25 PM

Dating? After one year? Are you insane?

Your mileage may vary. Enjoy yourself.

jimhelm · 08-14-2011, 11:44 PM

Taking the kids back to their moms place always bums my stone.

jimhelm · 08-14-2011, 11:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

Dating? After one year? Are you insane?

Your mileage may vary. Enjoy yourself.

It was I'll advised to be sure. I've simply prolonged the inevitable. I had plugged a hole I felt. Better idea to let the hole heal on it's own. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.

monster · 08-15-2011, 12:16 AM

Jim, sorry it hurts, but better that than lies and deception. No? is there a perfect way to do it?

Aliantha · 08-15-2011, 01:43 AM

I'm still sick. That's bumming my stone. And it's even more bummed after reading through this thread.

xoxoxoBruce · 08-15-2011, 02:25 AM

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Originally Posted by DanaC

All depends what price is being offered :p

How about an automobile?

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Originally Posted by glatt

"Don't deserve it" is sloppy shorthand for "you don't deserve it." But it's really not my place to weigh in on what you deserve and don't deserve. Poor choice of words. I'm sorry you're going through this though.

Nobody deserves that.

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Originally Posted by Aliantha

I'm still sick. That's bumming my stone. And it's even more bummed after reading through this thread.

Or that either.

jimhelm · 08-15-2011, 04:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

Jim, sorry it hurts, but better that than lies and deception. No? is there a perfect way to do it?

I know that's right.

I'm gonna armor myself in solitude for a while, I think. take care of the things I have been postponing, and clean up the mess I've made of my life in general. I don't need help distracting myself.

be a solitary man....

Griff · 08-15-2011, 04:25 PM

Cash nails it.

infinite monkey · 08-15-2011, 04:28 PM

It'll get better, jim. I was solitary for a long time, wouldn't date or hook-up or anything. When I did "jump back in" so to speak I apparently wasn't ready because I made a couple really bad choices.

I'm still solitary location-wise though there is someone in my life I care about who lives too far away. Maybe that's one way I can be very very careful still.

I wouldn't recommend my style of "easing back in" because I think people do need other people. We just have to be very careful if we're getting what we need or what we think we need, and it takes time to sort out "you."

jimhelm · 08-15-2011, 04:41 PM

Thanks L

srsly.

I have a couple good buddies that I can rap with if I need it. And then there's youse guise. and my mom still thinks I'm cool... so, I've got that going for me.

kerosene · 08-15-2011, 06:15 PM

Which is nice.

(I just can't help it. I thought I could resist in type form, but apparently I cannot.)

Jim, I am sorry you are going through this. That is probably something I said to you before, but I say it again, because I mean it again.

Solitary time is good for you. I wish I had done that before. I am fortunate that my relationship has survived the turmoil that goes with that period right after a major breakup with someone else. Everyone says you should wait and heal, and I didn't do that. I recommend it, though. I think you will thank yourself later and be much much stronger for it.

Aliantha · 08-15-2011, 06:22 PM

It was five years after I broke up with my older boys father before I met Dazza. It was good having that time to sort myself out, but in saying that, there were certainly a number of dalliances to spice up the journey though. Solitude might be good for healing, but the human touch has some pretty magical qualities also.

jimhelm · 08-15-2011, 06:35 PM

It felt very good to have some affection after the crash ending of my marriage. I realized that even during my marriage I was not getting much of it. So, yeah.. pretty magical. I turned a blind eye to everything else, I think. I guess its a balance we need to find, like everything.

Aliantha · 08-15-2011, 06:38 PM

You can't bake a cake with only one ingredient.

08-08-2011, 08:45 PM	#61
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	I'm sorry about ur stone. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

08-14-2011, 11:44 PM	#63
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	Taking the kids back to their moms place always bums my stone. __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

08-15-2011, 12:16 AM	#65
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Jim, sorry it hurts, but better that than lies and deception. No? is there a perfect way to do it? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

08-15-2011, 01:43 AM	#66
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I'm still sick. That's bumming my stone. And it's even more bummed after reading through this thread. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-15-2011, 04:25 PM	#69
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Cash nails it. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

08-08-2011, 09:25 PM	#62
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Dating? After one year? Are you insane? Your mileage may vary. Enjoy yourself.

08-15-2011, 04:28 PM	#70
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	It'll get better, jim. I was solitary for a long time, wouldn't date or hook-up or anything. When I did "jump back in" so to speak I apparently wasn't ready because I made a couple really bad choices. I'm still solitary location-wise though there is someone in my life I care about who lives too far away. Maybe that's one way I can be very very careful still. I wouldn't recommend my style of "easing back in" because I think people do need other people. We just have to be very careful if we're getting what we need or what we think we need, and it takes time to sort out "you."

08-15-2011, 04:41 PM	#71
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	Thanks L srsly. I have a couple good buddies that I can rap with if I need it. And then there's youse guise. and my mom still thinks I'm cool... so, I've got that going for me. __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

08-15-2011, 06:15 PM	#72
kerosene Touring the facilities Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The plains of Colorado Posts: 3,476	Which is nice. (I just can't help it. I thought I could resist in type form, but apparently I cannot.) Jim, I am sorry you are going through this. That is probably something I said to you before, but I say it again, because I mean it again. Solitary time is good for you. I wish I had done that before. I am fortunate that my relationship has survived the turmoil that goes with that period right after a major breakup with someone else. Everyone says you should wait and heal, and I didn't do that. I recommend it, though. I think you will thank yourself later and be much much stronger for it.

08-15-2011, 06:22 PM	#73
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	It was five years after I broke up with my older boys father before I met Dazza. It was good having that time to sort myself out, but in saying that, there were certainly a number of dalliances to spice up the journey though. Solitude might be good for healing, but the human touch has some pretty magical qualities also. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

08-15-2011, 06:35 PM	#74
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	It felt very good to have some affection after the crash ending of my marriage. I realized that even during my marriage I was not getting much of it. So, yeah.. pretty magical. I turned a blind eye to everything else, I think. I guess its a balance we need to find, like everything. __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

08-15-2011, 06:38 PM	#75
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	You can't bake a cake with only one ingredient. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

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