Sexual History vs Virginity

Madman · 10-12-2006, 09:21 PM

Of all the topics to do a first thread (mine) and a poll to boot. What do I pick? Sex! Go figure. Okay, here it is:

With all this talk about the sexual history of your partner. It really appears that no one (not many) really had a tizzy over the sexual exploits of their partner.

One thing that I haven't read about is the possibly of "doing it over" again. Of course we can't back up the hands of time. But, with the old saying "hindsight is 20/20" - would we if we could?

morethanpretty · 10-12-2006, 09:27 PM

I wouldn't...but then again I have only ever had one partner...and I'm still with him :P

Clodfobble · 10-12-2006, 09:44 PM

Hell no. It takes a long time, especially for women, to figure out just what works for them. Those early years are essential practice, and as far as I'm concerned newlyweds don't need the added stress of having no clue what you're doing in the bedroom...

ashke · 10-12-2006, 10:59 PM

How do virgins go about it in the bedroom anyway?? Lots of fumbling?

morethanpretty · 10-12-2006, 11:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ashke

How do virgins go about it in the bedroom anyway?? Lots of fumbling?

You were never a virgin? Wow you started early.

mrnoodle · 10-12-2006, 11:32 PM

How do they go about it? It's just sex, the damn dog is smart enough to figure it out

ashke · 10-13-2006, 12:37 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morethanpretty

You were never a virgin? Wow you started early.

No, no, I was never in such a situation although I could be (in the future).

So how?

10-13-2006, 01:00 AM

We've been together far too long to worry about that kinda' shit.

Sundae · 10-13-2006, 05:20 AM

Can't answer as 1) am not currently with a partner
2) there is no option to remove some of my partners from my history.

Nothing to do with numbers, just some people I shouldn't have slept with and would be happy to erase from my memory. But realistically I suppose everything you do contributes to who you are today (especially when you learned from the mistakes) so I'd best keep the whole package.

I would never want to go back to being a virgin at my age. A future partner would feel an enormous amount of responsibility if he knew I'd resisted for 34 years in order to give him the gift of my maidenhead.

And I wouldn't want to sleep with a virgin at this age either. I remember what that was like from my teens, and that was when I had little experience myself. To me a loving, emotional encounter is far more likely from a lover with previous experience. With the best will in the world, a bull-at-a-gate jackhammer approach tends to characterise a man's first efforts.

Griff · 10-13-2006, 05:56 AM

Wouldn't change. How we got here is who we are. Besides only Kirk should be allowed to fool with time/space.

Pie · 10-13-2006, 07:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ashke

No, no, I was never in such a situation although I could be (in the future).

So how?

Two words: start slow.

morethanpretty · 10-13-2006, 08:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ashke

No, no, I was never in such a situation although I could be (in the future).

So how?

sorry i jumped to conclusions.

If you know where everything is you should be fine. Just be safe, and careful with who you choose, don't make a hasty decision. look at me; giving advice i didn't take

ashke · 10-13-2006, 09:15 AM

I'll keep that in mind ^^

Ibby · 10-13-2006, 09:28 AM

Since I dont have hindsight of it yet, then I'm hoping my foresight's 20/20 too...

Clodfobble · 10-13-2006, 10:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ashke

No, no, I was never in such a situation although I could be (in the future).

So how?

My number one rule would be to not be afraid to speak up about anything that is uncomfortable, etc. You can of course always move up to telling him what you actually want

... but start with the baby steps. I know so many women who found sex to be genuinely unpleasant for a long time because they thought it was just "supposed" to be that way.

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10-12-2006, 09:21 PM	#1
Madman has left the building. Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 455	Sexual History vs Virginity Of all the topics to do a first thread (mine) and a poll to boot. What do I pick? Sex! Go figure. Okay, here it is: With all this talk about the sexual history of your partner. It really appears that no one (not many) really had a tizzy over the sexual exploits of their partner. One thing that I haven't read about is the possibly of "doing it over" again. Of course we can't back up the hands of time. But, with the old saying "hindsight is 20/20" - would we if we could?

10-12-2006, 09:27 PM	#2
morethanpretty Thats "Miss Zipper Neck" to you. Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: little town (but not the littlest) in texas Posts: 2,957	I wouldn't...but then again I have only ever had one partner...and I'm still with him :P __________________ Addicts may suck dick for coke, but love came up with the idea to put a dick in there to begin with. -Jack O'Brien

10-12-2006, 11:32 PM	#6
mrnoodle bent Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: under the weather Posts: 2,656	How do they go about it? It's just sex, the damn dog is smart enough to figure it out __________________ Sìn a nall na cuaranan sin. -- Cha mhór is fheairrde thu iad, tha iad coltach ri cat air a dhathadh

10-13-2006, 05:20 AM	#9
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Can't answer as 1) am not currently with a partner 2) there is no option to remove some of my partners from my history. Nothing to do with numbers, just some people I shouldn't have slept with and would be happy to erase from my memory. But realistically I suppose everything you do contributes to who you are today (especially when you learned from the mistakes) so I'd best keep the whole package. I would never want to go back to being a virgin at my age. A future partner would feel an enormous amount of responsibility if he knew I'd resisted for 34 years in order to give him the gift of my maidenhead. And I wouldn't want to sleep with a virgin at this age either. I remember what that was like from my teens, and that was when I had little experience myself. To me a loving, emotional encounter is far more likely from a lover with previous experience. With the best will in the world, a bull-at-a-gate jackhammer approach tends to characterise a man's first efforts. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

10-12-2006, 09:44 PM	#3
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Hell no. It takes a long time, especially for women, to figure out just what works for them. Those early years are essential practice, and as far as I'm concerned newlyweds don't need the added stress of having no clue what you're doing in the bedroom...

10-12-2006, 10:59 PM	#4
ashke Don't look at me! Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Singapore Posts: 288	How do virgins go about it in the bedroom anyway?? Lots of fumbling?

10-13-2006, 01:00 AM	#8
rkzenrage Guest Posts: n/a	We've been together far too long to worry about that kinda' shit.

10-13-2006, 05:56 AM	#10
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Wouldn't change. How we got here is who we are. Besides only Kirk should be allowed to fool with time/space. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

10-13-2006, 09:15 AM	#13
ashke Don't look at me! Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Singapore Posts: 288	I'll keep that in mind ^^

10-13-2006, 09:28 AM	#14
Ibby erika Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: "the high up north" Posts: 6,127	Since I dont have hindsight of it yet, then I'm hoping my foresight's 20/20 too... __________________ not really back, you didn't see me, i was never here shhhhhh

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