I'm a middle school kid again

[freshnesschronic]

How do you dance with girls? Approach them, get them to notice you, get their interest in you.

Many of you know I recently broke up with my girl last week, so tonight I was gonna show the world how over her I am.

Fucked it up. Went to this bar/club where I danced with not 5, not 10 but 0 girls. Didn't even have the balls to get in the position to make a move. I'm so used to having a girlfriend and not worry about "prospects" that I totally realized I am no where being over my ex. I called her while I was there, told her I wasn't having a good time and still loved her (let the jokes roll). But I know things ultimately won't work out, but still I miss having her. That's why I went to the club tonite, to start to figure out how to be single, except it made me feel even more emo and lame.

[Spexxvet]

I think you have to walk up behind a girl and pull her pigtails.

[Perry Winkle]

I think you did show the world how over her you are. That is, not so very much over her.

Really, don't go out and put pressure on yourself to pull off some kind of Don Juan performance. It's not going to happen, and you'll just end up frustrated.

Also, you need to realize that pretty much everybody else has some sort of insecurity that they're dealing with. You feel like an emo lamer; the guy dancing with every babe in the room has the same insecurity, he's just ignoring it and having fun.

[SteveDallas]

Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

How do you dance with girls?

Abraham Lincoln is reputed to have said to his future second wife, "I would like to dance with you in the worst way." She later remarked that he had indeed done it in the worst way... stepping all over her feet, etc.

Originally Posted by Spexxvet

I think you have to walk up behind a girl and pull her pigtails.

I thought you were supposed to put the pigtails in your inkwell?

Anyway as should be obvious by now I have no helpful advice. But I would suggest you examine whether a club like this is an environment that's good for you to meet girls. By "good" I mean you're comfortable there, you like the place, etc. Maybe it is--if so, go for it. If not, consider where else you might go. If you're not at ease in your surroundings, there's no way you will make any time with the ladies.

[Sheldonrs]

Just walk up to a girl and sa out loud, "Do you smell fish?". As she is running after you to kick your balls into the next county, the other girls there will see her chasing you and assume you must be really hot
and then they will want to meet you.

[SteveDallas]

Not only that, once she does successfully kick your balls into the next county, you won't care about meeting any women.

[Perry Winkle]

If timidity is a big issue for you, do what I did: stop masturbating.

When the juices build way up you become much less risk averse and way more aggressive in pursuing your goal.

[freshnesschronic]

I can't tell what is real advice anymore.

[Perry Winkle]

Everything I say is true, but I may mislead you on purpose.

[Griff]

... so I shouldn't suggest pushing one down on the playground then?

[piercehawkeye45]

I'm having the same problem fresh but a little different. I never had a long relationship so I know how you feel ALL too well. I am usually very shy and have the exact same problems as you. I have a very bipolar confidence when it comes to girls, sometimes I will have all the confidence in the world and sometimes I will have none. It really depends on how I am feeling and if I'm drunk or not (alcohol is confidence in a bottle for me).

I can't give you any suggestions that have worked 100% for me but confidence is always a big part. I would advise going to there to have a good time instead to dance with girls. I have found that when I am there to have a good time I will end up dancing with more girls than if I go there to dance with girls.

[SteveDallas]

Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

I can't tell what is real advice anymore.

For the record, I was not suggesting you use Lincoln's line. Unless, perhaps, you're attending the Historical Society Cotillion.

[freshnesschronic]

Originally Posted by piercehawkeye45

I'm having the same problem fresh but a little different. I never had a long relationship so I know how you feel ALL too well.

Wait, but I just came out of a long relationship.

[piercehawkeye45]

That means I have always been the single guy that usually doesn't dance with anyone. High School dances sucked for me. It is your first time, that is why it is different. Sorry I made that confusing.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by freshnesschronic

I can't tell what is real advice anymore.

That's because there isn't any, every male in the world, was still trying to figure it out when the next stage of his life took over.
Everyone is different, some are very bold, some are very shy, some are comfortable hanging with girls.

The ones that can hang with them, get to meet more of them, but that doesn't mean they have more chance of connecting. They could consider you a confidant, like a brother, and most girls don't date their brothers.

The only thing that will allow you to get over her is time. During that time just try to keep busy amusing yourself. When the time is right, one of them will cull you out of the herd. Then you'll be sorry you didn't make better use of your single time, because you won't have any time of your own, anymore.