I'm Jim, and I'm a Compulsive Overeater

[Pooka]

Oh that is Excellent Stormie!!!

That is pretty similar to what I do, but requires less introspection... which for me is actually better... I'm so very OCD.

I've gone through The Work of Byron Katie... if you aren't familiar she pretty much gives you the tools you need in her book titled Loving What Is. It changed my life.

LJ... I sincerely hope this proves an opportunity to create a deeper bond between you and Jinx. I wish you guys the best.

[lumberjim]

Originally Posted by Pooka

LJ... I sincerely hope this proves an opportunity to create a deeper bond between you and Jinx. I wish you guys the best.

thanks, Pooka.

Today, my mind is thinking of how I neglected that bond. If I get another chance, you can bet your life I will not make the same mistake again. This has become a larger issue than the eating. The eating may be at the root of it, it may be a collateral result of something else. I don't really know. Standing outside of the circle gives you a much clearer perspective on things.

I AM a loving husband. I expressed my love constantly in words. I believed what I was saying too. I was telling myself that everything I was doing, I was doing to keep them all happy. But I was doing it the same way I was eating to be happy. Satisfying the momentary desires at the cost of the future. I feel love. I say I love. My actions, however, were not expressing love. I can see that very clearly now. In the end, it was hurtful, not loving. Ask me if i regret that.

I'm sorry to be maudlin, but I'm in a glass case of emotion here.

[limey]

Originally Posted by lumberjim

thanks, Pooka.

Today, my mind is thinking of how I neglected that bond. If I get another chance, you can bet your life I will not make the same mistake again. This has become a larger issue than the eating. The eating may be at the root of it, it may be a collateral result of something else. I don't really know. Standing outside of the circle gives you a much clearer perspective on things.

I AM a loving husband. I expressed my love constantly in words. I believed what I was saying too. I was telling myself that everything I was doing, I was doing to keep them all happy. But I was doing it the same way I was eating to be happy. Satisfying the momentary desires at the cost of the future. I feel love. I say I love. My actions, however, were not expressing love. I can see that very clearly now. In the end, it was hurtful, not loving. Ask me if i regret that.

I'm sorry to be maudlin, but I'm in a glass case of emotion here.

Oh, I do hope that you all get another chance.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Sometimes tough love is better, although it's, well, tougher.
When you're not wealthy, but do have a large cash flow, it's easy to put things off thinking it'll work out. The squeals of delight, and adoration, produced by providing the "extras", are very intoxicating.

[LJ]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Sometimes tough love is better, although it's, well, tougher.
When you're not wealthy, but do have a large cash flow, it's easy to put things off thinking it'll work out. The squeals of delight, and adoration, produced by providing the "extras", are very intoxicating.

I should point out that jinx is ridiculously low maintenance. There were no baubles, or squeals of delight. She doesn't get hairdos or buy makeup or shoes or anything. I was in charge of the money and was not budgeting. I just figured I could simply make more.

I'm going to dummy up for a while now and concentrate on finding and repairing whatever hole I have inside me that I was trying to fill with food and other excesses. Thanks for the advice and reading tips.

I love you guys too.

[xoxoxoBruce]

I was thinking of the kids, like trampoline and such, but anyway, do what ever works for you and we'll be here when you get back.

[lumberjim]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

I was thinking of the kids...

ah. my apologies. I misunderstood.